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- 3y
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes, it makes the intrusive thought stronger and your OCD. No matter how much reassurance you seek or other compulsions you do, OCD is never satisfied. It will always demand more and more. If you resolve one issue, OCD loves to say "Yeah, but what about _________
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- 3y
Yup 100%
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- 3y
It doesn’t help trust me! I tired this for months and it just made it worse! You never get the answer your looking for bc once you get an answer your brain makes up more stuff!
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- 3y
It's wrong because it only make syou ok in the moment. It soon becomes an addiction and you can't feel like you can function if you don't get it after an ocd episode. It prevents you from dealing with future thoughts you get. For example, my compulsion to get relief is confessing. Every time I confess an unnecessary thought, I feel good cause it brought me reassurance. But, then I get a new thought. Anxiety comes back stronger and I know I won't get relief until I confess again. Getting constant reassurance doesn't allow you to get used to the anxiety. Pretty soon, you can't deal with it on your own and you will always need reassurance for comfort, which can affect your future, relationships you may have, or people around you.
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- 3y
Something I learned going through NOCD, as well as through webinars and education on OCD is that there is never an answer that satisfies ocd. Ocd is called the doubting disorder for a reason. Therefore reassurance may help in the short term but long term it does not. Also, do you really need to reassure yourself!? This is a perfect time to as I like to say "practice" ERP. Practice not analyzing any of that and place your attention on this present moment. Go for a walk, read, go hangout with a close companion, or play a sport. Not avoiding the discomfort, but choosing to do things you want to do and not give any attention to dwelling.The most important part being the response prevention. Not easy, but part of the work. When this type of situation occurs and we are in environments in which we are organically exposed to distress, use this as an opportunity to practice doing the work! This allows for two things; showing yourself you can handle and tolerate it, and also letting your body know that although you feel uncomfortable you are willing to keep doing whatever it is you are doing and getting on with your day! This is the foundation!
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- 23w
If I stop seeking reassurance will the thoughts become less?
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- 20w
I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 20w
I see a lot of posts and comments here along the lines of... "the thoughts/urges aren't you -- they're just OCD." Though this is often true and comforting, isn't this just a form of reassurance? The way to beat OCD is by accepting that the distressing thoughts MAY be true/real, a.k.a. "from you" or "not just OCD." By brushing distressing things off as "just OCD," you excuse the thoughts and therefore feel reassured. Obviously it is good to be aware of what OCD does to you and know when you're experiencing a spiral, but crediting all distressing thoughts to OCD is a way of finding certainty about them. What do you guys think of this? Am I right or wrong? This is just the way I think about it, but I see the "this is just OCD" thing so much on here and I often wonder if that is a form of reassurance.
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