- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
you can absolutely do this! i know it’s hard especially with the anxiety constantly there trying to convince you otherwise, but you’re going to be fine!! Ive felt this same way but I usually find that once i’m in the moment the anxiety subsides…I know you can do this, rooting for you! 💕
aweee it’s all going to be okay! 🤍 if you are not ready for your first kiss, that’s okay! do it at your speed! and if you do and it’s awkward, then it’s awkward! i’ve had a lot of awful kisses and i look back and just laugh. everyone has had awkward kisses. i am a very awkward person and i embrace it. who wants to be perfect all the time! just try to enjoy yourself and have fun!! that sounds like an awesome date! you got this. stay safe 💖
It’s going to be just fine! It’s completely normal to be nervous but you have to imagine that he is also nervous too! If he tries to kiss you, let him lead and don’t over think it. Just relax and let the conversation flow and get to know eachother. Ask questions about school, life, family, pets ect. That sounds like he planned a really nice first date and sounds like a great guy! Good luck🥰🥰
Thanks for the advice guys!! I went and I had a lot of fun :) he didn't kiss me but he held my hand and put his arm around me and hugged me and that was all fine! He invited me to hang out on Saturday with him so I guess it must have gone well! I'm still nervous for if he kisses me mainly bc I haven't kissed anyone and I know he has and so I'm afraid he will think I'm weird for not having kissed anyone but I am going to take this as a win! You all calmed my nerves a lot though, so thanks :)
Yay!! I’m so happy for you 🥰
As everyone else has said you will be just fine. And speaking from a guys POV , it wouldn’t matter if you kissed like a walrus he’s gonna like it! Trust me on this! Now smile and go do your thing!
i’ve felt this same way before and in the moment the anxiety really does go away! if you’re ready for your first kiss then 100% go for it, don’t let your anxiety take it away from you! you got this, enjoy your date!!
Aw is normal to feel that way . Everything will be fine . Just enjoy the time and be natural. Good luck 🤞🏼
He won't use condoms due to ED, so I started taking birth control for him. He also refused to give oral until i let him inside me which was weird to me. Anyways, I went to his home at the weekend and it was very messy, tiny room, unclean. It annoyed me that he felt comfortable inviting me, knowing how tidy and spotless my house is, and it took me a few hours to get there on public transport. (I understand that rent is pricey and he travels a lot, but a toilet seat missing). He drives 5 hours to see me on some weekends but my place is always to a standard. Next thing, he always wants to be on top of me but it hurts me and he won't keep trying different positions, and says things like "I give up" then walks off to a different room and won't speak because I won't do it how he wants. I didn't wanna be in his house not speaking so I stayed with family last night. Am I out of order for leaving? first we had the protection issue, now the position issue plus his attitude. Makes me feel like im in the wrong for not letting him have what he wants after 5 months of talking and meeting. I thought once I started taking BC this would solve our problem but now it just feels like pressure, and he also says "you know what I'm doing" like I have some sort of game plan, when I would literally be happy kissing and touching because I love him. I can't figure out why he's so desperate for it, wouldn't he want to make me feel comfortable? This was the first time with him in his city, and he didn't wanna go out anywhere, not even to dinner. I don't ask for much
please ignore the typos its hard to type right now. fir context me and my partner are both 21 and have been together for well over a year now. a situation happened with my partner and it felt bad, but i verbalized my discomfort with what happened and we set boundaries and over time i made sure to emphasize that boundary. its just to ask before anything sexual even just grabbing my breast or butt. He's gotten better at remembering or immediately stopping and asking if he forgot for a second which i appreciate and see as a progress of breaking a habit that i was okay with previously but wasn't anymore. the other night, he was sitting on the ground while I was standing and didn't have pants on and was on my phone for a moment and he licked a little bit right below my stomach and I moved him away and got upset because he forgot to ask before hand. He apologized and recognized right as i moved him away that he forgot to ask before and he made sure that i was aware that he recognizes that he is in the wrong and gave me space to talk with him but i felt really bad and scared about if what just happened was assault or not. he feels awful, and i have an ocd theme centered around the worry that he has SAed me and it was really getting to me. He encouraged me talk to a hot line for mental health, as well as open up to my mom about the situation since she's experienced SA and I trust her to be there for me and protect me. She said she also truly believes he had absolutely no ill intent and crossed a boundary on accident, and i agree, but i still feel so bad and feel the need to figure this out and what to do next. i don't know how to navigate this and what if that means that I can't move on from this and if that means I shouldnt be in this relationship anymore. I want to talk to a therapist about how to navigate this but I have no access to one and won't for months. this feels awful and so scary. i feel distant and different about my future with my partner and I dont know if I can get past this or if i should. I also was groomed when I was younger and I guess im also scared of being naive and too trusting of someone again. but the fact that my partner encouraged me to talk to other people about this shows me that he cares about me and my well being and that it truly was an accident. please someone read this and respond, I need help.
Hi I kept seeing this app on repeat on TikTok over and over and I thought I give it a shot. I have never been diagnosed with OCD but I know that I have it. I’m a young adult and I found out the first time I had OCD was watching lelelons truth video? I was 14 at the time She had to resist sitting back down in a chair after her having sat down she started having a mental break down when she was told to resist. That’s when I knew. It started with myself going up and down a staircase twice buckling unbuckling my seat belt everytime I’m in the car ect I have always been super anti social but trying my best I can socialize but my mind wants to make it sexual with family and friends ughhhh I hate it because that’s not me when I graduated thoughts of hurting my loved ones corrupted my mind I broke down outside of church one time asking if this was really me or not i question if I’m a good enough friend or person in this world to begin with thinking everyone is judging me so so close how can I make this situation better did I do something wrong I struggle with depression as well not to bad but it’s there I come from a loving family but broken as well i believe in god and my OCD makes me go often he’s not real that stuff isn’t real no one is there to save you the list goes on. Anyway I struggle a lot and I really hope that this will help me because I feel extremely hopeless. Lucky for me I do have the ability to seek therapy and I am excited. The only person I ever tell my thoughts to is God no other human has heard so I’m really really hoping this helps me out if your reading this thank you it means a lot because this is my first time ever admitting all this it’s a lot to take in I know and I hope you are ok and that you have a great night and know that we got this
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