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- 6y
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- 6y
If we keep striving for happiness thinking it is at the end of the road, we will never reach it. I think if we are grateful and accept that anxiety is part of existence, we can learn to be happy rather than continually striving for something unrealistic. Not to say this is the case if your anxiety is crippling, but it sounds like you are doing exactly what you're meant to. Be proud of your growth!
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- 6y
I agree with what everyone wrote above. Sometimes we set up happiness like it’s the finish line of some race and all the therapy and wellness stuff we’re doing is to try to run there faster, but happiness isn’t at the end, it’s here and now when we let it in and it’s also not sometimes and that’s okay too. Don’t wait for your anxiety to be gone to be happy. Be happy even though anxiety may always be a part of you life or one way or another.
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- 6y
Hi! I understand exactly what you are going through and from my experience the biggest thing getting in my way with anxiety is the desire for it to be gone, because it’s an unrealistic expectation. The resistance to it and longing for it to be gone was the most distressful part of it. The most helpful thing for me has been slowing down, and accepting that I’m feeling anxious and not feeling 100%
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- 6y
I can relate. Therapy, medication, journaling, meditation, yoga, biking, eating right, reading, etc. It’s exhausting! My therapist says that just because you’re taking all the steps, there is no guarantee that your mind and body will take to it all immediately. Patience is key, in other words. Best of luck!
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- 10w
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- 7w
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