- Username
- Anxiousaddie
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
you can absolutely do this! i know it’s hard especially with the anxiety constantly there trying to convince you otherwise, but you’re going to be fine!! Ive felt this same way but I usually find that once i’m in the moment the anxiety subsides…I know you can do this, rooting for you! 💕
aweee it’s all going to be okay! 🤍 if you are not ready for your first kiss, that’s okay! do it at your speed! and if you do and it’s awkward, then it’s awkward! i’ve had a lot of awful kisses and i look back and just laugh. everyone has had awkward kisses. i am a very awkward person and i embrace it. who wants to be perfect all the time! just try to enjoy yourself and have fun!! that sounds like an awesome date! you got this. stay safe 💖
It’s going to be just fine! It’s completely normal to be nervous but you have to imagine that he is also nervous too! If he tries to kiss you, let him lead and don’t over think it. Just relax and let the conversation flow and get to know eachother. Ask questions about school, life, family, pets ect. That sounds like he planned a really nice first date and sounds like a great guy! Good luck🥰🥰
Thanks for the advice guys!! I went and I had a lot of fun :) he didn't kiss me but he held my hand and put his arm around me and hugged me and that was all fine! He invited me to hang out on Saturday with him so I guess it must have gone well! I'm still nervous for if he kisses me mainly bc I haven't kissed anyone and I know he has and so I'm afraid he will think I'm weird for not having kissed anyone but I am going to take this as a win! You all calmed my nerves a lot though, so thanks :)
Yay!! I’m so happy for you 🥰
As everyone else has said you will be just fine. And speaking from a guys POV , it wouldn’t matter if you kissed like a walrus he’s gonna like it! Trust me on this! Now smile and go do your thing!
i’ve felt this same way before and in the moment the anxiety really does go away! if you’re ready for your first kiss then 100% go for it, don’t let your anxiety take it away from you! you got this, enjoy your date!!
Aw is normal to feel that way . Everything will be fine . Just enjoy the time and be natural. Good luck 🤞🏼
Is it normal to feel fear before starting your first relationship? There's this guy that I've become friends with, but the conversations that we have hint to something more. I can't help but think about what if he isn't the right one for me, or that it is nonesense to have a relationship right now because it will eventualy end and what's the point etc.
Anyone with HOCD/ROCD have any tips about going on a date when the thought of it makes you want to die of anxiousness? I’ve been talking to this guy on tinder who seems nice and everything but every time in the past that I’ve started talking to someone and say yes to a date, I literally cancel the next day cause I’m so deathly afraid. This isn’t even necessarily ocd’s fault I’ve always just been scared to death of this kinda thing but obviously having hocd, and what I believe is pre-rocd thoughts, make it seem literally impossible. But I WANT it. I think about having a boyfriend all the time. Ocd is so detrimental to everything you want it’s so frustrating. Ik- news flash haha. Anyways. Should I go? Is this bad timing- will I make everything worse for myself? He’s really cute and seems really nice. Jeez idk idk idk.
This kinda isn’t related to OCD but I just wanted to rant: Ok so my boyfriend asked me to hang out tomorrow and now I’m scared to. Ugh I’m so tired of this anxiety shit. I make up excuses and say I can’t hang out even though I want to. I think I have social anxiety, but when I don’t hang with him my anxiety isn’t bothering me. I just hate that feeling. I need help can anyone please give me some advice. I could really use it :(
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