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This is common because OCD is a doubting disease. You can doubt everything in your life if the OCD deems it an open spot to attack. It's our brains at war with other regions of our brains.
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I also have feelings of not sure if I love my husband and it feels so horrible. I haven’t spoken with a counsellor yet about it. How do I know if it’s rocd or not? Sorry you’re feeling this way!!
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Ok I will get a therapist to talk to. Thank you for sharing!❤️
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Yes it is torture! We will get better and will look back later on and this will all be a memory.
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Yes me too!💜
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Ok thank you. Just wanted to make sure this was a normal thing.
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. My therapist told me I will know it's rocd because that's the form of ocd that attacks the most important relationships in our lives. You relationship with your husband is important to you so it may be that causing some distance in your mind. Just like my relationship with my son. I hope you find the help you need and deserve. No one deserves to suffer this way.
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Oh ok well that makes sense!! Do you do rituals or anything when you get these thoughts because I don’t do any rituals. That’s what makes me think what if it’s not rocd. Do you have any triggers or are you thoughts just there like always in your mind? I hope you don’t mind me asking you this lol.
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Of course I don't mind. Any way I can help. I had rituals but after starting exposure therapy I found out they were doing more damage than helping. I have some triggers like when I'm trying to remember a good memory from when my son was smaller and can't remember or when he's at a sleepover and I feel like I don't really miss him. Those tend to make me think "well maybe you don't love him". If those happen I try to get on here and do a quick therapy session or try to sit with the thought until it's gone. Just sitting with it and watching it fade takes the power away from it. I would suggest that you find a specialist that works with ocd. Mine has helped me so much.
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No problem at all. I hope you get through this. Like I said no one deserves to suffer through this torture.
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That's right we will!! That's gonna be a wonderful day! I cannot wait!
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Just a little side note: I know this post has been made MANY times by me. However, I had a therapist respond to my post today saying that I need to reach out to my therapist on this because the context was not clear. This made me more stressed and ruminate more. It's not the therapist fault; but not I wonder if I'm really the monster. I'm a Christian mom who feels like I've ruined my life. My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt her that I might as well do something else because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it and causing another feeling (I literally had to question what to do during this and the only thing I could come up with was to move my elbow) but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side area. Which caused another groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. Then I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. Idk what overcame me. PLEASE tell me if I am a monster. I was doing SO well! Is this really OCD?
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So I dealt with something a couple weeks ago that's caused me DEBILITATING anxiety. I just want to know if this follows the OCD pattern. I talked with my therapist and she confused me. Just say if follows along the OCD pattern or not. I don't need reassurance per se! My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt her that I might as well do something else to hurt because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it because my mind told me I had hurt her already ("my mind literally made me question what to do and I guess the only thing I could come up with was using my elbow) and causing another feeling but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side/thigh area. Which caused another very unwanted groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. And I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. I was doing SO well! Is this really the POCD I was diagnosed with?
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Hey everyone, I wanted to come on here today to just share this post because I’ve been struggling with this recently. I just wanna know if this is a common thing in relationship OCD. So last Friday me and my boyfriend had a conversation that was important, and my emotions were high and I got a little emotional about something he said and we had a long talk about it, the conversation went great and afterwards everything was okay. On Saturday I was so excited to see him after work and I was overflowing with feelings of happiness and excitement. Sunday was great and we stayed on FaceTime just enjoying the day together after he went home that morning, and then came Monday. I remember getting a thought like this, “What if I’m losing feelings for him and I’m just leading him on?” And even this thought, “I don’t really feel anything towards him right now, does that mean I fell out of love with him?” And then the anxiety came, I could literally feel myself breaking out in cold sweats and I could feel the pain in my chest after these thoughts crossed my mind. But what bothers me so much about this is on Saturday and Sunday I felt so content and happy with him and I was so happy and I didn’t have any anxiety whatsoever, and then Monday came, and I had those thoughts and I feel almost numb and I can’t feel anything else except the feelings of worry and fear and my anxiety has been at a all-time high and I keep feeling this pain of guilt and hurt in my chest and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced the same. Because personally one thing I hate is that one day I can be so happy and energetic and then the next day I can feel numb and feel absolutely nothing towards my boyfriend. I’m not sure if this can correlate with my menstrual cycle as well, but I’ve heard that that can also make your relationship OCD worse and cause you to feel differently about your partner. Just wanting to see if anyone has dealt with the same!
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