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I saw something that said if you're a Christian or religious with hocd than your just in denial and it's all I can think about. I wanna cry
No! You can be Christian and have OCD! When we are over scrupulous or condemn ourselves that is not what Jesus wants. He wants to love and forgive us! I have found that sometimes it is my OWN perverted (not sexual...I mean in the true sense of a perversion) ideas about what God wants. He wants to love and forgive. Sometimes we go to the extreme and are too hard on ourselves. God is not out there ready to zap and condemn us. He just wants us to keep trying and love him very much. It is the demons that want us to despair.
They seem misinformed. LGBT+ people can struggle with sexual identity OCD
That’s absolutely not true. I’m a Christian myself and the illness is not who you are. Just because your handicapped in the mind doesn’t make you a bad person.
Do you have a trusted Pastor or Priest or guide that can help you on the side of Faith? I bet many therapists are not hostile to those who have Faith, especially Christianity but some may be and not even realize it.
Maybe I guess its just hard bc it feels my therapist gets ocd and my pastor gets Christianity but neither of them get both
Just to clarify. You mean they were saying that you cannot be a Christian and have hocd at the same time?
Pretty much. I think they said bc Christians have often been told its a sin that they are just repressing those thoughts. At least I think it's what they were saying. I quickly clicked off bc I was so anxious and worriwd
@Hopeforthefuture - Well, I'm an ex-christian, so keep that in mind. But I cannot imagine Jesus condemning anyone for any kind of thoughts. His primary message to the world was of love and forgiveness. Why would a God make us to have such thoughts and then condemn us for it? We are all so unique.
They're ridiculous
No, we are not condemned for thoughts, but God also doesn't "make" us have thoughts. It can be from a number of different sources, but God is not about fear and condemnation. Of course, there things that are objectively right and wrong, but when we don't give in to them, thoughts are just passing.
I guess my problem is i have a memory that I'm not sure if it is true or false where I "accepted" the thought. And it scares me so much because then I feel like it wouldn't be just a thought :(
Hopeforthefuture, I definitely understand what you are saying and have experienced this. In my denomination, we have confession, which is wonderful because you can confess and find peace in absolution. Without knowing your beliefs, I would say that, at the very least, you can speak with God, say you are just not sure but TRUST in His mercy. This is a real thing! This is definitely where the OCD comes in, and sometimes forces that want us to dwell on these questions. I would suggest letting yourself have that conversation, then letting it go. When it comes up again say to yourself/thoughts, "I already dealt with that, God loves me, and I don't need to think about that anymore". There are forces that don't want us to move on and be productive, they would rather us to get stuck. St. Teresa of Avila says, "When the devil reminds you of your past, tell him about his future." You are so loved. Have you ever read Max Lucado's book,
"You are Special"? It is a great reminder of this. I will be praying for your peace. I know what you mean. My Pastor is the one who suggested I see a therapist because he said that he could help spiritually but didn't have the techniques. I tell him what happens with therapy and he still guides me. I really think I know where you are coming from! Be encouraged! God wants us to work through this and come out stronger on the other side! :)
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
Sooooooo omg my mom mentioned that she saw a show on televisopn where people with weird mental ilnesses spoke and she mentioned that there was someone with hocd and how she thought it was weird but she thought in this generation she doesnt blame people for having it because it isnt their own fault and there is alot of pressure on your sexuality and omg i got sooo red and i felt like i was gonna burst out in tears and tell them everyything i was sooo close to just break and tell them what ive been going trough for the past year. Im so freaked out and like... i jusr wanna tell them but im ashamed and i know i will n e v e r tell them but i cant believe i got this close. And i just dont know what to do bevause on the show the doctor said a looot of people approached him with having hocd and that its really a new big mental ilness thing. You know what it is, my mom said that the man on the show who had hocd said he wasnt in to guys at all but his brain told him he liked it and that was me in the ebginning of hocd but now i have a feeling i cant relate anymore and that hurts so much because its like hocd has gotten so deep into me that i honestly believe it and like i created genuine feelings towards woman. I dont know what to think anymroe. I pray everynight god will Release me and somehow i feel like this is my punishment for not listenig to Him and i also todsy read in the bible That people who ignore god do things wrong when it comes to sexual stuff and that people wont be able to think clear anymore and that they will be lost and thats just me and im So afraid because the bible says people will be punished for it idk im so freaked out!!!! I wanna be a better person so bad but i cant when my brain is like this i need help from god but im scared he just rejects me vecause ive been a horrrible person. So selfish and i know my heart is ebtter than that but i cant set good apart from bad bevause my brain wont let me. Its like i dont give a shit about anyhting anymore and i miss me who could think clear and who was genuine and honored god. Its like ny current brain cant do that snymore it doesnt have the right functions for it anymorw. Like the good part in me had been cut out and im tryna find it but its destroyed and theres no way it will come back.
I watch a video about the deference between NOCD and denial and i was thinking what if I’m denying and I’m gay but idk if that’s the intrusive thoughts pls someone should explain
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