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My boyfriend would disagree. I want you to show yourself compassion, like you would to someone suffering cancer or a broken arm. Your battle in your head is just as tough. Know that this isn't your fault, and that this is something you are working on. Celebrate small victories, and know you are great. It is really tough to hear it sometimes. You didn't ask for this, and know that the healing isn't a straight line, but if you have someone who loves and stands besides you through this doubting disease that you are with someone who chooses you. Love is a choice ❤. Stay strong please reach out if you need a friend. You are wonderful don't doubt that, and your partner sees it too.
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Thank you for this ❤️.
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@merrilark Of course ❤
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Thank you for this ❤️.
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I understand this so much I think this everyday and it is my own personal hell. However, my best friend told me something that has really helped me begin to shift my perspective. She said that I can not decide what he deserves. Even though I feel guilty and not good enough that is my perspective of myself and him. However, as he is his own person he is the only one who gets a say in what he deserves and for me to say he deserves better than me is unfair to both myself and him. To try and say he deserves better is a mistrust of his self assessment. If your partner loves you and feels worthy of your love that is enough even if you don't feel like it is.
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Thank you I needed this perspective
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@WitchyKota You're welcome. Stay strong ❤️
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@Anonymous I'm trying ❤ something you
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Thats a great view on it ❤️.
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Yes EXACTLY!! That tought was a game changer for me too!! It is his choice! You can't decide for him! Maby he deserve better, maby not. But he wants you!! So he "deserve to follow his choice"! (Obviously if you want that too!) And also, I think you are already part of the elite for him... you choose literally to fight with your head for having and happy future togheter... How could he even want something better than this??
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@eoid Thank you!
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I just found out that the soul crushing feelings towards him I've had for 10 years was OCD. I knew I had other manifestations like over checking appliances, hit and run ocd etc. I didn't know a whole lot about OCD and always associated it with checking things. I can look back on my childhood now and see I've had many themes not even knowing what it was. To be honest I haven't told him about this yet and I know it's been a strain on the relationship because he can tell something was wrong. Honestly sometimes I even wanted to take my life before telling him something like this because I don't want to cause him any pain. He is my whole world and he deserves so much. I've been living with guilt forever. Knowing that it is OCD makes it a little better but It's like I can't forgive myself. What a terrible thing that attached to what you love so much. Any advice on how to tell?
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I’ve said and done so many hurtful things growing up, especially in elementary and middle school. I was very passive aggressive and mean for a majority of my life, and I’ve hurt peoples feelings. I’m no longer like that now, but every single thing I’ve ever done wrong replays in my head constantly, from the moment I wake up to the second I go to sleep. I know I deserve to feel the chronic guilt and shame, so I feel even more guilty pitying myself. It’s eating me alive, I’m so scared. I know people must hate me, and they have every right to. feel like I don’t deserve to have moments of happiness because I’ve taken that ability away from someone before. I’m not diagnosed, but this has been going on for years and I’m scared to talk to anyone about it because I fear they would look at me differently knowing I’ve hurt someone’s feelings. I feel like a monster. It’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do.
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Sometimes I get really upset with my boyfriend and I can’t tell if I’m not having my needs met or if it’s my ROCD questioning things. I can’t express that I’m upset because he rlly doesn’t understand what is going on in my head and most times I bring it up it’s turned into an argument. It is really frustrating does anyone have any tips on deciphering this stuff or dealing with the upset feeling/ bad thoughts (IE: “He’s cheating on me and that’s why he’s not texting.”) (IE: “He’s talking like this because he just doesn’t love me, and he’s not attracted to me. He clearly wants to leave me but doesn’t have the heart to do it yet”)
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I feel like the worst kind of person and I am ruining my husband. I don’t know how I’m going to be able to change.
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