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Here are my thoughts. You said that he doesn't understand that your thoughts are OCD thoughts but as of my experience OCD thoughts are just thoughts all people get through their life the difference is how much we obsess about them. Anybody in a relationship might get that similar thought. And it would be hard for a person without OCD to feel what you would feel. Heck i didn't understand what was wrong with me when i went through it but now i am over it and know better i would say any normal person can fall into that circle. It's all good as long he is sympathetic with you when you tell him you going through bad thoughts, you don't need him to understand how exactly it is bothering. At the end you are the only one who can help urself
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You are right, thank you for being so helpful. I agree, there are no ocd thoughts. And of course, I am aware that it is not his responsibility to get me out of the loop, I just would appreciate having more support and understanding. Thank you for replying :)
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- 4y ago
Sorry I made a hell of a lot of typos
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- 4y ago
agreed ! a month ago i had a panic attack sober bc i used to get them high . needless to say i don’t hang out with bad influences anymore . i was also taking my friends birth control that was a high dosage . so unsafe . so i had a panic attack december 18th and it made me fear death so i have harm ocd rn . before hand i was always down to try new things i didn’t fear anything really . it really can happen to anyone
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- 4y ago
but i’m doing therapy for ocd !
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as of last week
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Thank you for sharing your experience my dear. Thank you for your words. I'm wishing you the best. Hugs
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- 4y ago
@JennyJ same to you thank you so much . the birth control has made my hormones go everywhere and the weed gave me so much fear . for as long as i could remember i always had the mindset that nothing bad could ever happen to me i could never have ocd or any of those fears but it happened and that’s perfectly fine
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@JennyJ My hormones play tricks on me too. I see you. I see what you mean. Know you have my support and you are not alone in your journey.
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@JennyJ thank you so much
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