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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/202104/what-do-when-partners-dont-feel-it-anymore Here’s a good article as well!
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Thanks!!!!
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Watching break up movies, writing imaginary scripts, let me know and I’ll go deeper in depth!
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I will be so thankful if you share more erp practices!!!
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@xqrsljk 1. Movies (Some movies iv watched so far ) •We broke up (Hulu) • Someone Great (Netflix) •A marriage story (Netflix) • Closer (Hulu) •Resort to love (Netflix) • You (Netflix) *Basically any movie regarding a break up, finding someone better, or just RomComs * 2. YouTube /scenes • someone great-Jenny’s letter to Nate (YouTube) •Jerry Maguire: It’s not how I am built (breakup scene YouTube) *If you don’t have time to watch a full movie you can look up break up scenes on YouTube * 3. Break up letters/ break up poems 4. Rocd scripts Ex. Mayb I don’t love (insert name here ) and write it down as many times as you need to Ex. “I can never know if (name) is the right person for me. We have been together for ____ years and there still might be another person out there that is a better fit for me than (name). Even though I enjoy his sense of humor and find that our values and plans for the future match, I might be making a horrible mistake. I may never know if I am settling or making the right choice.” 5. Recordings •Record yourself saying a fear or intrusive thought Ex. I am not attracted to (name) And play it over and over again Ex. “OCD will ruin my relationship “ Hope this helps! Remember OCD is the disorder of doubt. Let OCD tell you whatever it wants, just don’t try to solve it. The thoughts are not the problem. Your choice to take them seriously is the problem. The thoughts are not you and the scenario they present is not real. Just know you’re not alone! 😊
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@LoverGirl Thank you very much😊
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@xqrsljk Of course! We must help each other out!
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Also people I follow on Instagram that have helped: @Withawakenintolove ( Podcast & Youtube) @youloveandyoulearn @forloveweheal
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I follow them too, thank you😅
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Hey there, I just wanna ask - has doing this actually helped?
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@iri Yes it has ! Thought I still have ocd I will be marrying my high school sweetheart in a couple of weeks. No longer letting ocd get in the way! And neither should you!!
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I have just done writing script for the first time and feel so silly writing down the exact things I am terrified of. I guess I am so afraid that these thoughts are really true but I can see how doing this can help. Also, I am so f-ing tired. I would run away just because I feel like I can't do this anymore. It's exhausting and feel like I am constantly hiding and am not really present cause this nagging feeling that something is off and thought that I must break up is so loud. And I wonder... Is it possible for rocd to really go away or one just learns how to live with it and if second is true then I am also bit disheartened:/ Gosh, I am so jealous of people that are free from this. Sorry for long comment and thank you for your response ❣️
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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What ERP or other techniques do you use to combat fear of cancelation? Especially curious about those with taboo thoughts, false memory ocd and event ocd based off of real events where the fear of cancellation may actually hold some validity. I once did my own ERP not under a therapist but just on my own I decided to create an anonymous account on Twitter and defend a friend who was receiving online criticism. I knew that this would be semi-controversial so I was expecting backlash and when I recieved troll replies it actually seemed to be a really helpful low-stakes exposure activity. Is this something that others have done? Low stakes online posts etc. that you know will recieve negative responses? I have had severe OCD as a kid as pretty much every subtype under the sun, and as an adult I pretty much have all the types under control except for this real event and false memory and taboo thought OCD. It seems like a different beast since it's somewhat realistic in the camcellation culture today, and it's confusing to address. Ive shut down almost all social accounts and it's keeping me from progressing in a career where I need to have an online presence :/
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Can I hear some examples of specific parts of ERP that has helped you? I've been doing talk therapy for a few years and the major issue I have with it is that I already have analyzed all of my problems from every angle, so I'm kind of just sitting there yapping about it for an hour. I need solutions and things that make me feel better.
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