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LoverGirlLoverGirl
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/202104/what-do-when-partners-dont-feel-it-anymore Here’s a good article as well!
xqrsljkxqrsljk
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Thanks!!!!
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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Watching break up movies, writing imaginary scripts, let me know and I’ll go deeper in depth!
xqrsljkxqrsljk
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I will be so thankful if you share more erp practices!!!
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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@xqrsljk 1. Movies (Some movies iv watched so far ) •We broke up (Hulu) • Someone Great (Netflix) •A marriage story (Netflix) • Closer (Hulu) •Resort to love (Netflix) • You (Netflix) *Basically any movie regarding a break up, finding someone better, or just RomComs * 2. YouTube /scenes • someone great-Jenny’s letter to Nate (YouTube) •Jerry Maguire: It’s not how I am built (breakup scene YouTube) *If you don’t have time to watch a full movie you can look up break up scenes on YouTube * 3. Break up letters/ break up poems 4. Rocd scripts Ex. Mayb I don’t love (insert name here ) and write it down as many times as you need to Ex. “I can never know if (name) is the right person for me. We have been together for ____ years and there still might be another person out there that is a better fit for me than (name). Even though I enjoy his sense of humor and find that our values and plans for the future match, I might be making a horrible mistake. I may never know if I am settling or making the right choice.” 5. Recordings •Record yourself saying a fear or intrusive thought Ex. I am not attracted to (name) And play it over and over again Ex. “OCD will ruin my relationship “ Hope this helps! Remember OCD is the disorder of doubt. Let OCD tell you whatever it wants, just don’t try to solve it. The thoughts are not the problem. Your choice to take them seriously is the problem. The thoughts are not you and the scenario they present is not real. Just know you’re not alone! 😊
xqrsljkxqrsljk
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@LoverGirl Thank you very much😊
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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@xqrsljk Of course! We must help each other out!
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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Also people I follow on Instagram that have helped: @Withawakenintolove ( Podcast & Youtube) @youloveandyoulearn @forloveweheal
xqrsljkxqrsljk
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I follow them too, thank you😅
iriiri
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Hey there, I just wanna ask - has doing this actually helped?
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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@iri Yes it has ! Thought I still have ocd I will be marrying my high school sweetheart in a couple of weeks. No longer letting ocd get in the way! And neither should you!!
iriiri
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I have just done writing script for the first time and feel so silly writing down the exact things I am terrified of. I guess I am so afraid that these thoughts are really true but I can see how doing this can help. Also, I am so f-ing tired. I would run away just because I feel like I can't do this anymore. It's exhausting and feel like I am constantly hiding and am not really present cause this nagging feeling that something is off and thought that I must break up is so loud. And I wonder... Is it possible for rocd to really go away or one just learns how to live with it and if second is true then I am also bit disheartened:/ Gosh, I am so jealous of people that are free from this. Sorry for long comment and thank you for your response ❣️
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