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- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I agree in some ways but don't call it ridiculous thats just a bit mean really. Alot of people are new to this including myself and don't always understand what's good for us and what isn't. We need to be kind to eachother not call eachother ridiculous. Some of us are more experienced than others. Its still all new to me and although I know I shouldn't ask for reassurance I still want to seek help and advice from those who've been through similar situations. Please don't call people ridiculous have some empathy and be nicer about it.
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- 5y ago
I know, that’s the first thing I learned too, and I actually learned it from here. It really makes me sad, cause I know that most of them, are posted by teens, and I feel that instead of getting the help they need, they’re just momentarily calming their anxiety, and I agree with you, it’s a vicious cycle. Ive been there, and I really don’t want them to be trapped in that hole.
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- 5y ago
Where did I call people ridiculous? I said THE AMOUNT OF POSTS is ridiculous, I would never call any fellow ocd sufferer ridiculous cause I am going trough it too, maybe not the same theme, but where all in this together. There are many ways we can help each other, giving reassurance it’s not one of them.
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- 5y ago
Just saying the posts are ridiculous is enough. At least word it in a nicer way that's all I'm saying. I would of worded it alot differently like I said remember this is all new to alot of people. And we have to learn for ourselves that seeking reassurance isn't the way to do it. It's a massive thing to get your head around I know it was for me, and although I've been told seeking reassurance isn't the way to deal with it I still find it very hard not too and find it hard to understand.
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- 5y ago
Again, I’m not calling the posts ridiculous, just the AMOUNT, as in there are A LOT of posts seeking reassurance, please don’t put words in my mouth (or my post lol). I’m not saying they say ridiculous things. I have gone thru every theme, and believe me, I know the anxiety and the pain that comes with this disorder, so I would never minimize people’s feelings. I just think there are way waaay too much posts seeking reassurance.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
agreed tbh. the first thing i learnt was that you're not meant to seek reassurance, so seeing the top ten posts bring reassurance seeking really was wild. i don't necessarily think it's the fault of those people, but those who are responding to and reassuring them. it creates a vicious cycle
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- 5y ago
Yeah I understand it's hard though. Sometimes I find myself asking for reassurance in such an abstract way that I almost fool myself into thinking I'm not really asking for reassurance. They maybe don't even realise themselves
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes cipherseven, it can happen, but I’ve notice that they keep on going even after they get the nocd app message that says that it seems that they’re looking for reassurance, like they don’t even care or even pay attention to it.
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- 23w ago
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- 13w ago
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