Any tips guys? ☹️ I’m going on holiday with my boyfriend tomorrow for 2 weeks and I need to NOT confess anything while I’m with him 24/7 ? how do you not confess something that you feel guilty about?

I’m on holiday with my family at the moment And I have sexual intrusive thoughts about my dad and we don’t live together but have had to share a room with my 2 sister as well First few nights it wasn’t easy for me but as the holiday has progressed I have got more used to it and although I have bad moments there are good

Thank you ciz! I’m so glad your holiday is going better! That’s comforting to hear

Apr: thanks so much! Yeah I’ve never felt guilty about it before. It’s not ideal and it would hurt him if I told him. There’s no reason why I need to upset him and potentially upset our relationship. I KNOW that confessing would make me feel better until my OCD found something else to focus on.

100% agree there! My ocd had been so transfixed on another thing for the past 3 weeks and that seems to have run its course and now its attacking something close to me. I have a clearer outlook in the evening and i can almost watch my thoughts??? (Does that make sense?) And it’s like watching a wildlife programme where a lion is rapidly chasing loads of zebra around trying to catch them. WOW I SOUND MAD ? but that’s the only way I can describe it ??‍♀️

Exactly! It’s all about starving the OCD of compulsions. OCD doesn’t want to make you happy so the compulsions aren’t ever going to help, they will only make things worse if you give in.

AB-xoxo: Confessing, if it's about something you did/thought, does NOT change the fact that whatever you feel guilty to confess has already happened or been thought of. Confessing seems to make us feel better because it tricks us into thinking we've absolved ourselves of responsibility, when in reality, we haven't. Try to remember that confessing is OCD's way of trying to trick you into feeling bad, when you really, most likely, have nothing to feel bad about. Best wishes!

If you haven't felt guilty before, perhaps your OCD has run out of things to attack, and now it's going after this thought! Try to turn down the volume, so to speak, on the broken OCD record!

Confessing what?

Sorry selsabil, it’s a complicated thing to explain on here and I don’t want to talk about it or give it attention as then I would be giving in to the ‘confessing’ compulsion ? is there a specific reason why you asked?

Sorry I didn’t mean to distress you. For what I understood this is an OCD forum (kinda thing), so wasn’t aware that there might be any closed to members discussions. No, was asking cause I thought you meant confessing my ocd to him and feeling anxious because of the judgment that might come, that’s why I asked.

Oh I see! Yeah he knows about my OCD but my OCD seems to have made my brain turn on my relationship and making me want to confess things that could ruin us (but that I have never worried about before)

Oh ok. Therefore the compulsion per se is the confession? I apologise if I seem lost Dory, but I’ve never connected with ocd people so I’m getting to know the spectrum and variety. Anyway, I genuinely thought about something similar but specific to my case yesterday. I got COCD, and I kept going though every shelf of my brain to understand or find the very start of this, and why this specifically subgroup. Then it just came up to me (I am not sure that this is the originating reason, but I believe is big part of it), I hate being touched, you can think of it physically or emotionally (as in contaminated from people and deviated for who I want to be). I just don’t like people in my personal space and headspace. I don’t know, I’m just saying this because I’m sure as all of us you just want a normal life and get better. But we have to stop feeding the monster with the compulsions and break logically the thoughts, ones for all, then maybe try to understand why the urge to almost danger the relationship. Why not keeping safe (I know OCD, but why?).