- Date posted
- 4y
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
This sounds like advice from a person who doesn’t understand OCD. I like to think there’s a difference between feelings being “real” and “true”. OCD makes me feel a lot of feelings and sensations that are real and exist but that doesn’t mean they have any truth about me and what I want (my theme is ROCD AND SOOCD) People have feelings that don’t align with who they are all the time! It’s ridiculous that this woman wants everyone to unpack every single feeling and sensation a person might have. Honestly I’d stray from getting advice from people who don’t have any understanding of what OCD can do to a person and how it tricks you.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
It’s also possible that she meant that people with OCD tend to try to push away the false feelings that OCD tricks them with and in that case I kinda understand what she might have been saying? Like we aren’t supposed to push the feelings away just disregard them as false and let them pass naturally either way that’s not how she said it and honestly i understand why that would be so triggering. It’s hard to find good specialists who really understand OCD! Hang in there :(
- Date posted
- 4y
First of all, I'm sorry you went through another triggering experience. On one hand, it's a good thing to be exposed to other people's opinions because it teaches you to rely on yourself rather than someone else's perspective in terms of OCD. It's a good exposure. On the other hand, it is still damaging because those of us with OCD take every word as truth from other people. We think that they must have figured out something that we, ourselves, haven't figured out yet. This is not true. If I had to guess, this particular person has no true understanding of obsessive compulsive behavior. Hypnotherapy is a freudian method, which relies HEAVILY on the meanings of thoughts. OCD needs the OPPOSITE of this method. It is NOT the best form of treatment to put OCD patients through hypnotherapy, as it only makes us feel more insecure and doubtful. What we use instead is called exposure response and prevention. This is derived from early classical conditioning and operant conditioning, wherein behavior is changed through facing fears and establishing new connections away from the fear. That process is called extinction. In short, we must put our thoughts through extinction through exposure. What I've noticed is that there are many therapists without proper understanding of OCD and treatment for patients. Take this person's advice with a grain of salt and learn to accept that there is a possibility that she is right, but deep down inside, you must acknowledge that you have OCD and it causes a lot of confusion and doubt within you. It takes so much effort to go through what you go through. Be kind to yourself and recognize how your brain works :) and stay off of platforms that do not have specialization in OCD!!! Have a great night.
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- 4y
thank you so much! I really appreciate that!!
- Date posted
- 4y
thank you so much for your response @Kymyland ... the perspective in your second response is really interesting. ...The bio of the womans’ profile included: Counselor, Past Life Regression, Healer
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- 22w
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- Date posted
- 22w
False memory OCD is such a pest. It’s really hard to deal with the feelings of certainty and anxiety, trying to discern if things are false memories or real memories, what if they’re real memories, what if my OCD is right, what if because my OCD was right about one thing it’s also right about this thing, what if it knows something I don’t or haven’t realized yet, what if the real memory it’s taking from is actually false and the false memory is true. And it’s worse because the theme and false memory is so high stakes and it’s terrifying to consider what if it’s actually true and the consequences, but that only feeds the OCD, and it doesn’t help that I keep mentally prodding at it to see if the feelings of certainty are still there. It makes the false memories seem so real, and it’s like it wants me to admit the false memory actually happened when I don’t know that it did, and I’ll never know. I try to sit with the uncertainty but my OCD makes this feel so real and it creates so much certainty that this did happen that it’s so hard to keep telling myself that I don’t know, that this could be a real memory or it might not be and I’ll never know, and to remember that this came up a few days ago and I was pretty sure it was a false memory and I was handling it. Like remembering the false memory made it an actual memory. I have no idea if any of this makes any sense - it’s getting so meta lol. Reading all of this, it’s no wonder it’s so hard to sit with the uncertainty about if it’s a real memory or false. It’s been on my mind over the last week, too, which probably doesn’t help things, because the deeper I try to delve into it, the more complicated it becomes, and trying to point out that logically, it doesn’t make any sense, doesn’t help because my OCD comes up with scenarios and what-ifs and ways that this could have happened. It’s really tough to sit with when my OCD is so convinced this is true and it wants me to be convinced, too. I could really use some support, validation, encouragement, anything. If you made it this far, thanks for reading - please take care of yourselves. ❤️🤗
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 20w
Can it feel like you literally remember a false memory happening? And it feels like the memory has always been there and you vividly remember it happening that way? Because I don’t even know if I’m experiencing a false memory or not but god it feels so fucking real. Like I literally remember it happening. But what’s weird is the original memory was kind of different. 2 years later, the memory is not the same, but it feels like I literally remember it happening. And in this memory, I’m fucking snapping. I’m acting on my thoughts. I feel like a fucking psycho. I hope this is just OCD
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