yesterday I was able to masturbate and ignore my intrusive thoughts which was amazing!! felt like a big fuck you to my intrusive thoughts. my sex life is getting way better and I've been opening up to having more sex with my bf again.

Congratulations!

Well done

Soniclen, hey I have this same problem but it has gotten so much better. I’ve found mindfulness is super helpful, pay attention to what you’re feeling and hearing and when I thought pops into my head I’ll bring my attention back to what I’m feeling, without forcing the thought out of my head. It’s like if you get a thought during anything else, like doing the dishes, you’re supposed let it be there and focus your attention on what you’re doing. That’s what has been working for me, I couldn’t even have sex when the thoughts first started and I always felt icky doing anything sexual with my boyfriend. It’s gotten so much better though

Hey skyl. Well done. I could use your advice. When I’m in the OCD hole I get intrusive thoughts during sex. Same thing as you. And it makes masturbation and sex quite hard (or not so hard as, well, the WRONG type of arousal takes place). My problem is I find certain acts get mixed up with unwanted thoughts involving the same acts. Do you just stay with it? Do you just let it be there and carry on until it goes on it’s only or do you gently refocus? Which have you found works better?