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- 4y
This sounds like advice from a person who doesn’t understand OCD. I like to think there’s a difference between feelings being “real” and “true”. OCD makes me feel a lot of feelings and sensations that are real and exist but that doesn’t mean they have any truth about me and what I want (my theme is ROCD AND SOOCD) People have feelings that don’t align with who they are all the time! It’s ridiculous that this woman wants everyone to unpack every single feeling and sensation a person might have. Honestly I’d stray from getting advice from people who don’t have any understanding of what OCD can do to a person and how it tricks you.
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- 4y
It’s also possible that she meant that people with OCD tend to try to push away the false feelings that OCD tricks them with and in that case I kinda understand what she might have been saying? Like we aren’t supposed to push the feelings away just disregard them as false and let them pass naturally either way that’s not how she said it and honestly i understand why that would be so triggering. It’s hard to find good specialists who really understand OCD! Hang in there :(
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- 4y
First of all, I'm sorry you went through another triggering experience. On one hand, it's a good thing to be exposed to other people's opinions because it teaches you to rely on yourself rather than someone else's perspective in terms of OCD. It's a good exposure. On the other hand, it is still damaging because those of us with OCD take every word as truth from other people. We think that they must have figured out something that we, ourselves, haven't figured out yet. This is not true. If I had to guess, this particular person has no true understanding of obsessive compulsive behavior. Hypnotherapy is a freudian method, which relies HEAVILY on the meanings of thoughts. OCD needs the OPPOSITE of this method. It is NOT the best form of treatment to put OCD patients through hypnotherapy, as it only makes us feel more insecure and doubtful. What we use instead is called exposure response and prevention. This is derived from early classical conditioning and operant conditioning, wherein behavior is changed through facing fears and establishing new connections away from the fear. That process is called extinction. In short, we must put our thoughts through extinction through exposure. What I've noticed is that there are many therapists without proper understanding of OCD and treatment for patients. Take this person's advice with a grain of salt and learn to accept that there is a possibility that she is right, but deep down inside, you must acknowledge that you have OCD and it causes a lot of confusion and doubt within you. It takes so much effort to go through what you go through. Be kind to yourself and recognize how your brain works :) and stay off of platforms that do not have specialization in OCD!!! Have a great night.
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- 4y
thank you so much! I really appreciate that!!
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- 4y
thank you so much for your response @Kymyland ... the perspective in your second response is really interesting. ...The bio of the womans’ profile included: Counselor, Past Life Regression, Healer
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- Date posted
- 25w
Can it feel like you literally remember a false memory happening? And it feels like the memory has always been there and you vividly remember it happening that way? Because I don’t even know if I’m experiencing a false memory or not but god it feels so fucking real. Like I literally remember it happening. But what’s weird is the original memory was kind of different. 2 years later, the memory is not the same, but it feels like I literally remember it happening. And in this memory, I’m fucking snapping. I’m acting on my thoughts. I feel like a fucking psycho. I hope this is just OCD
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- 24w
I’m reaching out for educational and self-awareness purposes, hoping to better understand something I’ve been mentally struggling with for several years. Around five years ago, I began having a deeply distressing memory involving the fear that I may have acted inappropriately toward my younger sister when I was around 13–14 years old. The details are vague, fragmented, and unclear—but ever since this thought first appeared, I’ve treated it as if it were a real event. I’ve carried immense guilt, fear, and anxiety for years, convinced that I must have done something horrible. Despite asking my sister (who remembers absolutely nothing, has never shown signs of discomfort, and has told me more than once that she would’ve spoken up if anything had happened), the doubt and guilt never went away. The memory feels real, yet there is no external confirmation, no direct recall, and no evidence beyond my own mental images and fear. I’ve also struggled with obsessive thoughts in other areas, such as health anxiety since childhood—frequent doctor visits, checking my pulse, obsessing over illness—and only recently learned about false memory OCD, which aligns with my experience. I’m not currently seeking therapy but would greatly appreciate your professional opinion from an educational perspective: Does this sound more like a real memory, or more likely a false memory created by OCD or anxiety-related mechanisms I am stuck between a normal person or a s*xual abuser
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- 18w
I would really appreciate it so much if someone took the time to read this and help me. I don’t know what to do anymore. I haven’t posted here in awhile. I had my OCD managed pretty decently for a year or so on medication, but I had to stop taking it, and after around 3-4 months, the OCD has become unbearable again. It used to be much more surrounding existential themes, eating, and others, not really real event/false memory stuff. But now it’s gotten really out of hand and I don’t know how to do it anymore. It’s surrounding a time of my life a long time ago. It was a dark time. I wasn’t myself and I was going through a lot of things, and I did a lot of things I regret. I self-destructed, embarrassed myself, and wasn’t good to the people around me. I was able to get my mind off of it for a long time, even though I would still think about it a good amount. I was able to be in the present, at least moreso than now. But now that I’m off medication, the guilt has become my obsession again. I can’t move on. I can’t do anything without thinking about all of these memories. I’m obsessed. I’ve started hating myself again, so much so that it’s hard to do anything anymore or believe I deserve anything good. The people around me tell me it wasn’t even that bad, but to me it was. To me, I failed myself, lost myself, and failed everyone around me. I can’t stop thinking about every person I said something wrong to or every time I screwed up. I’ve now started to convince myself I did terrible things I can’t remember, and that my mind just can’t deal with it. And that’s why I feel so guilty. There’s nothing to really support this though. But I’m starting to really convince myself that’s true. I’m trying not to listen to it, because I’ve convinced myself I have hit people with my car before and haven’t remembered when I absolutely didn’t and I know I never have. I drive back over and over to check there’s no one, even though I never heard any bang or felt myself anything. I can convince myself of some crazy false memories. So I know that I shouldn’t listen. But it’s hard not to when I have this guilt gnawing at me constantly. I come to conclusions that this guilt must be because I did something terrible that I don’t remember, even though I already think the things I remember were bad enough. But I would know by now right? If I did something bad I don’t remember? I don’t feel like this all the time. But it’s a lot of the time. But maybe that should be reassuring, that I only start obsessing like this when I think to. The past haunts me though. And I can never be in the present. I’ve started to resort to some unhealthy behaviors to distract myself or help me work towards something. I am starting to hate myself so much and feel like there’s no way I’ll ever be able to get out of this loop. I feel like I just can’t do this anymore. Maybe I need to go back on medication. But I don’t know. I don’t really want to. But will I ever fix this without it? Why do I feel SO guilty, all of the time? I do all these things for people because I feel indebted to them, because I feel undeserving of everything. I feel awful about myself. I don’t know what to do. Does anyone else deal with this?
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