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- 2y ago
any advice to deal with groinal responses?
it’s really strong this time, like it feels constant. i’m just in need of some advice right now, thanks ❤️
it’s really strong this time, like it feels constant. i’m just in need of some advice right now, thanks ❤️
My best advice: create warmth around your tummy. It helps me relax because of all the anxiety going on in my lower body. Just like when I’m feeling really hurt, I’ll create warmth for my heart by placing a hand over it and breathing deeply. Whether it’s with a blanket, a heating pad, or just placing your hand over your tummy. Take deep breaths and drink water. This usually helps me relax. I hope it works for you, too
Honestly, my advice is to just sit with them. It sucks, but I would just let them be there and carry on with my day and ignore then I had a lot of one responses so I understand this a lot.
Hi there! The best thing to do is sit with it. A therapist who specializes in OCD that I follow on social media once said that our bodies react to what is sexually relevant, not to what we actually value or want. Another post I saw said that our responses to these things don’t check in with our values system first. Live your life according to your morals and values and let the sensation be there the best that you can.
what are groinal responses
Every time I go to bed late and I’m falling asleep, I suddenly get an intrusive thought of a child’s face and my groinal area always responds to it. It’s such an uncomfortable experience. I am way too tired to try and freak out so I end up falling asleep. The next morning I’m always trying to figure out whether I had the groinal response first or after the thought. I start giving OCD power but it feels like If I let it go, then I’m in denial or whatever. I don’t want to ever do anything sexual with a child. I don’t even feel comfortable talking platonically with people who are 17, much less a child. My therapist says that I have a deep rooted fear that I’m this horrible person and that OCD loves to feed off of it. When you get a groinal response, it makes the thought that much more real. I never want these things to happen. I want to only be into adults. It’s so discomforting and stressful. Especially since I’m hyper checking how anxious I am, and if I find I didn’t really have much anxiety, then I’m like “well if I didn’t have anxiety, what does this mean?” And more questions occur til I end up in a rabbit hole
I’m sharing this bc I need advice or even support from anyone who can relate. If you can’t relate and don’t think you’ll say anything helpful or kind pls don’t comment anything… I’ve been struggling with somethings that’s making me question myself. There has been moments while self pleasuring when I get intrusive thoughts, in those moments it feels like I’m enjoying or even self pleasuring myself bc of the thought. Right after I immediately have an anxiety attack and my HEART drops bc it feels terrible I feel like a disgusting monster :( ppl have told me I haven’t done a bad bc of how intense my guilt and panic are but I keep thinking that MAYBE I made a horrible decision in the moment and the guilt is just realising that it’s just wrong this doesn’t make sense to me because I’ve always told myself that I would never act on this in 1 million years and I’ve been known that these things are wrong so I’m just like constantly questioning myself these feelings and exact same situation has happened two times already I even promised myself that I wouldn’t act on anything beforehand and yeah, I still felt like I did act on my thought during my alone time I’m genuinely convinced that I’m a horrible and it’s even got into the point where I don’t wanna be here anymore and I don’t even think this is my OCD :( tbh
I’m on my period and o think my ocd feels a little worse today… I feel anxious and like something bad is about to happen, like I can’t move or talk cause I’ll freak out or snap and do something. Also I had a gronial response about an SA topic and I feel horrible, I’ve noticed that I do have these gronials as if I’m actually into that but idk if it can happen that you have the gronial and think “oh I’m horny, not about this but I am” is that possible? Idk how to say it… also I think I just want reassurance but I’m also scared…
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