Does anyone else with ROCD have the compulsion to tell their partner every single thing they think they’ve done wrong and if not they think they will betray their partner of some sort? And if so, how do you deal with this? I don’t want to keep confessing to my boyfriend all these silly things that aren’t silly to my ocd and make me feel guilty x

Yes, it’s only natural to feel that urge but remind yourself why do you want to do that. Remind yourself that there is nothing to confess, don’t give it more importance than it has! By confessing you’re just making it worse because it’s your way of seeking reassurance and that never helps. So next time you want to “confess” something, stop for a moment, be aware of the thought and your surroundings, remember where you are, what you’re suffering from and refrain yourself from doing it. You can do it!

So true @lanamibo! Thank you! Should I tell myself the same thing if it’s an wrong action I feel I have committed against my boyfriend? I feel I commit these ‘opposite actions’ because of my intrusive thoughts! And that is my main issue with my ocd. It’s been tearing apart my life for 5 years now ? x

Can you explain to me a bit more what you mean by wrong action and opposite actions?

I feel like if I’m anxious and have an intrusive thought e.g. about saying something that could come across as flirty to a guy over the bar where I work, a lot of the time I end up saying it anyway and then feel so guilty for it and I know I didn’t want to say that. That’s just a rough example x

Ugh, I hate when that happens to me too. I completely understand you but it’s normal we just put so much pressure on ourselves and see everything as a potential threat to our relationship when in reality everyone flirts with other people and talk to guys and that doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner. So to answer your question, yes you should definitely be aware of those situations too as just a part of the ocd and treat them as such meaning don’t confess because there is nothing to confess. Honestly, with all those confessions you’re just putting unnecessary pressure on your partner and your relationship and that’s the last thing you want to do. All in all it’s your war and ocd is hard because in a way we must overcome ourselves and our fears and insecurities and that takes time and patience and understanding. So practice to sit through your compulsion which is obviously “confessing” and just tell yourself that you are strong enough that you can do it and remind yourself of your condition. If you’re not seeing therapist I would wholeheartedly recommend you find one and in the meantime watch some youtube videos on this topic. You should check out: Awaken into love, Mark Freeman, Ali Greymond. Hope all this helps. Take care! ?

I totally understand what you’re saying! Thank you so much! You’ve really helped and I do feel calmer. I have been looking for local therapists and have found one who specialises in cbt but not necessarily OCD. I used to see a private therapist yet the didn’t think their approach was going to be helpful to me which was disheartening but I appreciated their honesty. I wish you all the luck in the world on your journey! Thanks again ☺️

Keep looking, there must be one which can help you! Thanks, you too and keep us posted ?