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I’ve been there . It’s a question many of us ask especially those of us that battle with OCD, and it grips our minds at times. One thing that I learned to do is let it go and trust God. I’m a Christian , so in regard to my belief system I had to learn to be okay with placing my faith in Jesus and leaving it there. In regard to specific ERP around this topic , maybe one of the NOCD advocates can give a better answer. Hope this helped a little.
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Thank you, it helps to know I’m not alone. I have been researching religion a little bit more, I’m pretty spiritual, but with a busy life with kids and the pandemic it’s been hard to feel connected to those things. I have one parent who’s Jewish and one who is Christian, neither especially religious. Maybe a good time to look into those religions and see if anything clicks for me.
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@Kuan462 Thats a good idea guided meditation helps me sometimes
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I have the same problem I understand your pain its awful thinking about the future and that someday we are going to die I hope we both can live in the moment someday and I know that day will come
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I hope that for us too, I think the pandemic triggered this distorted thinking for me. It’s hard to feel connected to the world when you are so isolated! (Right now in my area it’s rough)
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Sure. I mean, entire religious doctrines and schools of philosophy have been dedicated to that very question. There’s nothing out of the ordinary about having them, but it’s just what your OCD attaches to. I’d caution trying to research the subject to arrive at some “answer”, because there can’t really ever be a 100% guaranteed conclusion one way or the other. Me, personally, I’m fairly confident there is no afterlife nor deity of any sort. However, that’s a conclusion I’ve made based on the evidence and not something I can “know” for sure. Researching a religion or ideology to try and figure it out with certainty is a compulsion.
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Thanks for clarifying that for me. I do think I sometimes get lost in my OCD and don’t realize that maybe these thoughts are intrusive and the drive to find answers are compulsions. My intrusive thoughts prior to this were never of this nature, so this is new for me - and super unpleasant! I’m hoping to be able to label the thoughts as intrusive and try not to give in to the compulsion of delving deeper into them
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@Kuan462 If it feels urgent, if you can’t let it go, if you feel the need to seek answers or research, if you feel distress that you can’t know...it’s probably OCD driving it.
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@NOCD Advocate - Carl Cornett That’s exactly how it feels, the thoughts cause me to cry and feel emotional, then I’m googling spirituality and trying to find answers, it ruins my mood and hinders my happiness .. makes it hard to be present with my kids which is the worse part. Labeling this as a function of my OCD helps already
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@Kuan462 This is why mindfulness is such a great tool. It helps you examine something accurately. Not the content of a particular thought or going down the rabbit hole, but seeing it for what it truly is. “Ah, I’m distracted. I’m feeling urgency. I’m fearful right now.” And practicing letting that feeling be felt rather than analyzed.
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@NOCD Advocate - Carl Cornett Wow that makes a lot of sense, thank you for the insight. This is definitely a challenging time for me; pandemic, lots of adjustments (college student), kids are home from school. Probably why it’s flaring up. I appreciate this, thanks so much
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@Kuan462 Any time!
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- 18w
Of course we can’t stop the inevitable but with my ocd it’s all I can think about. I’m afraid I’ll be alone for ever and I’ll fear forever. Fear does not stop death it stops life. But how do I stop fear??? I can’t think of anything scarier than the fact that our conscious will vanish for eternity. I am only 20 years old but I mean the last 5 years flew by like nothing.
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- 16w
I used to get caught in a loop with existential thoughts very frequently. Every question made my stomach drop: (TW: existential questions) … … ... "Why does anything exist at all? What will death be like? Is anything even real? Is there any meaning to this? Is the universe infinitely big, and if not, what's beyond it? Are there multiverses? Has the universe been around forever? Will the universe end for good, or will it keep going forever? What is forever like? What even IS reality?" It would get so overwhelming that I remember lying on the floor in a fetal position for hours because I felt like there was no escape. I spent most of my days reading articles and watching videos about theoretical astrophysics and philosophy in a desperate attempt to "figure it all out." Of course that only made me more anxious, raised more questions, and kept me trapped in the cycle. Things started to improve once I learned to turn TOWARD reality, rather than away from it, and ERP really helped me do that. I learned that these questions weren't the problem. I learned that I can actually handle the anxiety that arises when exposed to these ideas and concepts. I don't have to figure anything out to make the anxiety go away; it arises and passes away on its own. Ironically, bringing myself into the present moment and becoming more aware of reality helped me escape the cycle of existential dread. Because of that, this topic no longer takes over my life. If I'm triggered by something I see, hear, or think, I may still feel a little twang of anxiety, but then it just goes away. "Maybe, maybe not" has been the single most useful phrase of my life. Do you ever get trapped in a cycle of existential questions? Are you worried that the ERP approach would be too scary to handle? If so, I'm happy to give my advice.
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- 13w
so i have ocd but this is the main theme ive been dealing with for the last few months, im obsessed with my mortality and i feel trapped by the reality of death. i dont really believe in an afterlife which makes it scarier, not that i dont wanna my brain literally just wont let me. but i have daily panic attacks thinking about death all day, its honestly the toughest thing ive ever dealt with. does anybody have any tips on how they manage this if they have ever dealt with it? not looking for reassurance, just some non compulsive ways to kind of lessen the grip of the fear.
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