Curls.90
- Date posted
- 6y
FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 6y
Sorry to hear you are feeling like this. Not seeking for reassurance is not the same as not seeking for help and support. It is completely O.K to ask for help and support for YOU not for your obsession. You can calk people, write here, etc. And tell them that you are having a hard time with your feelings and that you wish someone could give you some words of encouragement and hugs in order to keep working on your treatment (If you have moderate/severe OCD you need treatment). That is completely O.K. You are a human and need compassion. What is not O.K is to address the content of your obsessions and ask people if they think they are true or what they mean or what they think about them.
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 6y
I think no one does really come to terms with not seeking advice... It‘s the hardest part in my opinion, but you have to stay strong because when you resist it will get better believe me... I know it sucks but there are good and bad days, try to keep that in mind, today might be bad but maybe it can be better tomorrow but only if you resist!? stay strong✨
SickMannnnSickMannnn
- Date posted
- 6y
Reassurance is like you try to be comfy with your OCD?
FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 6y
Reassurance is asking for information related to your obsession with the intent to make it go away or disprove it. Some of mine are with my wife are: Do you think I am a bad person? Do you think I should call the police? How bad was it? Do you think I should be capable of that? You can also seek reassurance by searching online on forums, etc. Support and self-compassion do not address the obsession at all (The perpetrator) only the person (The victim).
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- User type
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- Date posted
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