garden
- Date posted
- 4y
aurokoiaurokoi
- Date posted
- 4y
I used to experience this a year back, I know how uncomfortable it is. The theme never really ‘stuck’ for me but I understand how you feel to an extent
feethebeefeethebee
- Date posted
- 4y
im struggling with the same thing and it has really stuck. and it's towards my father (i feel like throwing up saying this). it's more than uneasy and i feel so sorry you have to go through this, but i want to let you know that you're not alone.
garden garden
- Date posted
- 4y
Thank you. We will get through this! It’s stuck for me too
Anonymous1Anonymous1
- Date posted
- 4y
When you think about If he wasnt your brother, maybe you wish you were an only child or that maybe you wished you have a different brother than him? lol. Have you thought, maybe dating a guy that's better looking than your brother? Lol if you decide to date or just hang out with few guy friends, maybe that can help you take your mind off on these bad thoughts, perhaps🤷♀️In case of jeousies, have you ever thought about it could be you may have self-doubts, or difficulty sometimes loving yourself, or maybe you have low self esteems when you see your brother? These are other possible triggers that may cause you to have fears or intrusive thoughts - not just that 1 bad thought. Our obsessions can lie to us also. I have contamination obsessions & it took me a long time, over 5 years to finally find a right therapist in 2020.
garden garden
- Date posted
- 4y
I do have low self esteem! But I don’t think that ties into this theme for me too much. I’m mostly just scared that if he wasn’t my brother, and just a stranger in my school or something, I would have a crush on him. That’s just terrifying to me 😣
Anonymous1Anonymous1
- Date posted
- 4y
These could be intrusive thoughts coming to you against your will. You may also have some jealousy associated with other triggers. The jealousy may happen if there are a lot of girls around him & chasing after him. Maybe you fear that you will lose the close bond with your brother (sibling bond). You may also have fears, that you & your brother will hang out less & not be as close sibling friends as you used to be. Have you thought about talking to a therapist about these triggers & fears? If you decide to give a therapy a chance, the terrifying anxieties could be reduced, & then there will be less need, or even no need to act on these possible obsessions. Therapists will also have resources for coping skills. Hope this information can be helpful.
garden garden
- Date posted
- 4y
Thank you! I actually don’t have a therapist right now but would like to find one this year. Idk this fear always just trips me up. I don’t feel particularly jealous of the girls in his life (and if I am, it’s because they’re pretty and I wanna BE them, not be with him lols). But yeah it’s just the constant question of ‘what if he wasn’t my brother’.
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