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Someone said something that really made me think on here early today which was that your fears only have as much power as your belief that you have an inability to cope with the consequences
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The best thing to do would probably be to ask him!
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If you believe you wouldn’t be able to cope with him leaving you, then it has the most power. If you believe it would be a horrible valley of your life but then you would develop a new life and be happy again, the thought has less power
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It was probably some bot that harvests info and sends out mass texts. Does your husband know about your OCD? I can see where it would be hard not to take it personally. Is there a person you can ask to check and see if your fears are reasonable before you try to confront him? I know that most of OCD does not respond to logic, but sometimes you can talk yourself out of worst case scenarios. Ask yourself, does any possible other explanation exist as to why this could be happening? Is there any evidence for or against this I could be ignoring?
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Thanks for that. What a true statement. It’s sad that I can’t see that when I’m in the middle of an attack. I’m so glad I have people to turn to. In researching this app, it turns out that it’s becoming a viral thing and something that is spamming people. It’s on the news. So basically I’ve been worrying for no reason. And I feel like a turd.
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Glad you feel better Ashley! It’s great you have your mom and therapist, but just remember to cut yourself some slack too. It’s not so easy to just stop worrying. I feel like it almost upsets me more when people ask ‘why’ as though it’s as easy as flipping off a switch. Just remember to be gentle on yourself. He’s a great guy, but you’re also a great woman, with a side of OCD ;)
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He’s really angry with me since I confronted him to ask him what this was. He’s in real estate, and his number is on the internet, so his point is that he has no clue who all has saved his number but that he isn’t giving it out to anyone like that.
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I did. He was pretty upset that I think that. He said he has no idea what it is or who would do that.
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This has unfortunately been an ongoing thing with he and I. Where something weird happens and I go off the deep end every time. Some person in our church sent a friend request over the Bible app. It was a teenage girl. He had never seen her before in his life. He gets tons of spam all the time and I read into it and get worked up. He’s just over it and tired of being under the microscope all the time
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I can talk to my mom and my therapist. Both of which have never said anything is there. It’s always “why are you doing this to yourself and your husband”. He really is a wonderful person. I would be shocked if any of this were happening. But the what if’s are so strong and I’m so scared
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Hey so lately I've been thinking along the line of the theme of ocd of 'what if I was to shout something inappropriate out" only this is what if I was to text someone something inappropriate please help me somebody it's causing me to panic.
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Hi everyone! I have been having a rough time. So my boyfriend talks to his ex still as friends and I’ve been struggling with it lately and I can’t tell if it’s OCD or not but it does feel so distressing. She wasn’t texting him for about 2-3 months as she got into a relationship with this guy and they broke up. She had messaged him saying that she has no one else to talk to and needed to vent to someone. At first I felt okay, but my intrusive thoughts took over and it seemed like she was trying to get with him after the fact. It’s probably just my intrusive thoughts talking but he looks on Discord (the app where the message) constantly now and my intrusive thoughts convince me that he’s still in love with her. Then yesterday I saw one of his BeReals (a little photo app that shows a photo of the day) and I saw that he was watching one of her streams as she is a streamer. I struggled to talk about it because it made my worst thought feel like it came true where he is still in love with her. When we talked he gets a lil mad that I don’t tell him right away like straight up what I’m feeling but it’s hard to process because my thoughts flood in of all the worst things and I don’t want to come off as toxic at all and I know relationships are built on trust and I want to trust because this is literally the only thing that makes me nervous about him. It also doesn’t help that I’ve been cheated on before so I’m trying to protect myself but I’m lost. I get so depressed and so anxious because I feel like I have to grieve the relationship and it’s just so dramatic. I’ve never loved anyone like this before and I don’t wanna lose him by bringing this stuff up constantly when something occurs with his ex. I don’t know why I get triggered so easily and I just wanna heal from it and be the good girlfriend I’m supposed to be 😭
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I don’t know where to begin, this is going to be very long. But whoever responds I appreciate you dearly. I’m 20 years old, I’ve dealt with a lot in my childhood with abandonment and insecurity issues from my family. Aswell of not having a role model of a healthy relationship shown to me as a child. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years, my first healthy relationship. Last year I discovered OCD (I am diagnosed but I ignored my mental health as a teenager like anybody would) I started to get these feelings that I don’t love my partner/he’s not attractive enough/ etc etc. I’ve discovered that it’s ROCD. I made threads on Reddit asking for advice googling for reassurance, all the things as one would do with ocd (as I’m doing now!) One day I woke up and that theme was gone, I felt normal in my relationship for about 4 months with no terrible thoughts. As of about 2-3 months ago, my theme switched. Now I have a fear he doesn’t love me, he’s cheating, he doesn’t want to marry me. It has utterly consumed me (just like my last theme!) I check his phone an unhealthy amount (guess what I never find anything!) He always lets me go through his phone, but as anyone would he gets annoyed and frustrated. I always am searching for signs if he’s acting weird, will get into arguments 24/7 because my brain keeps telling me he’s cheating, I get fake scenarios in my brain, hell I even bought Snapchat+ to stalk his snap score. But ever single time I find nothing. A lot of things trigger me and I over analyze everything, phone calls who his texting. When I do search his phone I check his EMAIL because of how paranoid I am. When I see things on social media about people cheating I SPIRALLLL But what really triggered me was this scenario, his family loves to joke around with me and mess with him at the same time, especially with our relationship, saying I have a leash on him etc etc making jokes (which I can take but when I’m in an ocd spiral and they have no idea something’s are triggering) anyways, we were out to lunch and his mother texts him “are u at some girls house” he told me straight away then responded “why would u say that” then she proceeded to say she’s messing around with him. And sent a picture of me and said I’m with Hailey at lunch, then they had a normal conversation after. Obviously this sent me into a spiral, it still bothers me. I was so upset and anxious, when we got back to his house I went through that man’s phone like it was my only job in the world. And I search EVERYTHING not one thing goes untouched. (I sound insane) anyways we went back to his place, then he called his mom to come in his room and asked why she said that, she felt guilty and said she was messing around she had her hands in her head (mind you she’s been drinking probably just messing around with him when she texted that) she told me not to worry ever about that kind of stuff because her son is not that type of man, she proceeded to leave the room then texted me about how sorry she was and didn’t mean to freak me out and felt like shit about it. Ever since then she’s been acting kind of weird towards me (not really) maybe she’s uncomfortable or there’s another women idk LOL. Anyways yea what the hell do I do I literally can’t function properly.
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