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Hi Charlie! Fellow ROCD sufferer here. This happened to me a few weeks ago with a new partner I have…and it sucked. A lot. Just remember that you don’t have to make any decisions right now, if your feelings really did change you’ll still feel that way in a month, so making a decision right now benefits no one. Not every feeling requires an action. I usually talk to my brain and say, “Hey brain, I know we want to figure this out right now but we have no new information, so let’s get back to x”. Noting and mindfulness has helped me too. This too shall pass ❤️ stay strong friend
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we are listening!
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I think I'm having rocd again with the same girl, for the past week and a bit I've been terrified by the thought what if it's not rocd this time and u truly just don't like her anymore and it's not the thoughts that seem to bother me it's the lack of feeling towards them and idm what to do I don't want to end things with her
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I'm just feel so guilty and sad and empty now and I feel different now to how I used to, I go through short periods of knowing I like her and then the rest is but what If u don't now and if she says something like she misses me and I don't immediately get a warm feeling or if I'm listening to a romantic song and I don't smile and feel warm thinking of her or thinking u feel different now to two weeks ago immediately just upsets me and idk what to do anymore I really don't
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Please answer idk what to do
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@Charlie i understand what you are going through! im in the same phase of doubting if i have ocd and the thoughts are not making me anxious anymore, i know it’s really hard but you have to keep going and don’t try to find an answer to all of your questions
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@Charlie i don’t feel any feelings toward my boyfriend because of so ocd and rocd but we have to remember that love is not just feelings
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Hi Charlie!! I have ROCD and I’m in a serious relationship with a lot of realistic concerns (long distance, job opportunities, law school, etc.). Something he tells me a lot which always helps is “you’re trying to make future decisions without future information”. ROCD wants you to make a decision NOW. to get out NOW. To fix a HUGE PROBLEM NOW!!! but there really isn’t one, that’s the ROCD. so saying to yourself “hey, i hear that’s a scary thought, but i don’t need to figure it out right now, the answer isn’t something I need.” And then move on. It won’t feel better at first. At all. But slowly it will start to feel better. Have some patience and grace with yourself, i know how much it sucks
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What do I do if I feel dislike towards my husband of 19 yrs for a few yrs now? Does this mean it’s not ocd? Helppp
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Hi everyone. I’ve been struggling for a long time with what I believe is ROCD. I constantly have doubts about my feelings toward my boyfriend. I feel numb, disconnected, unsure if I ever truly loved him, and sometimes I fear that I’m just pretending or lying to myself. I don’t feel happy when I think of him, I don’t miss him, and when I imagine doing things together, I feel nothing. And that terrifies me. But what hurts me even more right now is that my psychologist told me she doesn’t think I have OCD. She said I just believe it’s wrong not to like my boyfriend, and that’s why I’m stuck — because I can’t accept that I don’t like him. This only made my fears worse. Now I keep thinking: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m writing all this because I want it to be ROCD so I can feel better about not loving him?” But deep down, I’m suffering. I feel trapped in a fog of anxiety and detachment. I’ve had obsessive thoughts since I was little — especially intrusive ones, like inappropriate words or thoughts that made me feel really guilty. I would even tell my mom about them. So now I’m wondering… was this OCD all along? Why does it feel like my pain is invisible? And the worst part is… he loves me so much. He shows it in so many ways. He truly cares. But I don’t feel connected to him. I look at him and I feel nothing. Sometimes I feel like I’m acting — like I’m just going through the motions. And that makes me feel like the worst person in the world. I feel like no one else has ROCD like mine. That maybe I’m the exception. That maybe I’m not really struggling with OCD — maybe I’m just lying to myself. But I don’t want to lie. I want peace. I want to feel love again. I want to feel like myself again. If anyone has gone through this, or has felt the same after being dismissed by a therapist, please let me know. I feel so scared and alone. Thank you for reading.
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If anyone’s willing to listen, I’m having a really tough day with Rocd and really need to vent but I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone I know because they don’t understand what it feels like
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Hi everyone. I’m really struggling and I need to let it all out. I’ve been dealing with ROCD (or what I think is ROCD) for a long time, and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. I’m in a loving relationship with a boyfriend who is kind, understanding, and patient. But ever since I started reading a lot online, googling symptoms, talking to AI like ChatGPT, searching for reassurance, things have gotten worse and worse. And now… I feel completely disconnected from my feelings. I don’t know what’s real anymore. My boyfriend told me that he believes I’ve convinced myself that I have something that needs to be treated, and that all this constant researching is making me feel worse. And honestly, I think he’s right. Before I fell into this cycle, I could be more intimate with him. I used to say “I love you,” I used to feel warmth. Now I don’t say it anymore. I haven’t in a long time. And it hurts him. And I know I’m hurting him, and that makes it even worse. He also said that maybe I’m having these obsessive thoughts because I don’t have a daily purpose, that I need to get occupied, to stop being consumed by this. And others in my life have told me the same. He even suggested taking a break from each other for a week, just to give me space. But I’m terrified of that. I’m scared that the thing I fear most will become “the truth.” I’m scared I’ll feel relief, and that will mean everything I fear is real. But he told me that if I don’t want the break, maybe it means I still care. Still love. Still want this. The problem is, I don’t know anymore. And that’s what’s killing me. I’ve also had a psychologist who told me that just because I feel guilt or “care,” it doesn’t necessarily mean I like him — and that sent me spiraling. She said that maybe I care about people in general, but it doesn’t mean I love him. And it made me feel like I’m just lying to myself. That maybe I’m holding on out of obligation, or because I set in my head that I “have to be with him.” And even when he tells me beautiful things — logical things — things that SHOULD make me feel safe and seen… I don’t feel better. I just feel more empty. And then I start spiraling again: “If this doesn’t help me feel better, then something must be wrong.” “What if I’m just pretending?” “What if I’ve been lying to myself all along?” I feel like there’s something wrong inside of me. Like no matter what anyone says, or how much love I’m given, I can’t feel it. I just want to know what to do. I want someone to tell me what this is. I want to stop feeling like I’m running after a version of myself that used to feel, used to love, used to be calm. I don’t know if this is ROCD or if I’m just slowly facing a truth I’ve been afraid to accept. Please, if anyone has felt this way, I need to hear that I’m not alone. And if you’ve come out the other side… how? My relationship is perfect and he is perfect, i just deal with this and i am far from happy.
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