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- 3y ago
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Me too. Mine is causing major jealousy/insecurity/trust issues in my relationship. It’s so hard. We got this though!
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- 3y ago
Me too I have thoughts I might be cheated on, lied, betrayed. I always feel like there's something hidden behind what I see and my mind works on loops to find the truth and the answer. It's exhausting and torturing in a level I feel I can't go on fighting it anymore. When I don't have these thoughts I just have this anxiety and bad mood for no apparent reason. It feels never ending really....
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- 3y ago
@zoed I feel you completely! My partner made a mistake the other weekend (no cheating involved) but it has made me spiral ever since. So bad that I accused him of cheating bc he had the same type of water that I know he ex wife buys. It’s crazy to even say that now. I’m also 8 months pregnant so my hormones are insane!!!
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- 3y ago
I can totally relate to this. We get crazy thoughts and believe in them because of our Rocd. When I was pregnant my Rocd was really worse and felt like I was alert all day long... Because of this my pregnancy didn't give me good memories. Try to let these thoughts pass as you know it is Rocd issue. I wish we could make it one day and feel better accepting the fact we have Ocd and we can go through this
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- 3y ago
Reading this post reassures me a lot knowing i’m not the only one with this issue. I can only imagine if I were pregnant I would be the same. It’s already bad enough every month when my period comes around, sometimes even more so around ovulation for some reason. Anyways, something I thought I might share is that sometimes these thoughts could also be a reflection of other things such as insecurities, low-self esteem, fear of abandonment, insecure attachment styles and trauma. When you see it in this light, it is no wonder that we are struggling given there are many factors at play. Let’s try be easier on ourselves. One of my theories in life is if something keeps popping up, it means the universe is asking you to see it. When we constantly look outside of ourself and blame it for how we feel, we will always end up back to square one. Remember the problem is never the situation but how we view the situation ☺️
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- 3y ago
I absolutely agree. I’m starting therapy on Tuesday, and I really want to work on me because I do feel like my attachment style, and being cheated on previously has impacted my ability to trust greatly! I tend to forget all the positives, such as my fiancé and I already talking about another baby and our future together! In the moment it’s so hard for those positives to outweigh my ruminating
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- 22w ago
something that really bugs me and gets in my head with my rocd is that for most of my relationship i’ve had this nagging anxiety and ocd about it. i can accept my thoughts for the most part, but have this underlying fear that this one could really mean something and that makes me feel guilty! i don’t want to loose her but my mind tells me i do because ive had these thoughts. it’s even coming up in my dreams now! i had a dream last night that i cheated and it made me panic all today and feel so bad and this thought came up again! any advice?
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- 21w ago
Having a really bad day with my ocd. Just had a massive meltdown. I’ve had 3 sessions with an ocd therapist and I feel worse. This is very confusing to me. I’ve read online that it’s normal to feel worse at the start of therapy, but i don’t know. I’m asking for a lot of reassurance from people, way more than I have ever done. My doubts and thoughts seem to be getting worse. My mum said if the relationship is making you so unhappy why are you doing it? This was sooo triggering for me but maybe she’s right? She said if I didn’t have the relationship in my life, I wouldn’t be having meltdowns or have an ocd spike, so she thinks I should consider whether to be in the relationship or not! Omg it’s so awful to hear those words. But maybe she is kind of right? If somethings making you anxious or unhappy, you stop don’t you? So why haven’t I broken up with him? That would be the logical step. Im so worried to make myself even more ill so im very scared to carry on with the relationship, because right now, my mind is telling me its the cause of my unhappiness and i would be better without it. But is that my ocd speaking? How do I know?! My life without him would be so bleak, or is it my life without the idea of someone in it? I have so many questions, it’s overwhelming. What if I’m not listening to my gut? Maybe I’m not. That makes me feel sick if I’m ignoring myself again. This is torture. What can I do to stop all these doubts and feel better about things!!! I would love some advice 🙏🏻🙏🏻 (this is my ocd talking, but comments that agree with my ocd are very triggering like ‘yes if you feel like that that is a major red flag’. Just comments that maybe give some hope, thank you 🙏🏻)
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- 13w ago
i couldn't take this anymore. maybe i'll just let ocd win this time. it's too hard to not have a clear conscience everytime i'm with my bf cuz my mind is telling me i'm unfaithful and don't deserve to be happy. i feel like i'll never get better anymore. i already told myself many times to stop attracting attention from other people especially to people i'm having false attraction to. but i did it again yesterday, right after i smiled a little extra in front of that girl i might be attracted to i could feel the massive anxiety in my chest. already decided last week that i might be actually attracted to her so it's best to fully avoid her. i avoided her with the best i could, but we're in the same classroom and i saw her in my peripheral vision looking at us (my bf and i) whispered to myself not to make any mistake i'll regret, but then i felt like i lose control and laugh a little extra. i searched micro cheating and it says there "trying to impress someone you're attracted to" and now i want to break up with my bf. the guilt is too strong. i couldn't sleep at night.
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