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Just a thought-but it sounds like that is a toxic relationship that maybe isn’t good for you?
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I am incredibly sorry you’re going through this. No one should be treated like that!
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Yeah i honestly think that isnt healthy for anyone but especially for people like us with anxiety disorders.
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I agree with BigRuss
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This may sound like a stupid question, but I have to ask it. Have you talked to him about how things need to change?
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@ Mij I’m glad to hear you’re talking. I really hope he reciprocated and thar your relationship gets back on track ❤️
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He has disorders of his own and for a long time we were building off each other (positively). Really growing together. About a month after I had our daughter, his energy shifted. He’s under stress and it is turning toxic. Should I wait and trust he’ll go back to the way he was before shit hit the fan?
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Of course. We all know how horrible this is to live with ?❤️
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Sometimes it's difficult for someone, especially someone so close to you like you fiancé to understand what ocd is about and the effect it has on our lives. I had the same problem, he didn't get so mad but he would get frustrated. After cooling off and having a good cry haha by myself he would come back and we would talk. I explained to him that in order for us to work out he has to accept my ocd as a part of me atleast for the time being, especially when things was super difficult. After about a year I went through a rough patch with my ocd to the point where I was borderline psycotic because of delusions... he was there for me all the way through. Although I later found out he did something I was against ? which helped him cope I guess. No excuse but it's water under the bridge. Today he understands more, it just took time. I'd say if you have a fiancé you can talk to do it! If he never gets to the point of understanding and keeps on getting aggresive like that it will not work. I believe we don't need extra stress in our lives, we need support. If you are under severe pressure because of ocd and him not understanding, youre mental health will suffer.
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@Dalisay You’re probably the first success story I’ve heard as far as OCD and relationships go. I relate to the situation you described. In the name of anonymity, I’m curious to ask what your man did to ‘cope’ that you disapprove of? We don’t see eye to eye with coping habits either, which is a problem since we both have issues that demand coping devices..
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I suggest leaving the relationship before he puts you and your baby in harm's way.
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I know it's not that easy, but shelters are always there and the police exist if something goes out of hand. Take care
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Mij well he watched porn, during a very difficult patch, but we had normal relationship issues too and a yeah he's a man. It's such a stupid reason for him to have watched porn to cope. To me porn is cheating, so we had a huge fight and I almost left him. I believe after this he will cope better, I hope he will cope better if my ocd gets out of hand again. That was the wrong coping mechanism. We do yoga and meditation together now, so I hope you and you're love get a way through this really. If he loves you he will work on it with you, be a team.
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And thanks to everybody that replied- I’ve never opened up about OCD’s effect on my love life, I’m grateful for the immediate support..
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@catlady we talk a lot. I encourage him to be very open because I try my best to be. I can’t guarantee it’s reciprocated though.
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