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- 3y
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If your therapist is an OCD specialist, they’ll understand and they’ll treat it like any other theme! They won’t judge you. Someone who’s not knowledgeable about OCD might ask you to analyze the thoughts, making OCD worse. If you’re extremely anxious about bringing this up, you can start by making it a broad hypothetical. “How do you help people with taboo themes? Even though I know I’m not a bad person, my thoughts make me worry that I am one or that other people will think I’m bad.” A good therapist will help you understand their process. They’ll understand how difficult it is to share about your obsessions, and they’ll work to help you feel more comfortable sharing.
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Thank you for your advice on this. I think I'll ask the question about how my therapist treats taboo thoughts.
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I was super worried about this. One of my major themes is Harm OCD. I just laid it all out there and watched my therapist's expression. It didn't even change. If you have a counselor who understands OCD, they have heard it all before. OCD is not your fault. No need to be embarrassed or a shape. If you aren't honest, they can't help you.
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Thanks. I'll try to lay it all out there. I think I'm afraid if I say that I'm anxious around BIPOC because I constantly worry about how I'm coming across, that my therapist will think I'm trash. I'll try to get over this fear and just tell them.
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@canigetawitness If they are familiar with OCD, they won't.
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Sorry, should be ashamed, not a shape. Stupid autocorrect
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I struggle with the same thing, though it isn’t my main theme. An OCD therapist will completely understand you.
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I was extremely nervous walking into my first therapy session with a BIPOC therapist...I was deeply afraid of offending her. I made up my mind that I would focus on my other distressing thoughts and I wouldn't say anything about the racial ones. That plan fell apart because I felt so comfortable around her...and she was so non-judgemental...that I melted and explained everything during the first session. She treated my thoughts like they were the least upsetting thing in the world and I felt extremely safe around her. I know it feels frightening, but the reality is that your therapist has heard it all. Very little is going to shock them. They're here to help you, and they won't judge you for having a disorder and struggling with distressing or confusing thoughts.
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- 19w
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- 18w
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