If you think someone is

… su*cidal, is it betraying their trust if you talk to someone about what they’ve been going through because you want to get advice from them on what to do. One of my friends has been saying he’s wanting to die. He’s not actually going to do it as he’s clarified but I just panicked so much these past few days and my mind kept waiting for the worst news. And my ocd has been affecting me a whole lot more than it has recently. Is it betraying a friend if I only talked to one of my other close friends who I trust with this info because I’m trying to help my friend and also I was spiraling in sadness as well…?

Username: a.sapphirea.sapphire

Date posted: 1y ago

Because what I’ve learned from mentors is that even when someone is expressing their wishes to die, you HAVE to talk to someone about this situation. Because when I was a teen in high school I would’ve felt so guilty for talking to an adult about it but they say you have to because it can save someone’s life? But in this case my friend isn’t actually going to do anything because he has to take care and support his mother.

Username: Anon.Anon.

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

You never know someone’s true intentions, and talking to someone who has tried to, in the moment you kind of stop thinking about everybody else and just focus on the pain you’re in. It’s a delicate situation, but if you have a therapist definitely ask their advice. Or seek counsel from one of the therapists on here. Call a suicide hotline and get their advice. Google credited therapists responses to this question. I can’t give you a specific answer on this one just suggestions, but it’s a tough situation to be in.

Username: Anon.Anon.

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anon. Talk to someone you trust with more life experience than you and seek their counsel, but I don’t think keeping it to yourself is the answer. This is an opinion though, and I’m not a licensed therapist or doctor

Username: Jesse M.Jesse M.

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

It's awesome that you are in a position to help. And it's also a really hard position to be in. No one expects you to do this perfectly. I can't speak to betrayal because that has to do with their feelings and your feelings. From what it sounds like you're doing the best you can and that's all anyone can do. It's really important to know that talking with someone about their suicidal thoughts doesn't make it more likely that they'll take action. Maybe talk with the person directly about what professional resources and self-help resources they can engage with? For example the phone number for the national suicide prevention hotline. And offer to be with them while they get support. You're a great friend for paying attention and wanting to help.

Username: Caitlin Caitlin

Date posted: 1y ago

For me I have been suicidal before and I. Completely understand what you said I would say that you’ve done the right thing the person may not be in active suicidal ideation but it is good talking to someone about it regardless of where they are in it it is important 💕👍🏻

Username: emilycb

Date posted: 1y ago

Suicidal thoughts vs suicidal OCD?

I have really been struggling the past few weeks. I have suicidal/harm OCD, and I’m very often met with intrusive awful suicidal thoughts that feel so so real. Recently, my therapist said that I might also be dealing with some trauma regarding these thoughts. Tonight, my brain kept telling me that I am past help and eventually, my therapist won’t know how to help me and I’ll end up harming myself. Sometimes I feel so alone and I have so much doubt about whether my suicidal thoughts are ocd or not… any advice?

Harm OCD

Username: Bluebells

Date posted: 37w ago

Help

I need some support from anyone who’s willing to offer it, please. My ocd, particularly scrupulosity, has been making my life a living hell. I can’t ignore my suspicions and compulsions and they rule my life. I’m debating whether or not the God I rely on even exists, and quite frankly I’ve been thinking about suicide. I don’t know how to tell my loved ones. I was in a position where I had to talk someone down from suicide at a young age and it crushed me afterwards. I know suicide is wrong, and I’m scared to think about it, but I don’t know how I can live. I just need someone to know.

Username: Cinnamoroll

Date posted: 34w ago

Friend gave bad advice

I have had pretty bad ROCD these past two years, and I recently went to a couple friends for advice (which my partner was okay with). A guy friend (WHO CLAIMS TO KNOW OF AND UNDERSTANDS OCD??) immediately began asking me if my fears of my partner cheating came from real concerns or not, and he kept asking. He kept saying that it could be intuition.😭 He then also told me it’s okay for people in relationships to have crushes on other people, which both my partner and I heavily disagree with. Like, finding someone attractive is one thing, but a crush???? 😭😭😭 He then continued to tell me ALL people have crushes while in a relationship, including him and his former gf. My OCD went wild, and while some of his advice helped, these points he made were DEVASTATING. Worst part, he claims to know and understand OCD (part of why I went to him for some tips)!!!!!!! So why the hell did he say these awfully triggering things!? Tbh, part of me wonders if he doesn’t believe I have OCD and so he wasn’t handling his advice with as much caution….

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