- Username
- Curls.90
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Sorry to hear you are feeling like this. Not seeking for reassurance is not the same as not seeking for help and support. It is completely O.K to ask for help and support for YOU not for your obsession. You can calk people, write here, etc. And tell them that you are having a hard time with your feelings and that you wish someone could give you some words of encouragement and hugs in order to keep working on your treatment (If you have moderate/severe OCD you need treatment). That is completely O.K. You are a human and need compassion. What is not O.K is to address the content of your obsessions and ask people if they think they are true or what they mean or what they think about them.
I think no one does really come to terms with not seeking advice... It‘s the hardest part in my opinion, but you have to stay strong because when you resist it will get better believe me... I know it sucks but there are good and bad days, try to keep that in mind, today might be bad but maybe it can be better tomorrow but only if you resist!? stay strong✨
Reassurance is like you try to be comfy with your OCD?
Reassurance is asking for information related to your obsession with the intent to make it go away or disprove it. Some of mine are with my wife are: Do you think I am a bad person? Do you think I should call the police? How bad was it? Do you think I should be capable of that? You can also seek reassurance by searching online on forums, etc. Support and self-compassion do not address the obsession at all (The perpetrator) only the person (The victim).
Hi, so I’ve recently found out that asking for reassurance isn’t a good way to help OCD (that’s understandable), and I was wondering to what extent is reassurance bad? Eg, reassuring yourself that things will be okay, or that some of the things you obsess over are untrue and aren’t helpful things to think about? I probably sound a little stupid so apologies! I’m just unsure as to what is healthy and what is not! (Sorry if this is confusing, I have just splatted my thoughts down!)
Hi im new to this group but wondering if anyone has had a similar experience to mine. I went to doctors today for a review of new medication (mirtazapine) my previous doctor was update with her knowledge of mental health and had previously worked for crisis team (a support line for mental health here in the UK). Unfortunately she was on part of her training and it came to an end so I was left with a different doctor for today's review who was not understanding of my harm ocd at all. I asked for reassurance for my intrusive thoughts and in response was told its not normal because not everyone with ocd has them. I wasnt aure how to take this comment? It sent me into sheer panic as I left the doctors surgery and even worse rumination about wether or not I'm normal! I know harm ocd can be a taboo subject but I mean for a doctor not to understand is very frustrating. Anyone else experienced similar? I'm by no means seeking reassurance just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.
Please reply, I know this can be seen as seeking reassurance but I think in some cases people need it and I am really suffering and am not in therapy or have ever been 😞 Is it possible with harm ocd that you can get use to the thought to the point you don’t get anxiety but the ‘urges’ can still be there? Or it feels like you ‘want’ to act on it or ‘like it’ or my head has literally convinced me that I like the feeling of doing that horrible thing and I get no anxiety when thinking about the thoughts (thoughts about smothering) and it’s stressing me out because I get no anxiety but it feels like I would suddenly lash out and do that and it’s because I ‘know how it feels to do that and enjoy/like the feeling of doing that/stopping someone from breathing with a pillow) I feel very upset and don’t know what to do, I’m carrying on with things but I’m constantly carrying this with me and I’m not stressing out over it every second of the day but I feel like I just don’t know what to do it feels so real and like it would actually happen and it’s ‘not the right circumstance for it to happen’ and Im just a mess and don’t know how I can live my life this way, believing this? It feels like it would happen or is inevitable and it would be because I like the feeling of smothering and it’s so horrible and I don’t know what to do I don’t even feel any bad feelings of anxiety or anything anymore but the other fake urges/feelings are there and it’s weird and I’m worried and don’t know how to deal with this
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