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Where was she coming from when she said that? I’m not sure it’s really her place to decide if he’s the right person for you or not. It’s also important to realize that he is not the cause of your OCD. So even if you don’t end up staying in this relationship, it isn’t going to magically cure your OCD, either. I think it’s very important to be with someone who can be understanding and supportive to you... does she think he is not these things?
Is she an ocd specialist? Bc if not then I recommend seeing another one who specializes in erp
Hm, I don’t think that’s her place to decide. Only the two of you could decide and know that. Take a deep breathe and maybe use this as practice of letting go fearful thoughts. Let them pass and accept uncertainty!
Oh wow. Unless he is doing something destructive toward you I don’t see where she can make that call.
A year ago I was an inpatient at the Meadows psychiatric hospital in state College. A therapist there told me that I didn’t really love my husband. It pissed me off so bad. But a year later my hubby and I are still together and he is very supportive of my recovery. Don’t listen to everything you hear.
I’m thinking about ditching her as my therapist actually. I don’t like her style at all and she doesn’t feel supportive, empathic or collaborative in her approach with me. This isn’t the first time she’s commented about him and honestly - she doesn’t know us. I think it’s harsh even if she thought it were true a better approach might be to give me tools for improving things with him! I complain a lot but cmon!!!
why would she say that? it might have been an exposure and she wants you to habituate
She said that because she thinks he doesn’t empathize with my condition enough (he gets angry when I blow up his phone and lashes out sometimes) and we are in a LDR and he travels for work, which means he’s avoidant. I feel so awful!! Yes she’s an expert with ocd but I think her approach is not helping it’s just making me more upset! Even the erp exercises she’s giving me feel way too traumatic...
@Anxiousashley that was one of my fears about starting therapy! I put it off for so long because of it. Such a horrible thing to say to someone, especially someone with OCD that might obsess over it. Ugh!
I’m just so beside myself. Yes the LDR and work travel are hard for my ocd but those are temp circumstances (he’s moving here and tapering off the work travel). And he’s working on trying to understand the ocd...
I kind of want to give her the benefit of the doubt and think that she was trying to expose you to ERP, but I think she should maybe have warned you before attempting exposure? Thats what mine does
I’d say your boyfriend is fine for you, and your therapist can’t empathize with him either bc she doesn’t understand why he’s feeling that way. I can understand that he gets angry and lashes out sometimes bc dating someone with ocd can cause stress on you and the other person. So I wouldn’t recommend listening to your therapist if she was serious. Next time you see her ask if that’s really what she thinks or if she was exposing you to your fears
She’s said it before so I am pretty sure it’s what she really thinks. She’s met him a couple times and thinks he needs therapy, we need to be in therapy together, he’s too self-absorbed, unempathetic and avoidant ??? which are all slightly true but I don’t think it’s as extreme as she’s making it out to be. She really thinks I’m so needy and shouldn’t be with him and yeah he can’t empathize with him (whereas I do, but then it sounds like I’m making excuses) ?
Ugh, I went to my therapist today and she said in the last minutes of the session: No, but who knows. Some people with forty years or something discover their sexuality is other. We are here to stop make you obsessing and worrying. The theme is not important, so who knows. And it's like "thaaaaank you", know Im afraid for all the week with this in my head. What a bad way of portraying it, seriously. I know it is true and that is okay, and I know who I feel about it but these thought only make my rumination go wild. In some way is important to choose your words. She is great and all but sometimes I CAN'T.
Anyone wanna help me with a little fact-checking? I had a horrible appointment with my family doctor today. She basically told me that my anxiety around my relationship and sex was not OCD, but a cry for help because I’m not in the right relationship. She said these things to me AFTER telling me she doesn’t know much about OCD and AFTER I told her I loved my fiancé and did not want to leave him. She pressured me to leave him to “find myself.” Honestly, she sounded like OCD personified. She also said that OCD is not an external force working against me, but a manifestation of thoughts and feelings I already have. Basically she said OCD is a way for me to express what I’m scared of feeling and that it’s a way to help me realize what I really feel. She said OCD doesn’t work against me from an external perspective, that it doesn’t “happen” to me and affect the way I feel and respond, but that it just brings those things to light. She said all that to say that my anxiety about my relationship with my fiancé and anxiety around my sexual orientation isn’t OCD, just anxiety because I’m in the wrong relationship and need to leave him. Any thoughts? The conversation truly sent me spiraling, and I will not be going back to her.
My worst nightmare came true ! I went to my doctors as my nocd therapist said I may do well on medication , despite being diagnosed with ROCD by my therapist and having every single symptom I’ve read about my doctor claims I don’t have ROCD and I am just in a relationship that probably isn’t right for me. I don’t agree with her I know deep down I love my boyfriend but this has caused me immense anxiety .
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