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That's OCD talking to you. In this case, you have to accept uncertainty. You don't know someone won't be interested in you once they find out you have OCD. But if you let OCD stop you from trying to really open up to someone and allow a relationship to blossom, you're setting yourself up for a lonely life. I know it's really difficult, but I encourage you to do the opposite of what your OCD wants. Get on a dating app or go out and just meet people--it doesn't even have to be romantic. You don't *need* to be in a relationship, but if dating is something you genuinely want to explore and the only thing holding you back is OCD, then I say go for it anyway!
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I have similar fears (I’m 18 and my only relationship was in middle school). It not specifically just because I have OCD, but I also have Graves Disease and my OCD makes me think that all these other details about my life would make anyone not want to be with me. I’m seeing a psychologist and it’s very hard to talk about this fear of being alone in life, but I just recently opened up to him about how there was one girl I kind of had a crush on and my OCD latched onto them and resulted in me oversharing and being clingy to the point I pushed them away and ruined our friendship. It’s just so hard to make connections with others when I’m stuck in my head 24/7 and am so afraid of everything entailed with being in a relationship. I WANT to be in one, but my mind just tells me I can’t. Hell I even have a very difficult time just making new friends in general
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I feel the same way but not necessarily just because of “ocd” but because it has made me feel so.... different and for a lack of better word “dirty”? Not that I feel physically unclean, I just feel like because of how ocd has developed my perception of myself, no one could TRULY love the real me. I’m 19 and have never been in an actual relationship either! (There was a little month-long stunt but I hated it the entire time haha)
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Yeah I found out that I had OCD when I was a couple of months in my relationship. Once I opened up to her she didn't understand it very much but she was completely supportive. I had that fear that she'd leave me for someone who didn't have a mental health issue. But she didn't she loves me just as much as she did before. Don't let your fears stop you from being happy
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I'm 19 and I feel the same way. I feel like I have, and am continuing, to miss out on things people my age do. I was never interested and now I just want someone to talk and share my emotions with. Someone that's not family or a therapist. My OCD makes me think I'm to weird to attack someone tho.
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Hey, I'm 28 and in a happy relationship now, but I can definitely relate to all of these feelings from when I was single - being worried that no one would want me because I'm too weird or crazy, my ocd telling me I'm immoral/dirty/tainted and that I would be tainting anyone who I was with. All I would say is that it's your ocd making you feel like that, but when the right person comes along you will be fine - you deserve love and you can be in a happy relationship. I was in another relationship before where he didn't get mental health and wasn't that supportive - at the time i tended to think that was my fault, but now I can see he just wasn't the right person. My current partner is super understanding and supportive of my ocd! There's nothing wrong with being on your own but you can still have OCD and have a great relationship ?
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Exactly, MichaelK!
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That’s so awesome of him!! It’s so nice that they’re people like that
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At this point of my life I barely have compulsions, barely let them control me, but recently I have realised my OCD is still keeping itself alive by holding me back and making me avoid stuff since I cut compulsions. So I don’t do compulsions but I avoid. And when it comes to SO OCD, I avoid dating. I am in the age where it’s the most common thing to do, I have friends who are getting married and I still haven’t seriously dated my entire life. If I date I date to marry. But it’s making it even harder. My brain tells me I can’t date to marry or date at all because no man will accept the possibility that I am bisexual or the fact I might have intrusive thoughts over sexuality. Worse than that, what’s actually holding me back is the fact that in one of our dates I know I’ll have to bring this up. And what if the man will start to get stressed over it? What if it’ll be too much for him and he’ll leave? And worse-tell the people that know both me and him all the personal things I told him about me having SO OCD? I can’t do this.. I don’t want to do this to myself I don’t want to let go of this secret to any man who can just leave me because of it at any point.. that’s what’s holding me back from dating.. and I want to be brave, I want to just go for it, I want to let it go but am too afraid I am just selling myself and my darkest secrets out there for men who can cancel me at any moment. I gave up on dating… it’s all too complicated for me and I have this voice in the back of my head telling me maybe I wasn’t born for it. Maybe I wasn’t born to get married or be in a relationship, maybe I am not good enough for all of this.. and then OCD adds its own stuff.. maybe I am gay and dating would be lying to myself and the men I date.. too much responsibility..
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I’ve never had a serious boyfriend before, and I’ve never experienced loving someone so much I want them to be with me and be the “right person”. My entire life is surrounded by people who are in love and have those movie like relationships. My sibling, cousins and best friends. I’m absolutely done with the “right person this and right person that” talk because I don’t know if I will ever get my “right person”. At this point they are band aiding my issues with the bs of “you’ll find when you aren’t look” (fine I’ll just have walk around blind folded ig?) My ROCD is in weird ways. I don’t have a partner. My cycle goes like this, I have to look a certain way and act desirable so I can attract a boyfriend and heal all my trauma so I can be present and perfect! Then I realize none of that actually works and I spiral. Thinking I’m gonna be alone forever and no one will actually love me because there is something wrong with me. I was always the “chronically single” one in the friend group and they cannot comprehend me doing romantic things. I feel so lost, I don’t know how to calm myself down. I get triggered by couples and my family. Because they have something I don’t. I can’t explain how it even triggers me, I just feel this rage.
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this is probably kinda jumbled but over the past almost year or so i've slowly realized i have ocd (i'm diagnosed audhd but over time i started feeling like those alone didn't cover the whole issue yk?), and recently i've been kinda worried i guess. it’s just that i’m turning 21 in 6 months and i’m afraid that this disorder is going to rob me of joyful adult milestones in my life. honestly being 20 has sucked, i can’t even remember wtf being 18 was like, and my childhood in general wasn't the best either, but i've been struggling a lot as of late and i don't want how i feel now to be the same as how i feel next year. my meds have helped quiet my compulsions a significant amount (i literally felt like i was going kinda cray cray when i was off them 😭) but they’re not completely gone. sometimes it just seems like this is all it's ever gonna be forever and i’m always gonna feel ashamed of myself for just like… existing. my 21 year old self deserves to be happy but idk if i’ll be able to give that to her 🥲🥲🥲
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