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- aquarius01
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- 5y ago
Maybe they have hocd too? Hahha
She's hot! Never heard of her before
That’s what I’m thinking ?
So what if she's bi? So what if YOU'RE bi? It wouldn't make you a new person or even a different person. The more you fear it, the worse your OCD will get.
No it wouldn't. Being bi doesn't mean anything was a lie nor does it mean your life has to change. Being bi doesn't make you a new person, being bi means you still have attraction to the opposite sex, how does that equate to your life being a lie? It does not. This is irrational. There is no "bisexual life". You're in control of what you do, being bi wouldn't mean you're compelled to act on anything. This is OCD black and white thinking.
Yeah if we are all bi, big whoop. Literally changes nothing other than it gives you another opportunity to date someone. Having crippling depression and anxiety about it isn't normal, that's OCD because it's not even related to being gay or bi. Like I've said in replies before, it's an identity issue. Instead of fighting it, just say to yourself "yep cool I'm bi. Now what?". Be sarcastic to your OCD, because there is literally nothing problematic about being bi, it's OCD and identity issues. Also, try and separate sexuality from identity, attraction to someone doesn't equal an identity, nor should a sexuality be all that you are.
Yes. But you can't do it for reassurance. You can't do exposures whilst you feel reassured because "it's just OCD". You have to actually confront the feared scenario and not respond with conscious fear or compulsions.
Deep breaths, meditation, prayers, positive affirmations, working out in the gym, martial arts...do all the things that keep u stronger and in control
I doubt it. She seemed pretty proud of it lol
Haha probably trying to get more publicity
uhh it would be the worst thing to ever happen to me @Cheeks
And why is that?
I'm sure a lot of girls would see her and think shes hot. She's attractive woman, shes not my type and that okay too. Every man wont be attracted to every attractive woman. Every woman won't be attracted to every attractive man
Because I don’t want to be and I don’t want that life. That would mean that my whole life has been a lie and that I changed somehow. It would be awful. @Cheeks
It would be a pretty significant change if I was suddenly attracted to girls when my whole life I was attracted to guys only. Nobody wants to go from being straight to gay/bi. It would change our lives significantly. Nobody would be on here if we didn’t have a problem with it. @Cheeks
You say nobody would want their life to change going to bi but julianne hough just came out as bi. Has her life changed? No, she is still married to her husband who is supportive and want her to be happy
Yeah but she probably always knew she was and didn’t get crippling anxiety and depression from it either @ProgressNotPerfection
Now you're doing julianne houghs thinking for her. You don't know the inner workings of her mind
Well then great. So there’s a chance that she’s experienced everything we have and that we’re all probably bi. Great.
Is this an exposure technique? @Cheeks
If u don’t wanna be bi then just don’t act on ur thoughts my dear
Just kind of ignore them and re-focus on something which u want to do or wanna be
Focus on what u want to achieve in life and just ignore these thoughts as distractions
Don’t be angry over them or depressed or anything... just make an effort to ignore them and instead, focus on the task at hand I.e whatever u r doing at that particular moment
Slowly and gradually u will be able to have mastery over ur mind
That’s what I try to do anyway ?
Hopefully we will win in the end ???
My best wishes and prayers r with u ?
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
Basically my good friend came out as bi. We were talking about how our parents would be if we said we had a boyfriend and she was like they wouldn’t be happy if she got a boyfriend let alone a girlfriend. I want to be supportive of her but when she said it I got wave anxiety and I feel like she might of thought I wasn’t supportive. So when ever I see her I feel like I have to be over happy like smiling and waving just so she doesn’t think I judge her which I don’t. Before hocd I just thought of being bi, gay, lesbian as normal as being straight even though my parents were homophobic and now I believe in my heart that but my brain has other things to say about it. So I don’t know what to do because I feel like I’m going back as this happened before when this other girl was bi, I would get such anxiety sitting next to her.
i just has a thought that i would like to share... i think that a lot of teens could be going through HOCD in this day and age because there is so much about the LGBTQ community in the media (not like that’s a bad thing btw) back in the day, like maybe the 90s, HOCD was categorised as “fear of being gay” not “fear of being bi” i think a lot of us teens have a fear of being bi because that is seen as a valid sexuality but back in the day i don’t think it was. it was either all or nothing. being gay used to be seen as such a taboo so back then if you were to tell anyone you were getting intrusive thoughts about being gay it would be seen as ghastly and horrible. but now you tell someone who doesn’t get the nature of Pure O and they’d say “oMg iTs 2020 aCcEpT yOuRsElF, gEt WiTh ThE tImEs” which makes it harder for us teens to get through this. i also had a thought that depending on whether you’re a girl or guy, HOCD is difficult in different ways most straight girls watch lesbian porn cus it focuses on female pleasure - HOCD manipulates that i’ve seen tweets saying shit like “how are women even straight have you see a woman naked?” - like sis....really? i’ve seen articles saying women are never straight either bi or lesbian- ....anyways.... - being a straight girl going through HOCD, seeing all that is difficult and not only this but HOCD is focused heavily on straight men and it really pisses me off. all the books i’ve real on HOCD all talk about men specifically and their groinal responses and it’s like...what about me? for guys: the groinal response is more noticeable that’s the biggest struggle i could think of for guys since i don’t know what you guys go through exactly i’ve been told by people that i give of a bisexual vibe because i’m quirky....i literally don’t even know at this point, i could breathe and someone would be like “oMg YoUrE sO bIsExUaL” (ง'̀-'́)ง i kinda want HOCD to be spoken about more cus i feel like it’s one of those OCD subcategories that aren’t really deemed as that important since being gay isn’t a taboo anymore. i feel this way too with ROCD these have just been my thoughts, agree or not idc i just wanted to express my feelings ( ˘ ³˘)♥
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