I've suffered ROCD in the past around my relationship but knew deep down I'm happy and I love my partner so much. However lately my family have been putting doubts in my head and planting seeds about who I should be with, what type of person I should be with. Which has caused a spiral of thoughts and doubts.Is it normal when suffering with OCD to then take these thoughts on board, I felt sick with worry all week and don't know how much longer I can go on feeling this guilty for the thoughts. A few days ago I trusted a friend and opened up to him and he made a pass at me which I said no, I now feel full of guilt and doubting why I put myself in that situation even though it was all innocent from my half. I feel sick with worry and would never hurt my partner. Just want to be happy with him.

I had to check your name to make sure I didn't write this. I'm the same, and before I got married, both my father.n.law and Mom told me a 2 different times, are you sure you want to marry. ..you can back out now...(as I was riding in my parents car) on the way to get married. ... I have thought about that off and on for years. I start to ruminate very badly, that I can barley pop out of it. Then I don't know and I question, maybe they knew something I didn't know, even tho at the time I was, why you say that!!! I'm perfectly fine getting married. 37 ys later I still think about it, over and over and over and over... its an awful thought process. I know in the deepest of my soul, I love him and want to be with him , but darn OCD doubting disease rears it ugly head, just when things are goibg great. Idk where I was going with this, but hang in there!!

It really is awful, I feel sick with guilt. Im new to this so I've replied in some comments further down too. I'm just really struggling

i’m also dealing with this :( you’re not alone.. it’s hard taking on ROCD and unhelpful family members.

It's horrible it really is I didn't need them to fill my head with doubts, I was fine before. Now my brain is doubting everything. Doubting if I've given off wrong impressions to the friend that I confided in for him to make a pass at me. Everything I feel sick with guilt even though I did nothing, it was my family putting doubts in my head that have made me spiral into these thoughts

@sassyunicornx i get you, i really do. you might not realize it but you’re ruminating right now. just try to take a deep breath, hydrate and try your best to relax. sometimes in order to conquer the demons.. you have to face them. i promise you’re not alone. you did nothing wrong <3

I went and confided in someone I shouldn't, he's twisted the whole story and now I'm doubting everything about myself and what happened where as I know deep down I did nothing wrong. It's 1am and I'm struggling to eat sleep, I just feel sick with guilt. My family should have never ever have filled my head with doubts knowing what I've suffered with in the past and for that I feel its unforgivable, this is why I'm in this situation now. I feel like it's best to focus on my relationship and prove the truth to him and distance myself from family members x

i’ve been in this situation, just know there is hope and it will pass. don’t talk to that person anymore, it will be hard but you should just remove any and all contact with that person. and ignore your family!!! you know what’s best for you and what you want <3 sending love to you!

I had no one to turn to, the two people closest to me were the ones being doubtful and nasty about my relationship I stuck by my guns and said I'm happy. I feel like I was in a vulnerable state, doubting everything because of how they made me feel, and now am regretting ever putting myself in the situation where I confided in a friend of the opposite sex.

It's so hard to confide in people who don't understand the ocd doubting disease. ... I swear some people really like to make things allot worse than they really are. ... as for your family, I think all families have "their" "ideal" of what and who their children and grown adult children should be like and who our friends are. It's so annoying., IMO as long as the person you're dating is safe , kind, gentle and understanding, then that's a good thing and keep getting to know him. Does he know you have OCD? ...

Yeah my partner knows I have OCD and is the most supportive I just feel so ridiculous and guilty for even doubting us based on other people's nasty opinions. It's really spiralled me. Like I said I went and confided in someone who was suppose to be my friend, he's taken it all wrong and twisted and lied and has now made everything worse for me

@sassyunicornx Yeah, there's nothing you can do now other than put out the fires if they circulate.. prob the best thing to do in the future is not say anything to that person , unfortunately , he sounds exactly like the person you don't want to be around or confide in. ... But who knew, he was goibg to be like that anyway... pretty sure this too, will pass. Don't give him any more info, not worth it. Imo, you caught him, he's the one who should be feeling bad for breaking trust. . ... just do nothing , sometimes that's the best thing. Hope you get some sleep soon. I always count sheep jumping over a fence starting 100 backwards. Lol