I've been in a long distance and my ocd repetitively is trying to convince me that my relationship and boyfriend aren't even like real. This is bizarre I know obviously but it won't stop and it keeps popping in my mind like that's why you don't love him or you're living a lie. It's been so frequent that the panic has stopped but the thought isn't detaching. Someone please what do I do to get rid of it?
As long as this relationship is healthy and loving, tell yourself that no relationship is 100% perfect. There is no partner out there that doesn't have some type of flaw. Try to focus on the facts in your relationship (ex: how he treats you and others, hardworking, etc). This is what I have to remind myself too. I am also in a long distance for a little over a year now and struggle with the same thoughts that maybe I'm not in love with him. It's so hard so I do understand. ❤️❤️❤️
I been there it was hard I was 14 when I hade that thought after a few months I finally realized I will always have a choice to love my bf now I'm 15 and it's tuff but it's okay it's going to be okay trust me it gets so much better try sitting with the uncertainty trust me it takes time ans alot of trys but it's so worth it when you realize you have a choice and your thought and feelings aren't facts love you
@11/27/21 I'm also in a long distance BTW so trust me I understand
@11/27/21 Thanks.
You have to sit with it. The more you fight or argue with OCD the stronger it gets. ERP is really helpful.
I been where you were at the first thought I ever hade was you don't really love him and we are long distance I ended up breaking up eitj him but got back together you always have a choice no matter what you feel or think how long have you been together for
That's when my ocd first ever started I would throw up evey single time I hade the thought I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know I hade ocd how long have and your partner been together for
@11/27/21 We have been together 1 yr, 2 mos
@Sunshineflowers7 Hahaha oh me and my partner have been together for a year and soon 4 months
@Sunshineflowers7 Trust me it gers better just think about what I said I know it's hard I've been there I would throw up every night over my thoughts when I first hde them man it was horrible every single night
@11/27/21 It's going to get better we have a choice if we want to stay or not feelings and thoughts come and go so what if you don't feel inlove with your partner or don't care about them in the moment feelings come and go trust me I get it long distance is hard with ocd and especially with that thought but it gets better
@11/27/21 Thanks.
I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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