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- 3y
you can absolutely do this! i know it’s hard especially with the anxiety constantly there trying to convince you otherwise, but you’re going to be fine!! Ive felt this same way but I usually find that once i’m in the moment the anxiety subsides…I know you can do this, rooting for you! 💕
aweee it’s all going to be okay! 🤍 if you are not ready for your first kiss, that’s okay! do it at your speed! and if you do and it’s awkward, then it’s awkward! i’ve had a lot of awful kisses and i look back and just laugh. everyone has had awkward kisses. i am a very awkward person and i embrace it. who wants to be perfect all the time! just try to enjoy yourself and have fun!! that sounds like an awesome date! you got this. stay safe 💖
It’s going to be just fine! It’s completely normal to be nervous but you have to imagine that he is also nervous too! If he tries to kiss you, let him lead and don’t over think it. Just relax and let the conversation flow and get to know eachother. Ask questions about school, life, family, pets ect. That sounds like he planned a really nice first date and sounds like a great guy! Good luck🥰🥰
Thanks for the advice guys!! I went and I had a lot of fun :) he didn't kiss me but he held my hand and put his arm around me and hugged me and that was all fine! He invited me to hang out on Saturday with him so I guess it must have gone well! I'm still nervous for if he kisses me mainly bc I haven't kissed anyone and I know he has and so I'm afraid he will think I'm weird for not having kissed anyone but I am going to take this as a win! You all calmed my nerves a lot though, so thanks :)
Yay!! I’m so happy for you 🥰
As everyone else has said you will be just fine. And speaking from a guys POV , it wouldn’t matter if you kissed like a walrus he’s gonna like it! Trust me on this! Now smile and go do your thing!
i’ve felt this same way before and in the moment the anxiety really does go away! if you’re ready for your first kiss then 100% go for it, don’t let your anxiety take it away from you! you got this, enjoy your date!!
Aw is normal to feel that way . Everything will be fine . Just enjoy the time and be natural. Good luck 🤞🏼
Every time we go out together and it’s not just us it’s also our manager and her son and his (the guy I’m talking to) roommate. We went to church one time alone. But my thing is I keep overthinking “am I leading him on” I still don’t know what to feel just and I’ve never been in a relationship. When we see each other we hold hands and and hug but I don’t want to kiss just yet even though I get the feeling to because I want to take it very slow especially when. I’m constantly overthinking everything. We hang out and I’m having a good time and then I go home and overthink a lot. It’s worse when I’m overthinking when waking up. Has anyone else experienced this. Like we’re friends right now but does anyone think it’s to soon to be holding hands and hugging. We held hands the second time meeting because I’m aware I want to take things slow. When I see him I get happy. I keep seeking reassurance from my mom, sister and google (of course) and I keep seeing post that you shouldn’t lead someone on and you can’t force to like someone. I overthink and then I’m calm and the thoughts start again. I really don’t want to hurt this guy he is so sweet and caring
My feelings are everywhere at the moment and i can’t think straight. I’ve recently started talking to a boy and I’ve met up with him twice. He’s a lovely guy and I think I do like him but idk if I’m attracted to him atm he’s not really my exact type and that’s what’s driving me crazy because what if I’m in denial about my “sexuality” and I’m lying to myself? And I’m panicking like mad because everything is going so fast that I can’t think straight. I’ve never really been in this situation before. He’s also being really kind to me and I know he likes me so his intentions are clear but that’s what’s scary, whenever he messages me now I feel overwhelmed 😭 If anyone has experienced this could you share your experience? Thank you.
I'm worried I'm gonna get hurt. There is a guy I'm talking to and we plan to hangout soon. We have been talking for awhile and have talked at school. I have a few ex boyfriends, two to be exact. One turned out to be awful, but I found out early on because a bunch of women came to me with their concerns of how he creeper them out and used to send them weird messages, he also for awhile would have people message me to get me BACK MONTHS LATER. My other ex was a good guy, but extremely shy and bad with expressing feelings. It didn't feel like I was his girlfriend. That being said I now kinda assume (mainly from the awful guy) that everyone is gonna turn out to be awful and that I can't trust my judgement. This guy I got now knew stuff about ocd already, loves horror movies and art like me, loves cat, good with kids and has a little brother, he remembers little things I say and sends me pretty pictures of the sky and forests when he is out, he warns me when he is sleepy incase he falls asleep when we are texting at night, he knows alot about mental health. He is everything I could want and I just can't believe it's real, that someone like this exists and out of all people LIKES ME. My brain is telling me he could secretly be racist or homophonic or a rapist and I just don't know. My friend who barely knows him and has never spoken to him before but is good at reading people says he is 9 out of 10 percent sure he isn't any of those things. which considering they have never talked or anything it's good. But idk I don't trust myself. I'm scared he will crush my heart. I went through his following on insta to look for people of other races and sexualitys. He follows a girl who is a friend of a friend of mine who is gay, the smosh account and Ian Hecox, he follows Good Mythical Morning and Link (idk why not rhett), and I once joked that I was better then him and he said we are all equal and has said things like he doesn't Haye anyone we were all babies once and stuff like that. I wanna trust my self and my friend but idk.
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