Does anyone else ever ask themselves if they love their partner and sometimes the answer is no and sometimes the answer is yes? Is asking myself this a compulsion if most of the time I don’t get the answer I want? Also, in an Awaken into Love video, she suggested that if you tell yourself something for long enough you’ll believe it so I’m wondering if I’ve obsessed so long over whether or not I love my boyfriend that I truly believe I don’t love him.

I have ROCD and obsess about that question constantly. I have an unrealistic vision of what love should be. I expect it to be 100% all the time and thats just not reality and if its anything other than 100% it must mean that somethings wrong and i dont love her. Even what things are perfect, i question my feelings. I know its stupid, I just cant stop. I do believe you can train your brain and ive been obsessing about this for so long that it has just become part of my normal everyday.

I completely agree. I’ve had all kinds of themes in the past but this one is the most upsetting. I’ve been dealing with rocd for 7-8 years now. I have more recently been trying to have a different relationship with my thoughts. Since ocd attaches to what is most important to you, I’ve been trying to spin it into a positive. Like these thought are here because I do care and I do love her and I can’t stand to think of life without her. It helps sometimes.

I've been going through rocd for 4 years through out two different relationships now. My biggest thought is that rocd doesn't exist and I am just in denial. What themes have you had in the past?

I’m worried that ROCD or relationship anxiety doesn’t exist and I’m anxious because I know the relationship is wrong. I’m worried I’m anxious because I want to leave but I just can’t bring myself to leave for whatever reason. I’m in this weird sort of depressed state at the moment where I’m not interested in talking to anyone, I’m not interested in texting my boyfriend back or even my friends and I just want to be by myself and when I’m with my boyfriend it feels so disconnected and off. Last night I convinced myself that the relationship is naturally starting to end itself, this was simply because my boyfriend was quiet as he was tired. I’m worried ROCD is one big lie and I’m living an even bigger lie

Ironically I didn't start doubting it until I was diagnosed lol. I think we have a lot of good reason to go about it as it is

I completely agree. I once heard that doubt is unfavorable, but certainty is absurd

That is almost exactly the thought process that I have. It eats me up. If you were to pull yourself out of your feelings for a little while and take a good look at yourself objectively, what's more likely, that you would see a person who is living a lie and destined for pain and failure or a person who is tormented by their own anxiety and mental loops? What do you think a psychologist would think after talking with you for a while? Rather then what it feels like right now, what makes the most sense?

If this is something you've thought about before and came to the conclusion of the latter, maybe "figuring it out" truly isn't the answer, does going about this as OCD make enough sense to you to give it an honest shot?

It's ok, you have stuff on your mind it's ok to get it out. Well I'll tell you what, from what you're saying, to me your relationship concerns seem to mirror you prior health ones. I can't say for sure whether rocd is even real or that either of us have it. But if ROCD does it exist, I have little to no doubt that we have it.

What have been some of your other themes?

Just realtionships. It started with a prior relationship and carried into my current one. It's been almost 4 years. It started when I had been doing acid with my past girlfriend and there was a long playing while I was looking at her. It was sallies ong from nightmare before Christmas and when she says "you are not the one" it started to spin in my head. It was actually about a year and a half after that that rocd really started heavy. June 21st 2018 exactly lol. Which is one of the reasons I wondered if ROCD was real considering I had never had any other themes which seem more likely to actually be an OCD

You can, you know, just another reason to create doubt though lol. It often gets worse for me when I have being life events coming up and my wife is due in 29 days

Thank you very much.

Good luck to you too with your battles.z