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Hi Charlie! Fellow ROCD sufferer here. This happened to me a few weeks ago with a new partner I have…and it sucked. A lot. Just remember that you don’t have to make any decisions right now, if your feelings really did change you’ll still feel that way in a month, so making a decision right now benefits no one. Not every feeling requires an action. I usually talk to my brain and say, “Hey brain, I know we want to figure this out right now but we have no new information, so let’s get back to x”. Noting and mindfulness has helped me too. This too shall pass ❤️ stay strong friend
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we are listening!
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I think I'm having rocd again with the same girl, for the past week and a bit I've been terrified by the thought what if it's not rocd this time and u truly just don't like her anymore and it's not the thoughts that seem to bother me it's the lack of feeling towards them and idm what to do I don't want to end things with her
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I'm just feel so guilty and sad and empty now and I feel different now to how I used to, I go through short periods of knowing I like her and then the rest is but what If u don't now and if she says something like she misses me and I don't immediately get a warm feeling or if I'm listening to a romantic song and I don't smile and feel warm thinking of her or thinking u feel different now to two weeks ago immediately just upsets me and idk what to do anymore I really don't
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Please answer idk what to do
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@Charlie i understand what you are going through! im in the same phase of doubting if i have ocd and the thoughts are not making me anxious anymore, i know it’s really hard but you have to keep going and don’t try to find an answer to all of your questions
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@Charlie i don’t feel any feelings toward my boyfriend because of so ocd and rocd but we have to remember that love is not just feelings
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Hi Charlie!! I have ROCD and I’m in a serious relationship with a lot of realistic concerns (long distance, job opportunities, law school, etc.). Something he tells me a lot which always helps is “you’re trying to make future decisions without future information”. ROCD wants you to make a decision NOW. to get out NOW. To fix a HUGE PROBLEM NOW!!! but there really isn’t one, that’s the ROCD. so saying to yourself “hey, i hear that’s a scary thought, but i don’t need to figure it out right now, the answer isn’t something I need.” And then move on. It won’t feel better at first. At all. But slowly it will start to feel better. Have some patience and grace with yourself, i know how much it sucks
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What do I do if I feel dislike towards my husband of 19 yrs for a few yrs now? Does this mean it’s not ocd? Helppp
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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Hello, so I’m in therapy for ROCD but my therapist says she doesn’t think/feels that I have ROCD. Her reasoning is because “compulsions don’t provide any sense of relief for someone with OCD, they are constant even after compulsions” but i’ve read online that they do provide relief until a new intrusive thought restarts the cycle. She also said I can’t have ROCD if I don’t show signs of regular OCD, because ROCD is only a subtype and I must have OCD to have ROCD. I’ve read otherwise online though so all therapist on here is she correct? (She also mention she only has 2 years experience and has a supervisor she reports to)
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