So I’m just getting scared because every time I do something with my boyfriend I say is this what I want? Am I happy? Then I think about this kid I had a thing with over a year ago and I’m convinced that I like wanna be with him and not my boyfriend and it’s just so hard I’m so worried and so afraid that it’s just how I feel.. then I get worry to settle even tho it’s like a switch just flipped from one day to the next..

this really relates to the situation i’m in and it makes me feel like such a horrible person because i know i love who i’m currently with but i seriously cannot stop thinking about someone who i was once with before (and it was years before i was even dating the person i’m with now so it makes no sense to me) so you’re not alone. I honestly haven’t found a way of trying to solve this yet, i’m not sure if i even know how but i do think about just having a break from relationships altogether, as you’ll be on your own and if you want to see whoever at one time, i’m guessing that isn’t hurting anyone if you make it known you’re not looking for a serious relationship or even a relationship. But, this can be very hard and for me, would probably make me feel worse but atleast i’m free.

is there anything you can think about to get these thoughts out of your head at the time they come? like something quick to say to yourself? idk if this makes sense but with me, i tend to think the person i’m with is the other person and that’s sooooo messed up but in that moment, i just quickly repeat the person i’m with over and over again so it gets out of my mind so maybe like a safe place in your mind would help getting these thoughts out by thinking of something only you and your boyfriend knows or have been?

I’ve been in a relationship for over 8 years and have been dealing with this exact problem the entire time. It has caused me to break up with him before, but I ended up regretting it right after. Just remember that if you actually wanted to break up with him or be with someone else, you would be more certain. It wouldn’t be something you question so much. Whenever I’m having bad ROCD, I just remember that my OCD uses my fears against me. I fear losing my boyfriend, I fear cheating on my boyfriend, I fear hurting people (emotionally or physically). OCD will use any of your fears and anxieties against you. Knowing this helped me accept my ROCD intrusive thoughts and they don’t affect me as much anymore.

I’m scared I keep asking myself is this what I want? Do I want the other guy? Yet this guy didn’t wanna date me for real so I ended things and now it’s like it’s repressed feelings all of a sudden... I’m so worried

I know it’s so hard but try not to worry about it, time will tell what happens and if you make a mistake, that’s just life and everything happens for their certain reasons. I personally believe feelings will always come and go and maybe if you know you should be with a certain person, then go with your gut.

I just hate it because I don’t wanna go with a gut feeling cause idk if it’s anxiety.. and I’ve just been nervous about like having sex or kissing cause I ask myself if I’m enjoying it or if I’m turned on by it... it makes me so sad and I’m just so confused