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- 6y
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- 6y
I can't speak to all of this, but I'll say a couple of things. If you're having trouble getting out of bed, just focus on it and try to do it, as best you can. Feel good about it, and feel good about the little things. Reward yourself. Also, let people be there for you and help you through this. It's the best way to stay out of your head.
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- 6y
I'm sorry you are going through that. It is really hard, I've been through that too. I don't know why you said that you are not a therapy person. Have you tried it ever, with a good trained behavioural specialist? I am afraid there is no other way out, my friend. You need to find a therapist that feels right for you. You need to reach out to friends and family abd let them know what you are going through, since they are not under the spell of "cognitive distortions" they might be able to think more clearly. There are intensive outpatient programs too in some clinics. It is not a bad idea to take a break from your life for a couple of months and recover and then go back to life - there's nothing shameful about it. It's better than just go on surviving for many years feeling miserable.
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- 6y
My family doesn’t believe in mental health and thinks everything can be overcome through just toughing it out. And i didn’t really vibe with the last 6 therapist I’ve tried the past 3 years. I just need someone to talk to and tell me I’m not crazy. Not do silly papers and such. Feels like a waste of time and is not the way my brain processes things. I tried the same therapist for 4 months once a week and she was a paper person. Just doesn’t work. I need someone to listen and confirm my thoughts and telling me I’m not crazy
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- 6y
You need to reach out to anybody who is more informed about mental health issues. Anybody, it can br a friend, a school counselor, an uncle, etc. YOU HAVE TO DO THAT. - It is fine that you haven't found the right therapist. I went through 5 too and the sixth was the charm. You need to find an expert on anxiety disorders. There is such a thing as "therapist shopping". This person needs to be an ally to you. Now, I can reassure you that you are not crazy(whatever that means) and that might comfort you for a little but eventually your mind will find something else. A sign that you are not losing your mind is that you are in touch with reality and super aware of your challenges. Having anxiety, depression, sadness, shame over our bodies, eating disorders, moody swings, etc. That is completely normal for a human being to have. You are a human just like anybody else. It is O.K no to feel O.K All the time. It is O.K to have mental health issues, that does not make you a crazy person.
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- 6y
Thank you for that. I have nobody and have tried countless times to reach out and that’s inevitably why i downloaded this app. To have likeminded people who understand such a complex illness. I just need validation but that may not be the purpose of this app. So thank you for helping
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- 6y
I don't know if you've tried but what works really well for me is yoga and meditation, really focusing on breathing. I find 9 times out of 10 when I'm in a loop it's because I wasn't breathing much. I tend to breathe shallowly and even hold my breath at times. Also just walking out in the fresh air. Always use this app to talk about an issue or just hear others problems sometimes helps to take your mind off your own.
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- 22w
I don’t know what I can do. I guess this is more of a depression thing than OCD but who knows. I have been battling this ongoing war within myself for years now and it’s been affecting my academic performance. situation of mine right now: I haven’t done a lot of work for my classes this month and I feel like I’m going to fail the semester again. I don’t know what it is but I can never seem to begin any work. I know I am capable but why can’t I get myself to start? why has this been going on for so long? I don’t understand. I have a history of good grades back in high school before I turned 17. I don’t even know how to describe it. it’s like I’ve been paralyzed and cannot do any work. but I can somehow do offside tasks like pinterest boards or random youtube videos. if I get rid of those, what do I do? I end up sleeping. because I’m tired. I have a low vitamin D deficiency & have been trying to get energy. I’m at a loss. I also bought unnecessary stuff on sunday when I went out with my family. I bought some things for the kids and I ended up buying myself a dress and a few accessories. now I have to work extra to gain that money back doing uber eats because I need it asap. it’s like I don’t want to work, for now. my coworkers who are around my age don’t work as much & I think to myself, “wow, they must be getting in the work done” meanwhile I’m working 3 days a week (which isn’t much) and attending school. I feel like if I change my schedule again, I’ll ruin it for the rest of my driver coworkers. I’m in a lead position at work so having to put on a mask is quite tiring. there’s so much I want to say that I don’t think it will fit in this post. I have booked a mental health session with a school counselor. all I want at the moment is to have my own place and be in a better mental state to take care of my cats. they mean a lot to me but this stupid ass undiagnosed mental issue is getting in the way. sorry for the long rant. I am tired.
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- 21w
i am a freshman in college and i have always struggled with depression, anxiety, and OCD. i have never received help for my OCD despite being medicated for my other two issues. i have noticed that what most of my panic stems from is my OCD and more specifically my OCD around school. i haven’t been able to get myself up for class for multiple days and im starting to panic about everything im missing and think about every little thing i have to fix. i am so behind that it makes me want to panic and i feel like i cant fix this. i just want my mind to feel normal but it feels like my whole world is falling apart all because i am feeling stuck in school. please help me i just want to feel okay but i dont know how to. i have tried doing all the assignments i can do to catch up but it isn’t enough i still feel so panicked
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- 14w
First off - I’m sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldn’t pick one struggle and settle with it. I’m not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someone’s advice please. I love hearing everyone’s advice on posts because it’s so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesn’t feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but it’s also been thorough and constructive enough where it’s reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and I’m so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think it’d drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and it’s been teaching me so many amazing techniques. I’ve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. I’ve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. I’d do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. I’d make his bed for him multiple times, but I haven’t done that for myself in years. I’d sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but he’d never do the same and I’d never do the same for me. I’m also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I don’t want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping they’ll think I’m pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I don’t understand it. Ocd makes me think everything’s a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I won’t be successful, I’ll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCD’s version of “logic” isn’t even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where I’m dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and it’s a very odd and bizarre feeling. I’m excited of course, but I’m also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like “what if I will never make the most of this life I’ve been given”, “what if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other people’s lives is a background character”, “why do I care if I’m a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like me”, “are people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?”, “I need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am now”, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes it’s like I just can’t take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what I’m saying? Can anyone help?
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