Charlie
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- 2y
KatieKnudsvigKatieKnudsvig
- Date posted
- 2y
Hi Charlie! Fellow ROCD sufferer here. This happened to me a few weeks ago with a new partner I have…and it sucked. A lot. Just remember that you don’t have to make any decisions right now, if your feelings really did change you’ll still feel that way in a month, so making a decision right now benefits no one. Not every feeling requires an action. I usually talk to my brain and say, “Hey brain, I know we want to figure this out right now but we have no new information, so let’s get back to x”. Noting and mindfulness has helped me too. This too shall pass ❤️ stay strong friend
ObiWanAObiWanA
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- 2y
we are listening!
CharlieCharlie
- Date posted
- 2y
I think I'm having rocd again with the same girl, for the past week and a bit I've been terrified by the thought what if it's not rocd this time and u truly just don't like her anymore and it's not the thoughts that seem to bother me it's the lack of feeling towards them and idm what to do I don't want to end things with her
CharlieCharlie
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- 2y
I'm just feel so guilty and sad and empty now and I feel different now to how I used to, I go through short periods of knowing I like her and then the rest is but what If u don't now and if she says something like she misses me and I don't immediately get a warm feeling or if I'm listening to a romantic song and I don't smile and feel warm thinking of her or thinking u feel different now to two weeks ago immediately just upsets me and idk what to do anymore I really don't
CharlieCharlie
- Date posted
- 2y
Please answer idk what to do
ObiWanAObiWanA
- Date posted
- 2y
@Charlie i understand what you are going through! im in the same phase of doubting if i have ocd and the thoughts are not making me anxious anymore, i know it’s really hard but you have to keep going and don’t try to find an answer to all of your questions
ObiWanAObiWanA
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- 2y
@Charlie i don’t feel any feelings toward my boyfriend because of so ocd and rocd but we have to remember that love is not just feelings
Cassie:)Cassie:)
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- 2y
Hi Charlie!! I have ROCD and I’m in a serious relationship with a lot of realistic concerns (long distance, job opportunities, law school, etc.). Something he tells me a lot which always helps is “you’re trying to make future decisions without future information”. ROCD wants you to make a decision NOW. to get out NOW. To fix a HUGE PROBLEM NOW!!! but there really isn’t one, that’s the ROCD. so saying to yourself “hey, i hear that’s a scary thought, but i don’t need to figure it out right now, the answer isn’t something I need.” And then move on. It won’t feel better at first. At all. But slowly it will start to feel better. Have some patience and grace with yourself, i know how much it sucks
mirbrachmirbrach
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- 2y
What do I do if I feel dislike towards my husband of 19 yrs for a few yrs now? Does this mean it’s not ocd? Helppp
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Anonymous
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- 20w
Can someone help
My rocd is spiraling so bad i feel like I’m terrible and can’t recover 😓 idk wuts real anymore yet ik i never wanna leave my man😓whats wrong w me
Angel1717
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- 8w
ALL THERAPIST PLEASE HELP
Hello, so I’m in therapy for ROCD but my therapist says she doesn’t think/feels that I have ROCD. Her reasoning is because “compulsions don’t provide any sense of relief for someone with OCD, they are constant even after compulsions” but i’ve read online that they do provide relief until a new intrusive thought restarts the cycle. She also said I can’t have ROCD if I don’t show signs of regular OCD, because ROCD is only a subtype and I must have OCD to have ROCD. I’ve read otherwise online though so all therapist on here is she correct? (She also mention she only has 2 years experience and has a supervisor she reports to)
Mariabae
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- 6w
i need help, i dont know what is happening
I believe I have ROCD — at least, that’s what many people here have told me based on what I’ve shared — and I really need help, because I feel like I’m falling apart. I don’t know what I feel anymore. I don’t know what’s real. My thoughts come as loud, cold statements — not questions. They say things like: “Nothing is the same.” “You don’t love him.” “You’re just staying because you’re used to him.” And even though I know I’m supposed to let the thoughts pass and not engage with them — I can’t. I get stuck in them. I try to find answers, I ruminate, I check, I cry, I panic. Everyone says “love isn’t just a feeling” — and I know that. But… I still want to feel something. I want to feel warmth, or connection, or even just peace. It’s been so long since I felt anything like that. Now everything just feels empty or terrifying or cold. My brain only gives me negative interpretations. No memory brings me comfort anymore. Nothing feels like it used to. And the worst part is — it all feels true. Sometimes I think: “What if I’m just denying the truth?” “What if I’ve finally realized that I don’t love him, and I just don’t want to admit it?” This feels like the worst version of myself. I’m so confused and scared and tired. Even therapy didn’t help — my therapist said things that made it worse, and now I don’t know who or what to believe anymore. I just want help. I want to know how to face ROCD — if that’s what this really is. I want to believe I can feel love again. I don’t want to lose myself in this forever. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you start to get better? i cant even remember past good memories with him, my head tells me that i didnt love him and i was just “excited “ to have someone. We have 2 years together and i have been dealing with this for a year and a half.
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