- Username
- Ben84
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I recommend doing what Bailey said. Social media is very toxic and people portray the best images of themselves. I know how hard it is to stop comparing yourself--ive been doing it my whole life. Maybe try spending some quality time with yourself, take a road trip and just go somewhere where you know no one and there's no expectations on yourself. That's what I like to do :)
You’ve been in/are in a transition phase. You have been working so much on your OCD and self that now your mind has time and efforts left to year for more. Maybe give yourself a chance where instead of gratitude, you journal about anything, including what you want and envy. Maybe some catharsis would be good. Then you can even use that positively to re-look at/re-establish your values, wishes, and short and long term goals. While with OCD we are so careful/worried when we notice those new, “bad” thoughts because we don’t want new compulsions, ignoring or denying an emotion is a great way for it to build to into an obsession. And you aren’t alone during that process. We’re a part of your support system! 💜💪🏼
Thanks 🙂
I quit social media for a year for this very reason. It's important to remember that people only show the highlights of their lives not the difficulties.
I agree with some of the commenters here; social media is very effective at eliciting jealousy. Taking a break might help. Doing some soul-searching and reflecting on values/motivations can be worthwhile as well, so long as this doesn't feed any unhealthy thought patterns. You might ask yourself why it is that you want what others have. What attracts you to their success? Do you value what they have? And if not, then what do you value? It's alright to feel a little envious at times...we all do...but knowing what your values/interests/passions are and celebrating them can help alleviate that a bit.
Hey I understand
Wow my wife frankly said something like that as well I don't like social media as well
So... nothing is really wrong in my life. I have a job, my own place, friends and family who love me. I have resources to support me. And in spite of all of this that I have been blessed with, I am unhappy, depressed, and have much fear. And sometimes, the smoke clears and I’m sitting here feeling horribly selfish. Has anyone felt this or maybe know why it’s this way? Part of me (probably the OCD) likes to be miserable. I cut for no reason sometimes... I just don’t know.
Whenever I laugh or try and live in the moment my mind flashes back to the past or things bothering me and reminds me that I shouldn’t be happy because of x y z. It’s really so depressing. I am 26 and I feel triple my age from stress. Even though I want to relax I dread going home at the end of the day because I’m afraid of what else I’ll remember or what new obsession I’ll have. I keep comparing myself to others saying no one would do what I have done everyone is better than me.
lately i’ve been comparing myself a lot to my friend and i find myself always falling short. i’m now at the point where i literally can’t think of one good quality in myself. she’s just really amazing? like good at everything kinda person. she’s one of the smartest girls, she’s funny, she’s confident, she’s a good friend etc. she has a solid family, a big house and good opportunities. beyond that she’s also quite mature / serious (when need be) and so she’s always taken seriously for her struggles. like she’s not the kind of person who would ever exaggerate or be showing it off for attention. i’ve always struggled with my self esteem but i still thought i was smart and stuff. it’s just, when i compare myself to her, i have no defining quality. like i’m just a watered down version. there’s nothing that makes me ‘me’. the only positive is probably my people pleasing tendencies (where i can see people’s needs well) and i guess my care for people but it’s not that she lacks those. she just doesn’t have to people please. and with my struggles too, i always worry she thinks i’m being dramatic. or over exaggerating, so i don’t even wanna confide in her anymore. and also, with this is particular, i can’t confide in her. all in all i’m just feeling so poor about myself. like i’m not good enough and never will be when she’s so great. i wish i had something about me that could make me feel special but there isn’t anything. all of this has been making me cry a lot lately. like i don’t wanna be myself anymore.
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