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- 3y ago
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- Date posted
- 3y ago
Right there with you. For me it’s I think more of me subconsciously seeking reassurance by overly being nice because my ocd had me doubt nonstop whether I am a a Cru ally a good person or straight up try to convince me I’m not so I tend to people please to show it I’m not instead of just sitting with the doubt and telling it so what if they think that, doesn’t change who I am one bit or diminish my worth. Similarly my OCD/anxiety doubt will often hinder how I act in public typically because of fear of being perceived negatively by people, so I tend to be more restraint. Again I should just let the thoughts go and neither dwell or try to disprove/seek assurance on them but just tell them so what and go about my day and not let them rule me, which is easier said than done.
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- 3y ago
I feel you.
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- 3y ago
I have the same thing! That’s not my main obsession, but it still bothers me a lot! I always get worried that what I type in a text or email or what I say comes off as rude. And then when I get bad thoughts I think, “They believe I’m a good person, but that’s just the outside. On the inside I’m actually really mean!” And then my anxiety surges and my self-esteem plummets. I’ve been working on sitting with the anxiety and being uncertain if I am coming off as “rude / mean” or not.
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- Date posted
- 3y ago
Ditto. I have spent so much type worrying that a type or text gets misinterpreted as rude or makes a loved one or friend mad especially. I used to go back and reread my texts before sending and then reread after as well as any response worrying my intent came off wrong. I do the same with sending and saying to myself so what if it gets misunderstood or comes off as mean or angry or snarky, etc….It’ll either happen or not, either way it’ll be fine.
- Date posted
- 21w ago
literally me everyday, i thought i was just a really bad people pleaser but no
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- 22w ago
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