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I believe that you know your feelings better than anybody. If you think your doctor does not have the full understanding of your thoughts and feelings, you can always change your doctor.
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Thats like my worst fear coming true.
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Thanks all for your comments it’s been a rough evening after this appointment aha !
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This really angers me ... Way back - when I was newly married 4 years ; I had a really bad panic attack ... I didn't know I had OCD either at the time... I saw a basic CBT Therapist, instead of helping me cope with the Panic attack... She immediately attacked my relationship with my husband. Basically in so many words; she said to divorce him ; that he was the reason behind my attacks.. - I was in a complete state of shock ; since I didn't go to see her about my relationship - I went for panic... I saw therapist after therapist to reassure me that my panic was not about my marriage or relationship with my husband. I was young , and impressionable; and thought since she was a Dr. she knew best. THANKGOD I had the strength to know better. 32 years later, it dawned on me; she was using her power to manipulate me, and that; she was the one with the relationship issue , not me. ... you know in your heart that his has nothing to do with him..... YOU have OCD... and it plays Mind Games. Don't let what she said to you as the truth ... it is not the truth. Maybe she's just jealous you have someone to love; and maybe she's miserable. So shes putting her misery on you .... Chin up!! DUMP HER -- dont waste anymore time; Find another Dr. Hope this helps. I would make sure you say something to your NOCD Therapist about this encounter. PS: we are still married _ soon to be 38 years!
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I’m soo glad to have read your comment ! and congrats on being married for 38 years I wish you all the happiness ❤️ I know in my heart my doubts and fears in my relationship are not rational as I would NOT cry over it ever day for over a year but keep pushing on , I’m not that type of person I am very strong and if I am fighting through the battles in my mind it’s cause deep down I know how much I love him. What she said has just increased my anxiety.
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Yeah, and shame on her. You'll be fine.
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I talked to my therapist about the emotional disconnection I feel in my relationship — how I often feel nothing when I’m with my boyfriend, how I feel irritated or even disgusted during intimate moments, and how all of this creates constant fear and sadness in me. I told her that I want to love him, that I used to feel more, and that I believe my thoughts and reactions are part of something deeper — like ROCD — not necessarily the truth. But she said something like, “It doesn’t make sense that you want to love him but don’t feel love,” and suggested that I might just be lying to myself and need to “accept the truth.” That crushed me. I kept explaining that these thoughts feel obsessive, that they don’t align with my values or how I see myself — that they’ve taken away my ability to feel joy or peace. And yet, I left with this terrible fear that maybe she’s right, that maybe I’m just in denial. She even told me that I have two choices: accept that I don’t love him and stay while lying to myself, or leave. And that… that made me feel like she was confirming my worst fear — not helping me explore it safely. I don’t want to hurt him. I don’t want to lie to myself. I just want clarity, and peace, and the ability to feel again. I also didn’t tell my boyfriend about the session, because he’s skeptical of therapy — he thinks therapists just want money, and that I have to “help myself” if I want to feel better. I kind of get where he’s coming from, but it still makes me feel a little alone in this. I guess I’m posting here just to say… I feel really lost right now. I don’t know if what I’m experiencing is ROCD or just the truth I’m too scared to accept
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Hi everyone. I’ve been struggling for a long time with what I believe is ROCD. I constantly have doubts about my feelings toward my boyfriend. I feel numb, disconnected, unsure if I ever truly loved him, and sometimes I fear that I’m just pretending or lying to myself. I don’t feel happy when I think of him, I don’t miss him, and when I imagine doing things together, I feel nothing. And that terrifies me. But what hurts me even more right now is that my psychologist told me she doesn’t think I have OCD. She said I just believe it’s wrong not to like my boyfriend, and that’s why I’m stuck — because I can’t accept that I don’t like him. This only made my fears worse. Now I keep thinking: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m writing all this because I want it to be ROCD so I can feel better about not loving him?” But deep down, I’m suffering. I feel trapped in a fog of anxiety and detachment. I’ve had obsessive thoughts since I was little — especially intrusive ones, like inappropriate words or thoughts that made me feel really guilty. I would even tell my mom about them. So now I’m wondering… was this OCD all along? Why does it feel like my pain is invisible? And the worst part is… he loves me so much. He shows it in so many ways. He truly cares. But I don’t feel connected to him. I look at him and I feel nothing. Sometimes I feel like I’m acting — like I’m just going through the motions. And that makes me feel like the worst person in the world. I feel like no one else has ROCD like mine. That maybe I’m the exception. That maybe I’m not really struggling with OCD — maybe I’m just lying to myself. But I don’t want to lie. I want peace. I want to feel love again. I want to feel like myself again. If anyone has gone through this, or has felt the same after being dismissed by a therapist, please let me know. I feel so scared and alone. Thank you for reading.
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i have what i think is rocd, at least many people here told me i do. im going through the worst period ever, my thoughts feel real, i feel like i dont have any feelings for my boyfriend, that i am in denial , that i am a liar, i cant remember how it feels like to love him, my memories with him are distorted. I feel like i never loved him and i was just coping , acting like i do because i could not accept the reality. I see many people saying that once they are with their partner they feel better but it dosent help, when i am with him i still have thoughts and horible feelings. i dont know what to do anymore. I have this problem for over a year and a half, and rn it feels the worst ever. Everything feels urgent and terrifyingly real. I keep thinking that maybe when the thoughts first started, I actually realized I didn’t love him — but I kept saying “no, it can’t be, I love him,” just to deny the truth. And now I feel like I’m only holding on to a false idea I created in my head. I don’t feel love, just pressure, panic, and confusion. I told ChatGPT that I feel numb next to him, I can’t imagine a future with him, nothing feels like it used to, and I’m scared I was only ever excited about the idea of love — not him. Please, I just want this pain to stop.
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