- Username
- Jaxiju
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This sounds like advice from a person who doesn’t understand OCD. I like to think there’s a difference between feelings being “real” and “true”. OCD makes me feel a lot of feelings and sensations that are real and exist but that doesn’t mean they have any truth about me and what I want (my theme is ROCD AND SOOCD) People have feelings that don’t align with who they are all the time! It’s ridiculous that this woman wants everyone to unpack every single feeling and sensation a person might have. Honestly I’d stray from getting advice from people who don’t have any understanding of what OCD can do to a person and how it tricks you.
It’s also possible that she meant that people with OCD tend to try to push away the false feelings that OCD tricks them with and in that case I kinda understand what she might have been saying? Like we aren’t supposed to push the feelings away just disregard them as false and let them pass naturally either way that’s not how she said it and honestly i understand why that would be so triggering. It’s hard to find good specialists who really understand OCD! Hang in there :(
First of all, I'm sorry you went through another triggering experience. On one hand, it's a good thing to be exposed to other people's opinions because it teaches you to rely on yourself rather than someone else's perspective in terms of OCD. It's a good exposure. On the other hand, it is still damaging because those of us with OCD take every word as truth from other people. We think that they must have figured out something that we, ourselves, haven't figured out yet. This is not true. If I had to guess, this particular person has no true understanding of obsessive compulsive behavior. Hypnotherapy is a freudian method, which relies HEAVILY on the meanings of thoughts. OCD needs the OPPOSITE of this method. It is NOT the best form of treatment to put OCD patients through hypnotherapy, as it only makes us feel more insecure and doubtful. What we use instead is called exposure response and prevention. This is derived from early classical conditioning and operant conditioning, wherein behavior is changed through facing fears and establishing new connections away from the fear. That process is called extinction. In short, we must put our thoughts through extinction through exposure. What I've noticed is that there are many therapists without proper understanding of OCD and treatment for patients. Take this person's advice with a grain of salt and learn to accept that there is a possibility that she is right, but deep down inside, you must acknowledge that you have OCD and it causes a lot of confusion and doubt within you. It takes so much effort to go through what you go through. Be kind to yourself and recognize how your brain works :) and stay off of platforms that do not have specialization in OCD!!! Have a great night.
thank you so much! I really appreciate that!!
thank you so much for your response @Kymyland ... the perspective in your second response is really interesting. ...The bio of the womans’ profile included: Counselor, Past Life Regression, Healer
Trigger warning: therapy/ false diagnosis worry. Haven’t posted in a while as things have been looking up, but I went back to CBT today and the latest worries I’ve had my therapist said don’t fit into “OCD categories” and are more ‘what if’ anxiety worries or low self esteem/ self critical thoughts .... my intrusive thoughts seem most distressing and real in times of high anxiety and that’s when I struggle to let them go and take them seriously. Now I’m worried that they were all real, including sexual/ violent/ immoral ones and that I thought I had OCD and I don’t. I thought I was part of a community of people going through the same thing but maybe I’m just a monster if my thoughts don’t even fit the standard OCD pattern :( Anyone feel the same way?
TW!! POCD Please help. I’ve been doing decent lately but just need support on something that has kept me stuck. I can’t tell if this is a real memory or not, but I’m pretty sure it is. Maybe distorted. But feels so real. And I’m terrified. Last year before my huge OCD spike. So before I even knew I had OCD. I remember being around kids at work, and this girl in a skirt was on a climber on the playground and I remember looking up and you could see her underwear. I remember staring for a minute, and it was kind of like a car accident, I couldn’t look away. I remember finally coming to my senses and saying I wonder what people would think if they knew I was doing this. After that, I completely forgot about it until my spike in October and I’ve been living in a prison of regret and guilt ever since. I sometimes see that child at work still and I get a rush of anxiety and guilt. I just don’t know how to move pass this, for this reason it gives my OCD proof that I am what I fear so much. Is it possible that I was experiencing intrusive thoughts then and just didn’t care enough or realize it. I’m so broken from this. I hate what I’m going through. I hate myself if this memory is real.
Hi guys. I posted a few days ago but I didn’t get a response and I was wondering if anyone could take the time to read this below. I would really appreciate some advice because it’s something that I don’t feel I have a lot of knowledge about. And knowledge he power as they say. Thank you ❤️ Why does intrusive thoughts feel so real? I had an intrusive thought/fake ‘feeling’ about another guy I know who I used to date before my current boyfriend who is everything to me. And it felt like a real ‘feeling/emotion’. Why does this happen? Then I worry about my actions whilst ‘feeling’ that way
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