Is anyone else obsessed with being percieved as "good" ? I get super anxious thinking people think badly of me and always try to make people have a good image of me but then i obsess over if im manipulating them to think that im good and im lying and are not really a nice person. Anyone ?

Brian K.

User type: NOCD Alumni

Date posted: 3y ago

Right there with you. For me it’s I think more of me subconsciously seeking reassurance by overly being nice because my ocd had me doubt nonstop whether I am a a Cru ally a good person or straight up try to convince me I’m not so I tend to people please to show it I’m not instead of just sitting with the doubt and telling it so what if they think that, doesn’t change who I am one bit or diminish my worth. Similarly my OCD/anxiety doubt will often hinder how I act in public typically because of fear of being perceived negatively by people, so I tend to be more restraint. Again I should just let the thoughts go and neither dwell or try to disprove/seek assurance on them but just tell them so what and go about my day and not let them rule me, which is easier said than done.

Janajana

Date posted: 3y ago

I feel you.

em.jem

Date posted: 3y ago

I have the same thing! That’s not my main obsession, but it still bothers me a lot! I always get worried that what I type in a text or email or what I say comes off as rude. And then when I get bad thoughts I think, “They believe I’m a good person, but that’s just the outside. On the inside I’m actually really mean!” And then my anxiety surges and my self-esteem plummets. I’ve been working on sitting with the anxiety and being uncertain if I am coming off as “rude / mean” or not.

Brian K.

User type: NOCD Alumni

Date posted: 3y ago

Ditto. I have spent so much type worrying that a type or text gets misinterpreted as rude or makes a loved one or friend mad especially. I used to go back and reread my texts before sending and then reread after as well as any response worrying my intent came off wrong. I do the same with sending and saying to myself so what if it gets misunderstood or comes off as mean or angry or snarky, etc….It’ll either happen or not, either way it’ll be fine.

KaileyBevans

Date posted: 19w ago

literally me everyday, i thought i was just a really bad people pleaser but no

kelsey46

Date posted: 24w ago

Does anyone have narcissism OCD?

I am really scared of being a narcissist.. I’ve been in therapy and I feel like my therapist isn’t taking it seriously:( like if I am a narcissist I want to work on it I’m just really scared of harming people.. including my partner:( I don’t want be the reason he needs therapy and I don’t want to ruin his life. I’m scared I’m manipulating him somehow to want to be with me and I just don’t know what to do. I NEED to get this fixed before our relationship progresses but I just feel like I’m not being heard by therapists/psychiatrists We want to get married and have children but I don’t even know if I will be a good partner or mom. If I do have narcissism I just think it would be best if I left him alone :( I don’t know what to do I know that people will say that narcissists don’t care about hurting other people or things like that but I just don’t know how true that is. I also have really mean judgmental, cruel, and hateful thoughts about people and I feel like that means I’m a narcissist

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 23w ago

Do you ever just feel like a bad person?

Does anyone else experience this lingering fear and anxiety because they think they’re capable of hurting someone? It’s killing me. I feel like I’m such a danger. I feel like I’m a predator. I feel like this awful person and I can’t shake it. I want to carry on with my day but I can’t. I don’t feel like I deserve it. I feel like I’ve done awful things. I can’t stop crying.

Self aware

Date posted: 20w ago

High anxiety and perfectionism

I have sent nudes before when I was younger and I am really struggling with the fact that I have sent them because it makes me feel like I am such a bad person and I don’t deserve certain things. I try my hardest to be a good person and do the right things but I obviously have made lots and lots of mistakes. I cannot get over these mistakes I’ve made because I judge myself so hard for them and it’s making it hard to function.

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Is anyone else obsessed with being percieved as "good" ? I get super anxious thinking people think badly of me and always try to make people have a good image of me but then i obsess over if im manipulating them to think that im good and im lying and are not really a nice person. Anyone ?

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