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- 6y
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I think the biggest thing to realize is sometimes you can try to connect 2 unrelated things to make them seem related. Even if things seem to be affected by compulsions, you have to realize that this is just your mind shaping that to be the case. Remember: just because you do something and something happens doesn't mean the two things are related. You also have to remember that likely you have done the compulsions more anyway, so you get used to the results of those but have more heightened notice of what happens when you don't do them. I would say continue resisting them (which will be tough, just try doing so in a gradual way) and then you can have a better look at results.
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- 6y
As far as your obsessions about your appearance goes, I would say to seek the advice of others. Sometimes it helps to know what others think as well, of course others that are friends or family. Maybe you actually do look really good when you only spend a few minutes getting ready. Remember too that when talking to new people, confidence can play a factor. If you think you look nice, you're more confident and will likely be more able to talk to others. If you don't think you do, then you won't be able to do so as easily. I'm a guy and don't really have the same things as you, but just know that you're beautiful without having to spend so much time putting on clothes and makeup. Ask your friends and family for advice and have some faith in yourself, and you'll find that people will appreciate you. If they can't find you attractive, then let them go find someone else and move on from there. Also: that's sad about your mom. If you ever feel that way yourself or feel like you're unattrative, please reach out for help as soon as possible, with close friends/family, post here, or seek out professional help by calling 1-800-273-8255 as soon as possible. Hope I was able to give some good insight, have a good day, value yourself and your beauty, and go for it!
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- 6y
Reading that helped me so much @CUFan, thank you. I’m so sorry about your mom as well. You are always stronger than you know! Tap into that when you forget❤️
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- 6y
Honestly, when I downloaded this app I felt so completely lost and I thought right I’ll try one more thing. I’ve read every book, every article and nothing seems to help. I live in the UK so have to wait 6 months before I can start CBT, and can’t afford to go privately at the moment. All of your comments honestly, have made me feel so much better, just knowing that someone can understand me. Thank you!
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- 6y
Have you read any books on ocd yet?
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- 24w
Hi. I found this website through listening to a podcast. I am undiagnosed OCD, but I am absolutely sure I've got it, and I'm really struggling. I feel lonely and my head will literally not give me a moment's peace. It all started a year ago. I have always been the anxious type, but a really intrusive/alarming thought randomly entered my head - it wasn't intrusive/alarming in the sense of distressing explicit content (as I know this is common with OCD), it was intrusive & alarming in regards to the future and a worse case scenario happening. I spiralled from here and over a year later I'm really struggling in this same spiral. I have to check things constantly. If I can't check, I become quickly distressed. But, even if I can check, sometimes it's not enough and I still doubt and become distressed. I am CONSTANTLY scanning for danger - no matter how small, or insignificant. I am CONSTANTLY pre-occupied by worse case scenario and I try and plan repeatedly in my head 'just in case'. I replay the past in my head on a constant loop trying to desperately remember if I did/didn't do something. I then 'test' myself by trying to remember things that I can check in the here and now - if I get it wrong, I become pre-occupied and distressed. I'm very vigilant about 'covering any tracks' where I could have 'slipped up', e.g. did I send that text to the right person? Or fully believing that my phone has malfunctioned and has sent stuff to people who I wouldn't want to see it. I then check and recheck. I have urges to straighten things, touch things etc. when my brain tells me to so that I stay 'safe'. Every OCD incident, pattern etc. I have a real need to share and seek reassurance from friends and family, but not only do I realise that ultimately this reinforces my OCD, friends and family are fed up and have a 'what now?' attitude. It's so lonely and I want to beat OCD once and for all. It's an absolutely miserable way to live.
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- 20w
I think I may have SO-OCD and OCD in general. At a young age fear of death. I use to tap my heart 8 times (lucky number) for each person I loved. Then I think I suffered with ROCD and HOCD when I was 18 after 2 bad relationships who they ran off with a ‘close’ friend at the time. I’ve struggled with OCD and these HOCD/ SO-OCD about 12 years ago but the HOCD went and the ROCD came back and forth. I did previously last year have a Fear of death of my children with alligators going on holiday after reading a bad article in Florida which lasted few months. Briefly Started with ‘R-OCD’ again but went pretty quickly. Am I good enough for my partner? Is she going to leave me? What if she finds someone else? Though I saw a picture of a good looking male on a social media which my Brian instantly questioned if I was gay, panic and anxiety which lead to which I think is SO-OCD and HOCD. An obsession is an unwanted and unpleasant thought, image or urge that repeatedly enters my mind, causing feelings of anxiety, disgust or unease. A compulsion is a repetitive behaviour or mental act that you feel you need to do to temporarily relieve the unpleasant feelings brought on by the obsessive thought. I’m stuck in obsessive doubt around my sexual identity, even though I say that deep down i know what my sexual identity is but even this is being questioned at the minute and I want to cry. I have always, always been interested in women. That much I would say I had a sex addiction. My attraction to the opposite sex has pretty much disappeared. I have a fleeting thought of attraction which will set off a cascade of doubt and terror which some thoughts/ feelings make me physically sick. I’m scared of going out in public or even looking at people especially men for the fear of false attraction. I try to do ERP when I do have moments but it makes me want to be sick. My brain feels like it’s in a clamp and I can’t stop the constant thoughts. It feels like something is my head has stopped or not working correctly. Even at night. Every time I wake my chest seems to feel strange and the thoughts are suddenly there. I’ve tried ERP but it makes me want to be sick even when it subsides. I am still continuing this but I feel so drained. I just want to be myself again who I was 3 months ago. I hate that this has happened and I feel that I can’t cope, can’t be the husband I want to be, can’t be the father I want and was. These are my main issues at the moment; false attraction to pretty much any male even voices, decrease attraction in opposite gender, severe anxiety, I can’t sleep or eat, constant thoughts 24/7 and scenarios, groinal responses, seavere recriminatory thinking, I hate myself, I even have false attraction to myself in the mirror. What is wrong with me? I just want to be the husband and father I was a few months ago!
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- 16w
Hi everyone sometimes when I try to do something or do something my ocd tells me if I post a certain things or wear certain clothes that that some people in my life won't talk to me or distance themselves away from And I know it's sound crazy, but I feel like it's real what should I do I don't know how to fight it or stop I've been like this since I was 13 I went to therapy and iam taking my medicine but still those thoughts won't stop I don't know how to deal with it
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