Anxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
:,(
I saw something that said if you're a Christian or religious with hocd than your just in denial and it's all I can think about. I wanna cry
D. M. D. M.
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- 2y
No! You can be Christian and have OCD! When we are over scrupulous or condemn ourselves that is not what Jesus wants. He wants to love and forgive us! I have found that sometimes it is my OWN perverted (not sexual...I mean in the true sense of a perversion) ideas about what God wants. He wants to love and forgive. Sometimes we go to the extreme and are too hard on ourselves. God is not out there ready to zap and condemn us. He just wants us to keep trying and love him very much. It is the demons that want us to despair.
mehletstrymehletstry
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- 2y
They seem misinformed. LGBT+ people can struggle with sexual identity OCD
Mindy1210Mindy1210
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- 2y
That’s absolutely not true. I’m a Christian myself and the illness is not who you are. Just because your handicapped in the mind doesn’t make you a bad person.
D. M. D. M.
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- 2y
Do you have a trusted Pastor or Priest or guide that can help you on the side of Faith? I bet many therapists are not hostile to those who have Faith, especially Christianity but some may be and not even realize it.
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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- Date posted
- 2y
Maybe I guess its just hard bc it feels my therapist gets ocd and my pastor gets Christianity but neither of them get both
curtis07curtis07
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- 2y
Just to clarify. You mean they were saying that you cannot be a Christian and have hocd at the same time?
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Pretty much. I think they said bc Christians have often been told its a sin that they are just repressing those thoughts. At least I think it's what they were saying. I quickly clicked off bc I was so anxious and worriwd
curtis07curtis07
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- 2y
@Hopeforthefuture - Well, I'm an ex-christian, so keep that in mind. But I cannot imagine Jesus condemning anyone for any kind of thoughts. His primary message to the world was of love and forgiveness. Why would a God make us to have such thoughts and then condemn us for it? We are all so unique.
Meg JohnsonMeg Johnson
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- 2y
They're ridiculous
D. M. D. M.
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- 2y
No, we are not condemned for thoughts, but God also doesn't "make" us have thoughts. It can be from a number of different sources, but God is not about fear and condemnation. Of course, there things that are objectively right and wrong, but when we don't give in to them, thoughts are just passing.
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
I guess my problem is i have a memory that I'm not sure if it is true or false where I "accepted" the thought. And it scares me so much because then I feel like it wouldn't be just a thought :(
D. M. D. M.
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- 2y
Hopeforthefuture, I definitely understand what you are saying and have experienced this. In my denomination, we have confession, which is wonderful because you can confess and find peace in absolution. Without knowing your beliefs, I would say that, at the very least, you can speak with God, say you are just not sure but TRUST in His mercy. This is a real thing! This is definitely where the OCD comes in, and sometimes forces that want us to dwell on these questions. I would suggest letting yourself have that conversation, then letting it go. When it comes up again say to yourself/thoughts, "I already dealt with that, God loves me, and I don't need to think about that anymore". There are forces that don't want us to move on and be productive, they would rather us to get stuck. St. Teresa of Avila says, "When the devil reminds you of your past, tell him about his future." You are so loved. Have you ever read Max Lucado's book,
D. M. D. M.
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- 2y
"You are Special"? It is a great reminder of this. I will be praying for your peace. I know what you mean. My Pastor is the one who suggested I see a therapist because he said that he could help spiritually but didn't have the techniques. I tell him what happens with therapy and he still guides me. I really think I know where you are coming from! Be encouraged! God wants us to work through this and come out stronger on the other side! :)
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- Date posted
- 7w
hocd
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