Friendship OCD?

Can you have OCD but with a friendship? Like ROCD but without the romantical side, i guess? I have this one friend that I'm beginning to obsessively worry that I don't actually want to be friends with her, but I don't understand why. She's honestly a really great person, but sometimes can trigger some of my old OCD themes (not that she knows or does this intentionally of course). We met 2 or 3 months ago before a morning uni class and see each other a couple of times a week usually, and we've met each other outside of it twice and I felt like I honestly enjoyed myself. But I can't help but shake the feeling that I just don't want to be friends. What does this mean and how do I stop obsessing over it?

Relationship OCD

Username: yun444gyun444g

Date posted: 1y ago

YES. It’s literally the toughest thing in my life rn. I wish SOOOO badly there were more resources out there to help with non-romantic ROCD because I’m literally as single as can be rn lol all my obsessions are just about my friends. Basically I have a few friends who have big-ish personalities and can sometimes do or say things that just rub me the wrong way sometimes. Normally I can brush them off but if those feelings tend to linger, then I obsess HARD about whether or not I need to bring it up to them. It’s just tricky as hell because the confronting/confessing can also literally be a compulsion in of itself. Plus I get bitter toward these friends for making me obsess so much in the first place. It’s so hard, literally why isn’t there more help for non-romantic ROCD. I swear that 99% of the time my brain is just stewing over whether or not I need to have some “difficult” conversation with someone about xyz, I’m being a bad friend for not bringing it up, I’m being a bad friend FOR bringing it up, etc.

Username: SydnxyrSydnxyr

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@yun444g YES!! i always feel like im a bad friend or im offending my friend with everything i say or do its so hard, i always feel like my friendships are unstable but thats just my mind playing with me

Username: yun444gyun444g

Date posted: 1y ago

@Sydnxyr Right… and I get that ERP definitely helps but it’s hard to even know what ERP works for this. Are we supposed to just keep talking to our friends constantly?? Idgi, I’ve found that it’s much worse when I spend more time away from my friends because then of course I feel like a bad friend myself.

Username: SydnxyrSydnxyr

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@yun444g Yeh:( hang in there though keep trying ERP & don’t let OCD win!Wishing you the best !!

Username: ada110ada110

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

OCD can attach itself to anything and that includes non-romantic relationships yes. ERP 🙂

Username: SydnxyrSydnxyr

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Yes! I was wondering this exact thing because its never talked about anywhere online. But, i asked my therapist and she said ROCD can latch onto non-romantic relationships as well such as friendships!

Username: DealingwithOCD_DealingwithOCD_

Date posted: 1y ago

So happy I found this post. I’m currently struggling with this right now. Questioning if I want to continue being friends with a friend I have and they have done nothing bad or wrong to me. Before my OCD latched onto this friend, I already had been wanting space from this friend and even asked myself what else do I want from this friend a couple of years ago. Truthfully, I’ve been avoiding this friend. I’ve muted them on social media and asked for space as they wanted to chat. I know ERP requires exposure but I’m having a hard time differentiating between my OCD and what I truly want which is if I want to continue the friendship or not.

Username: _MO

Date posted: 2y ago

ROCD

I am in a really bad spot with my ROCD right now. I have been having terrible fears that I married the wrong person and that I don’t actually love him. One of my obsessions has been surrounding a guy friend of mine from a few years ago and wondering if I would’ve been better off married to him (we never dated, I was dating my husband then). But now I’m worried because If OCD attaches to what we love and value most, I’m concerned that I truly love that other guy - and even if I am having OCD, the fact that I’m obsessing over him/his wife and the idea I might’ve been better with him, doesn’t that mean something??? Anyone else experience this? I feel so beat down.

Relationship OCD

Username: edt

Date posted: 38w ago

ROCD

So I've been struggling with this for more than 1,5 years... My ocd about my relationship began so suddenly. At first it was just anxiety,but later it was about an old friend of mine. I had a huge crush on him before my bf and since I met my bf I didn't feel anything anymore and we just grew apart. Until my ocd thoughts started about the old friend. I keep comparing everything with him until I feel satisfied with the fact it's feels better with my bf than it would with the old friend. I don't want him!!! He wast the person I needed and me and my bf have such a beautiful relationship and I love him so much..the ocd goes and comes but it's always about the old griend and sometimes I begin to doubt the fact it's ocd or it's just meant to be with the old friend?? But I don't want that!!! I am so happy with my bf and I don't want the old friend!!!! I keep revising the same sentences to comfort myself and I can get trapped in the thoughts for minutes! How can I stop this...what if it goes on for more years ugggg....hoping the ocd goes away soon again. Because sometimes the thoughts do go away but now it's back...

Relationship OCD

Username: elliete_potato

Date posted: 29w ago

OCD ruining friendships

I feel like OCD is ruining all of my relationships and I hate it. My symptoms have been significantly better since I started on medication but recently I’ve been struggling with just constant thoughts that my friends don’t actually like me. I also reassurance seek a lot and so much so that I had a friend say we needed to take a break from being friends because she couldn’t deal with my excessive reassurance seeking. I just have this anxiety surrounding every single one of my friendships and this fear that they don’t care about me and I hate it. I’m scared of loosing more people because of OCD. I’m still young and I’m worried that I won’t ever be in a meaningful relationship because everyone I try to get close to will push me away because of my anxiety. I just hate OCD and I wish it wasn’t affecting my relationships to the point where I don’t feel like I can even reach out and talk to them.

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