rachieboo102
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- 5y
eloiseeloise
- Date posted
- 5y
this really relates to the situation i’m in and it makes me feel like such a horrible person because i know i love who i’m currently with but i seriously cannot stop thinking about someone who i was once with before (and it was years before i was even dating the person i’m with now so it makes no sense to me) so you’re not alone. I honestly haven’t found a way of trying to solve this yet, i’m not sure if i even know how but i do think about just having a break from relationships altogether, as you’ll be on your own and if you want to see whoever at one time, i’m guessing that isn’t hurting anyone if you make it known you’re not looking for a serious relationship or even a relationship. But, this can be very hard and for me, would probably make me feel worse but atleast i’m free.
eloiseeloise
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- 5y
is there anything you can think about to get these thoughts out of your head at the time they come? like something quick to say to yourself? idk if this makes sense but with me, i tend to think the person i’m with is the other person and that’s sooooo messed up but in that moment, i just quickly repeat the person i’m with over and over again so it gets out of my mind so maybe like a safe place in your mind would help getting these thoughts out by thinking of something only you and your boyfriend knows or have been?
BennieBennie
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- 5y
I’ve been in a relationship for over 8 years and have been dealing with this exact problem the entire time. It has caused me to break up with him before, but I ended up regretting it right after. Just remember that if you actually wanted to break up with him or be with someone else, you would be more certain. It wouldn’t be something you question so much. Whenever I’m having bad ROCD, I just remember that my OCD uses my fears against me. I fear losing my boyfriend, I fear cheating on my boyfriend, I fear hurting people (emotionally or physically). OCD will use any of your fears and anxieties against you. Knowing this helped me accept my ROCD intrusive thoughts and they don’t affect me as much anymore.
rachieboo102rachieboo102
- Date posted
- 5y
I’m scared I keep asking myself is this what I want? Do I want the other guy? Yet this guy didn’t wanna date me for real so I ended things and now it’s like it’s repressed feelings all of a sudden... I’m so worried
eloiseeloise
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- 5y
I know it’s so hard but try not to worry about it, time will tell what happens and if you make a mistake, that’s just life and everything happens for their certain reasons. I personally believe feelings will always come and go and maybe if you know you should be with a certain person, then go with your gut.
rachieboo102rachieboo102
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- 5y
I just hate it because I don’t wanna go with a gut feeling cause idk if it’s anxiety.. and I’ve just been nervous about like having sex or kissing cause I ask myself if I’m enjoying it or if I’m turned on by it... it makes me so sad and I’m just so confused
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Mariabae
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- 25w
i feel bad
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
Anonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 25w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 14w
HELP PLS I NEED ADVICE
Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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