Charlie
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- 2y
KatieKnudsvigKatieKnudsvig
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- 2y
Hi Charlie! Fellow ROCD sufferer here. This happened to me a few weeks ago with a new partner I have…and it sucked. A lot. Just remember that you don’t have to make any decisions right now, if your feelings really did change you’ll still feel that way in a month, so making a decision right now benefits no one. Not every feeling requires an action. I usually talk to my brain and say, “Hey brain, I know we want to figure this out right now but we have no new information, so let’s get back to x”. Noting and mindfulness has helped me too. This too shall pass ❤️ stay strong friend
ObiWanAObiWanA
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- 2y
we are listening!
CharlieCharlie
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- 2y
I think I'm having rocd again with the same girl, for the past week and a bit I've been terrified by the thought what if it's not rocd this time and u truly just don't like her anymore and it's not the thoughts that seem to bother me it's the lack of feeling towards them and idm what to do I don't want to end things with her
CharlieCharlie
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- 2y
I'm just feel so guilty and sad and empty now and I feel different now to how I used to, I go through short periods of knowing I like her and then the rest is but what If u don't now and if she says something like she misses me and I don't immediately get a warm feeling or if I'm listening to a romantic song and I don't smile and feel warm thinking of her or thinking u feel different now to two weeks ago immediately just upsets me and idk what to do anymore I really don't
CharlieCharlie
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- 2y
Please answer idk what to do
ObiWanAObiWanA
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- 2y
@Charlie i understand what you are going through! im in the same phase of doubting if i have ocd and the thoughts are not making me anxious anymore, i know it’s really hard but you have to keep going and don’t try to find an answer to all of your questions
ObiWanAObiWanA
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- 2y
@Charlie i don’t feel any feelings toward my boyfriend because of so ocd and rocd but we have to remember that love is not just feelings
Cassie:)Cassie:)
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- 2y
Hi Charlie!! I have ROCD and I’m in a serious relationship with a lot of realistic concerns (long distance, job opportunities, law school, etc.). Something he tells me a lot which always helps is “you’re trying to make future decisions without future information”. ROCD wants you to make a decision NOW. to get out NOW. To fix a HUGE PROBLEM NOW!!! but there really isn’t one, that’s the ROCD. so saying to yourself “hey, i hear that’s a scary thought, but i don’t need to figure it out right now, the answer isn’t something I need.” And then move on. It won’t feel better at first. At all. But slowly it will start to feel better. Have some patience and grace with yourself, i know how much it sucks
mirbrachmirbrach
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- 2y
What do I do if I feel dislike towards my husband of 19 yrs for a few yrs now? Does this mean it’s not ocd? Helppp
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- 16w
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