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- 5y
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- 5y
I agree in some ways but don't call it ridiculous thats just a bit mean really. Alot of people are new to this including myself and don't always understand what's good for us and what isn't. We need to be kind to eachother not call eachother ridiculous. Some of us are more experienced than others. Its still all new to me and although I know I shouldn't ask for reassurance I still want to seek help and advice from those who've been through similar situations. Please don't call people ridiculous have some empathy and be nicer about it.
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- 5y
I know, that’s the first thing I learned too, and I actually learned it from here. It really makes me sad, cause I know that most of them, are posted by teens, and I feel that instead of getting the help they need, they’re just momentarily calming their anxiety, and I agree with you, it’s a vicious cycle. Ive been there, and I really don’t want them to be trapped in that hole.
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- 5y
Where did I call people ridiculous? I said THE AMOUNT OF POSTS is ridiculous, I would never call any fellow ocd sufferer ridiculous cause I am going trough it too, maybe not the same theme, but where all in this together. There are many ways we can help each other, giving reassurance it’s not one of them.
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- 5y
Just saying the posts are ridiculous is enough. At least word it in a nicer way that's all I'm saying. I would of worded it alot differently like I said remember this is all new to alot of people. And we have to learn for ourselves that seeking reassurance isn't the way to do it. It's a massive thing to get your head around I know it was for me, and although I've been told seeking reassurance isn't the way to deal with it I still find it very hard not too and find it hard to understand.
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- 5y
Again, I’m not calling the posts ridiculous, just the AMOUNT, as in there are A LOT of posts seeking reassurance, please don’t put words in my mouth (or my post lol). I’m not saying they say ridiculous things. I have gone thru every theme, and believe me, I know the anxiety and the pain that comes with this disorder, so I would never minimize people’s feelings. I just think there are way waaay too much posts seeking reassurance.
- Date posted
- 5y
agreed tbh. the first thing i learnt was that you're not meant to seek reassurance, so seeing the top ten posts bring reassurance seeking really was wild. i don't necessarily think it's the fault of those people, but those who are responding to and reassuring them. it creates a vicious cycle
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- 5y
Yeah I understand it's hard though. Sometimes I find myself asking for reassurance in such an abstract way that I almost fool myself into thinking I'm not really asking for reassurance. They maybe don't even realise themselves
- Date posted
- 5y
Yes cipherseven, it can happen, but I’ve notice that they keep on going even after they get the nocd app message that says that it seems that they’re looking for reassurance, like they don’t even care or even pay attention to it.
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- 22w
I was going to ask for advice and vent after i just had an episode but reading through everyones post on here. I can see that everyone is collectively struggling at the moment and i think we need to utilize this community for more than just sharing our sadness. Nothing is wrong with venting of course but i feel like there isnt enough positive energy here to encourage everyone to keep going. I know asking for reassure feels like a must sometimes and trust me everyone has asked for it, it was a heavy compulsion of mine. But reassure is not what you need. It will make it worse everyone please trust me. Instead of letting out mind win we must support each other, understand our struggles but also share out wins. I feel like we dont use this community enough for finding friendship among us or spreading enough happiness. OCD Is not a happy disorder but seeing that everyone here is just here either hating on someone, people being too afraid to ask for help or no one reading peoples post. This place isnt just for our negative thoughts and events to fester we need to support each other here too! Ask for help, comment on peoples post with love everyone is struggling. In this community we should help pull each other out from dark places not let them stay there. I hope everyone who is going through it right has a better night/day/afternoon. You’re loved deeply your not a monster, your not evil, your not dirty, your not a heretic your Nothing your thoughts tell you are. Peace to you🤍🤍🤍🤍
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- 20w
OK, this might sound really dumb, but when you guys get intrusive thoughts, do they just come once and then go away? I’ve heard that repeatedly thinking about an intrusive thought is considered ‘checking,’ but it doesn’t feel like I have any control over how many times it comes up in my head. It’s not like I’m trying to check anything—it just keeps showing up, almost like it’s terrorizing me every time. I can’t seem to stop it from looping, stop remembering it, or prevent it from coming up. Every time it does, I feel horrified, and I already know it’s going to horrify me. I don’t think I’m actively trying to see if my feelings have changed, so is this still considered checking? How do other people get an intrusive thought and just move on? Doesn’t it pop up a million times for them too? I always thought that was normal, but now I’m hearing this could be a compulsion, and I feel really confused, scared, and lost. Is this why my OCD feels so extreme? Because I really don’t feel like I can control how many times the thought pops up.
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- 15w
harm ocd is the bane of my existence. people always tell me that if you have anxiety over a thought, that’s ocd. and these intrusive thoughts cause me IMMENSE anxiety. i’m constantly looking for reasons why i’m not what these thoughts tell me i am. but WHY DOES IT FEEL SO REAL?? it’s like i can’t reassure myself that this isn’t me and i don’t want to do it, but i also look for reasons why it’s not me. my brain is constantly telling me “if you don’t act on this, you’ll never feel free”. WHAT EVEN IS THAT?? and why does it feel real?? anytime i think about getting therapy, i constantly think that it’s not going to help me positively but help me realize i am this person. i just wish someone with harm ocd could get into my brain, understand me, and tell me everything will be okay. i wish someone in recovery could tell me that they’ve been where i am, felt the same feelings, thought the same thoughts, and got through it when they thought they wouldn’t. i feel like i’m drowning in it. another thing is i think about how my mom knows a surface level understanding to this form of my ocd, but if she knew it all, i’m scared she’d never look at me the same. i’m scared she’d be scared of me and think i need psychiatric help. IM TERRIFIED.
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