ROCD

Plz only respond with positive advice or thoughts. Last time I posted someone responded with a bad thought and it made everything worse. I have ROCD and I am absolutely terrified that I might cheat or doing something that’s cheating. Like everything is either bad or good. It’s all just black and white. I’ve never slept with anyone, given my number out, kissed anyone, texted anyone or secretly been seeing anyone. I freak out over things like making eye contacts with a guy and I notice he thinks I’m pretty (which feels good cuz I struggle with insecurities) and I make eye contact for too long, but the entire time I have no intentions of doing any with this guy and I’m very prepared to tell him I have a boyfriend if he comes over and telling him to leave. Anyways, that’s an example of the small things I tend to obsess over and just wondering if anyone worries about the same thing and any positive advice you could give before I go insane.

Relationship OCD

Username: Amber RAmber R

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Hi Ella1212, That sounds super overwhelming and I understand why you’re stressed/upset. I definitely think finding a NOCD therapist and working through ERP could really help you! You were right about not confessing this all to your partner; not because they will judge you but because confessing and getting reassurance is a very common OCD compulsion. Continually doing those compulsions won’t make you feel better in the long run. A therapist can help you work through this! ROCD is a common thing that a lot of OCD people struggle with. So you’re not only! You can do this!

Username: geochristinageochristina

Date posted: 2y ago

I suffer with this, it really is horrible I know exactly how you feel. My advice is, tell your partner everything how you feel. Getting it off my chest really helped and my boyfriend was super supportive! Yes it’s hard to talk about it, but it was like a weight lifted from my shoulders x

Username: Ella1212Ella1212

Date posted: 2y ago

Yeah, I guess that’s a good idea. I just don’t want to confess every time I feel like I’ve done something like that. Plus I feel like my boyfriend will be like “do you even like me?” When I really really do like him. My old nocd therapist helped a bit but I’m waiting to see someone again so looking for any advice on this

Username: an0nym0usan0nym0us

Date posted: 2y ago

i definitely have struggled with this. it was one of the most stressful things when i first realized i have rocd. out of no where i would remember mistakes i made in the beginning of my relationship regarding boys thinking i cheated and the guilt ate me up so i confessed to my boyfriend but he didn’t care because he knew i didn’t mean it. i also felt extremely guilty for finding other guys attractive but i realized it was a human response, we can’t control who we find attractive or not yk? it just matters about our actions like if we make a move. i still struggle with the guilt till this day but it’s not as bad as it was in the beginning, you just get used to it eventually and realize it’s okay. your rocd makes you freak over the littlest things and you gotta try to not feed into that compulsion

Username: BSVWYIRGN

Date posted: 1y ago

I’m scared of being a cheater

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year coming this May. I have never had feelings for someone like this and I genuinely see myself living the rest of my life with him. Talking to him comes effortlessly. He sees me for all that I am and works with me. My family has already begun developing a connection with him as well as I have with his family. I’ve never felt so at home until meeting him. Lately my ROCD symptoms have been playing on the narrative of him either finding a new girl that interests him and is somehow “better” than me OR me ruining our relationship because of potential cheating I have absolutely no actual interest in cheating because I know he’s my person and so am his. I know I’m going to marry him and I know that I want him to be the father of my kids. I want to see him grow and I want to build a foundation of unconditional love with him. So why do I shame myself? There’s this shop that him and I go to quite frequently, and the last time we went an employer that we typically see every-time we come began talking to me personally. We were all just talking about movies but my boyfriend mentioned that he felt like he was flirting with me. I begun feeling bad like I was doing something wrong. My mind started telling me that I liked having him “flirt” with me and that it made me feel desirable and confident in knowing that I was still considered attractive. I’m scared because now everytime we go the employee seems to be staring at me and when I went today he actually gave me something for free which led to me thinking I was playing into the flirting narrative and that this would lead to something worse (Though I still have no interest in doing so, just anxiety about that happening is the best way to put it) Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is there any advice that can be given? I don’t think anything’s going to happen, but what If I do like knowing someone likes me even if it’s not reciprocated? Does that make me a cheater? Or is that the product of unresolved self worth issues?

Username: courtlambert

Date posted: 46w ago

I’m worried I have rocd?

I’m not sure if I have it or not, or if I don’t and I’m just a bad person? I’m even embarrassed to go into details but can anyone explain what it’s like, as sometimes my thought get so bad and intrusive that I worry I’m trying to hide behind rocd as an excuse and I am just a bad girlfriend?? Can anyone relate🥲I live my partner absolutely but sometimes I worry they’re not that into it and I overthink about what it would be like to be with other people, my ocd can be so bad I’m wondering and maybe wishful thinking? That these thoughts/ obsessions could just be the ocd? Please can someone explain their experiences with it🙏🏻

Username: BC123

Date posted: 45w ago

ROCD

I think I have relationship OCD. I will be doing great with my boyfriend then out of no where I get this intrusive thought that he thinks other people are attractive and has a wandering eye for others and I need reassurance immediately. And when he gives me reassurance, I think he’s lying. After like an hour of back and forth repetitive conversation I feel better, then the next day it happens again. Every. Single. Day. I freak out and blow up and need reassurance. I can’t tell if I’m getting these thoughts because they are true or because I’ve been with someone in the past who has cheated on me so I believe that all people get these thoughts. I’m so ready for a cure. Does anyone know what to do? I don’t want to live with this

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