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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/202104/what-do-when-partners-dont-feel-it-anymore Here’s a good article as well!
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Thanks!!!!
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Watching break up movies, writing imaginary scripts, let me know and I’ll go deeper in depth!
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I will be so thankful if you share more erp practices!!!
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@xqrsljk 1. Movies (Some movies iv watched so far ) •We broke up (Hulu) • Someone Great (Netflix) •A marriage story (Netflix) • Closer (Hulu) •Resort to love (Netflix) • You (Netflix) *Basically any movie regarding a break up, finding someone better, or just RomComs * 2. YouTube /scenes • someone great-Jenny’s letter to Nate (YouTube) •Jerry Maguire: It’s not how I am built (breakup scene YouTube) *If you don’t have time to watch a full movie you can look up break up scenes on YouTube * 3. Break up letters/ break up poems 4. Rocd scripts Ex. Mayb I don’t love (insert name here ) and write it down as many times as you need to Ex. “I can never know if (name) is the right person for me. We have been together for ____ years and there still might be another person out there that is a better fit for me than (name). Even though I enjoy his sense of humor and find that our values and plans for the future match, I might be making a horrible mistake. I may never know if I am settling or making the right choice.” 5. Recordings •Record yourself saying a fear or intrusive thought Ex. I am not attracted to (name) And play it over and over again Ex. “OCD will ruin my relationship “ Hope this helps! Remember OCD is the disorder of doubt. Let OCD tell you whatever it wants, just don’t try to solve it. The thoughts are not the problem. Your choice to take them seriously is the problem. The thoughts are not you and the scenario they present is not real. Just know you’re not alone! 😊
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@LoverGirl Thank you very much😊
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@xqrsljk Of course! We must help each other out!
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Also people I follow on Instagram that have helped: @Withawakenintolove ( Podcast & Youtube) @youloveandyoulearn @forloveweheal
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I follow them too, thank you😅
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Hey there, I just wanna ask - has doing this actually helped?
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@iri Yes it has ! Thought I still have ocd I will be marrying my high school sweetheart in a couple of weeks. No longer letting ocd get in the way! And neither should you!!
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I have just done writing script for the first time and feel so silly writing down the exact things I am terrified of. I guess I am so afraid that these thoughts are really true but I can see how doing this can help. Also, I am so f-ing tired. I would run away just because I feel like I can't do this anymore. It's exhausting and feel like I am constantly hiding and am not really present cause this nagging feeling that something is off and thought that I must break up is so loud. And I wonder... Is it possible for rocd to really go away or one just learns how to live with it and if second is true then I am also bit disheartened:/ Gosh, I am so jealous of people that are free from this. Sorry for long comment and thank you for your response ❣️
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I wanna hear you most extreme feeling you had from ROCD please I feel like I’m going insane
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any struggle with ROCD ? Any Christian’s ? Need some support
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I had just posted a summary of ERP for a group member, and I thought it might be useful for everybody. Here it is below (with a little extra added)…. ERP therapy is researched-based. Most other therapies don’t work. There have been people who have been literally stuck in their houses (from their OCD) who gained their lives back through ERP therapy. NOCD does ERP therapy exclusively. You can find it in other places too, but you have to ask around. There are two tenants of ERP therapy: The first one has to do with the repetitive thoughts inside our heads. These thoughts are actually defined as “obsessions”. You are not supposed to do anything with the obsessions. You are supposed to let them run through your head freely, without trying to fix them or stop them. Imagine a tree planted by a river. The leaves fall off and float down the river. You can see the leaves falling, but you don’t try to stop them or pick them up. You don’t try to fix them. You just let them float away. This is really important to do with your obsessive thoughts. The more you try to fight them off, the worse they get. I used to have blasphemous sentences running in my head 24/7. I felt like I had to put a “not” next to each sentence in order to “fix” it. But this just took hours of my time every day, and it was very scary, because I was worried that if I messed up, that I would go to hell. It was very freeing to learn later that I could just let those sentences run freely through my head without trying to fix them. The second part of ERP therapy is all about “denying your compulsions.” Every time OCD tells you that if you don’t do things a certain way that something really bad will happen, that is a compulsion. Once you recognize what your compulsions are, ERP therapy will have you practice stopping doing all of those things. For some people, that will mean stopping washing their hands or touching lights switches or, in my case, putting “fixing” words in their head. Compulsions are safety behaviors. During ERP therapy, you will practice stopping engaging with safety behaviors. All this is very hard to do and scary, so during therapy you will be given tools to help you deal with the fear. Often ERP therapy will take people from being non-functional to functional. I highly recommend it. ————————————————- PITFALL #1: After you have been doing ERP for a while and become somewhat successful, the OCD will try subtle little tricks to bring you down again. The first one is to tell you that your thoughts are REAL and not OCD, and therefore you can’t apply ERP therapy. Don’t fall for this trick! All thoughts are just thoughts. They are all meaningless. Don’t try to figure out what is real and what is OCD. Just treat all thoughts with ERP therapy. PITFALL #2: The second pitfall is that OCD will tell you that you can’t move forward unless you have absolute certainty that you will be safe. Hate to tell you this, folks, but there is no certainty in life. You will never know for SURE that you or your loved ones will be “safe” from the OCD rules. Therefore, you have to move forward in the uncertainty. It’s hard, but it gets easier with time and practice. We got this, guys !!!!!!
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