Is this common in OCD

It’s exhausting to say the least cuz it’s like you finally feel normal and relaxed and then I hate that I find myself looking for soMething to bother me. But also as soon as I wake up I’ll think “what’s the worry for today”

That actually makes me feel better hearing you’re going through it too similarly (obvi not same scenario) lol but yea we’ve been together almost 4 years and she’s the absolute best person ever and I thank God everyday that she’s my wife and that she is by my side/understands this cuz she has ROCD too.. and I think that’s what makes it the hardest with the OCD is that I trust her so damn much and then that random “what if” drives you bonkers. Yup this is my first experience with ROCD but also she’s been the only person I dated seriously and then obviously married now

It really makes a difference but with OCD some days it’s sooo tough to get that energy boost to go for a run and stuff ya know? Sometimes I will run and I feel like so much more positive afterwards. I definitely know what you mean tho, I think it’s totally normal to question your career choice ya know? It’s so hard to find what you want to do nowadays with so many options but also my OCD flared up like this these past 4 months because the stress of being a parent got to me and I really felt the weight of the world on my shoulders so I was like “every career move I make now I have to think of supporting my family and keeping my child fed” and stuff and we also bought a house and moved and I started a new job so I bit off A LOT lol. That’s what every therapist has told me so far is I just really took on a crazy amount of stress which started this OCD

It’s ridiculous but my wife and I just had our first baby boy…randomly like 2 months ago I was FaceTiming her at work and a male coworker who I knew said hello..For some crazy reason I was like “what if the baby is not mine and it’s his” and ever since then it’s been on and off with that thought bothering me and it’s just driving me nuts that I’m letting it bother me so intensely because it just goes to any male that we have ever spoken with and it just spirals. I just hate the feeling that OCD is making me say what if my son isn’t mine. He clearly is my son because my wife is the most faithful and best person in my life. She has OCD as well and talking to her feels good and she even was like do you want to do a DNA test to put your mind at ease and like even the thought of that I’m like “am I really that ridiculous”

Yup it legit changes sub types each day lol it’s exhausting. Like one day I’ll obsess over one type and the next day it changes to a different one and if I think about the one that bothered me the day before it doesn’t even phase me it’s so bizarre. But it just cycles through lol

@CreativeFox Yes this is me all day long 😴 I'm exhausted from it 😴

Like for example the specific scenario I mentioned yesterday is barely bugging me today..granted I took my prescription clonazepam so that helps immensely but still I’m feeling great today lol

@elsavbob It will 100% get better I promise. I’ve noticed so much improvement from just changing my lifestyle (I haven’t even started ERP yet) but staying active and busy helps as well as exercise. I’m also changing my eating habits but obviously we all have up days and down days. But I start my first session tomorrow so I’m excited but I definitely think the fact that I started medication helped me get clarity and calmness

@CreativeFox What's meds are you on ? I have some xnanx there I wonder if I take some to get me trough the tuff days

@elsavbob My doc gave me Klonopin which is similar but it lasts almost all day with one dose instead of just 2-3 hours with a Xanax. I’ve been feeling great when I follow the instructions from my doctor

At least since high school but just never knew it. Honestly it got intense these past few months with all the stress and life changes so it sorta makes sense. But now that everything is calming down a little it feels like the OCD is not nearly as intense. I guess since the dust is settling a little maybe? Yea I have other themes but it’s like so random like it changes at a moments notice so it’s just odd in general ya know? The rocd most of the time isn’t too bad it was really just what I mentioned above and it bugged me because it is such a nonsensical thing and it’s such a made up thought lol (that’s the OCD for ya) but it’s fizzling a decent amount

Ahh that makes sense in terms of what your OCD thoughts are. I used to have that a few years ago before I met my wife when a girlfriend cheated on me, every girl I started dating I instantly was comparing them to the one that cheated and had that same mindset. But ultimately not a lot of people cheat and that’s that mindset shift to have. The nose ring thing is most likely some PTSD cuz it brought back past memories and how you felt back then because of that ya know? I think that’s the hardest part about rocd is one of the most powerful emotions is the constant worry of “is my wife/partner/etc. losing interest” and that has always been my battle with it ever since the one bad experience. I totally get your scenario tho because I’ve been in your same shoes with stretching such a far fetched thought and thinking it compares to someone from your past

Ah I hear you. I think the reason you’re thinking that though is because you want to protect yourself instead, so the OCD is saying “before my wife can leave me, I’ll leave her instead” it’s an odd thought to have cuz you definitely love and adore your wife so why would you think of breaking up or leaving her. It’ll 100% get better man I promise you

Absolutely man I’m glad I could help!!