- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
I hope you’re able to completely cut this person out of your life. I’m not sure why they chose to attack you like this but clearly they are in need of some serious mental health treatment themselves. I’m sorry you have been outed in this way for your mental illness. It must be incredibly difficult to manage the emotions that come with such an invasion of privacy and it would be difficult for anyone, not just those with OCD. This person had no right to discuss or reveal anything about your mental health to others. If they had a genuine concern for children because they misunderstood your illness, there were certainly better routes to take to ensure no one was endangered. But as we all know, people with POCD are not in fact dangers to anyone, except maybe themselves and their own happiness. At this point I’d probably take a proactive approach with any friends or family members she has talked to. Rather than letting rumors fly, gather up some resources and have a conversation with each. Explain your diagnosis, how you’ve sought treatment, and share some articles with them about your illness. If you’re willing, you can offer to be open to follow up questions, but you can just end it by saying you’d rather not discuss a very painful aspect of your mental health recovery any further. I’m so sorry this happened. I hope your support system helps reinforce that you’ve done nothing wrong here.
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- 6y
wats happening - - thoughts - anxiety - trying to solve the thought to end anxiety - wasting time + more anxiety - endless trap wat to do - - thoughts - anxiety - focus on breathing - mind is on breath hence its calm - intruding thought is still there but anxiety is missing, hence the thought is powerless & u can see that it does not even need ur attention. - keep focusing on breath.. - the thought might never go away or go & come back...but whatever happens its none of ur business anymore... (incoming of the thought is reminder to go back to focusing on breathing). how to focus on breathing : wen u inhale - say 1 in ur mind & focus on the inhaling process. wen u exhale - say 2 in ur mind & focus on the exhaling process.
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- 6y
Thank you so much. Xx
- Date posted
- 6y
Thank you so much for your reply. Everyone who knows me knows I have ocd and what type so i suppose that wasn't the issue. This person even helped me when i was going through a bout of it this year but she has now decided to mock me because of my mental health. She was supposed to be a friend but in fact was the complete opposite and found it necessary to try and hurt me and bring on my ocd again. She is completely and utterly out of my life and i will never be fooled into letting her back into my life like I did when I lost my mum 2 years ago. I hadn't spoken to her for a few years as she told me she had cancer and had 5 years to live....it was all a lie. She certainly needs help. I am comfortable knowing that I have ocd and that my dearest friends and family know about it. They all completely understand it and realise how I have suffered over the years. I just feel utterly betrayed and humiliated really by this person. She also owes me money. She entered back into my life when I was at my most vulnerable. I WILL NOT allow this very sad person make me ill like she obviously wanted to. I am just a very sensitive person who worries what others think about me! Part of my ocd ! Thank you once again for your kind words. It helps me immensely knowing that there are other people out there with the same symptoms and I dont feel so alone. I have read the book by bryony Gordon and she had exactly the same ocd symptoms u get from time to time. It's just a shame that some simple and ignorant people thinks it's fun to mock others. Oh...and she is a carer to vulnerable people.....unbelievable! Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart. Xx
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- 20w
I'm new to NOCD, but not new to my own OCD journey. I was diagnosed in 2017 and usually experience relationship obsessions. Medication helped me tremendously and I was able to tackle and overcome the anxiety I felt when my husband and I first got together. Fast forward to now. My best friend has decided to casually enter the dating world again and that terrifies me. The fact that it scared me triggered an HOCD spiral, that I think I've now gotten myself out of. I just feel pathetic for being so fearful that my friend is going to realize she's too good for me and leave me behind once she has a partner. I know this likely stems from my own feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem, but my OCD has latched itself to this fear and I've been catching myself falling into old habits that I thought I'd overcome. I don't want to be living under the cloud again. Just looking for some encouragement or someone else who understands what this feels like.
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- 17w
I’ve posted this under a comment before, but if anyone has the time to read it and maybe share their experience or tips with me, I would really appreciate it. This is just kind of the reason why Idk if I only have OCD or if I should get checked for BPD aswell as emotional dependency is (as far as I know) not a common symptom of OCD and neither are excessive changes in emotions/moods. I think the worst part my situation is that one of my biggest and most damaging if not destructive obsessions I developed earlier this year was this constant fear that my friend would lie to me about meeting up with a boy she liked (we are both girls and queer, she didn’t know that about me until recently, but I’ve known that she is and we both sort of crushed on each other). Not just lie, but do it behind my back, keep it a secret, and then maybe even end our friendship without saying anything. And the thing is... that basically happened. Two weeks ago she started acting strange one day out of nowhere, and then I found out (through another friend) that he was coming over to her place. We had already talked about this before, I had cried in front of her and confessed how much it hurt me. I know doing that probably wasn’t the healthiest thing, but my emotions completely overwhelmed me in that moment. And even though nothing physical happened between them, it still felt like a betrayal. I’m not saying it was cheating, obviously not, we’re not in a relationship and it is unfair of me to try and tell her who or not to date, but it still hurts. Especially as weeks ago, we already had a detailed conversation about this. She told me she didn’t actually like him that much, and that if they were going to meet again, she’d be honest with me about it. But instead of being honest that day, she said nothing. Worse, she suddenly stopped talking to me, which made me think I had done something wrong so I completely lost my mind. She knows I’m emotionally dependent on her to some extent, so when she goes cold or distant, I spiral. And that day, I saw them talking and going quiet as I walked by, and then she literally turned to walk into a different direction. I don’t know why but it just crushed me. I thought she was mad at me, and I just felt like I was being shut out and lied to. And as I’ve mentioned, later that day, after eight hours of crying, another friend told me what really happened. She even drove me to her place so we could talk. We did talk, but since then, we haven’t had any contact. And it’s driving me absolutely insane. She told me it would be “people-pleasing” if she didn’t try to date him. And I know she’s kind of right, but she still lied to me. She didn’t care if that meant that she would throw away our friendship, or at least she treated it like it was worth less than a potential (!) relationship with a guy who, as far as I know, didn’t even respond when she told him she had feelings for him. It’s honestly devastating. I feel betrayed, discarded, and totally lost and I know I can’t even logically be mad at her as the reason she didn’t tell me is obvious and as a good friend I should just be happy for her, but my emotional side is so much stronger than my logic.
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- Date posted
- 15w
Hi I’ve never posted before but I need to talk with other people that have this too because it’s hard to explain to other people without ocd. I was in a relationship for awhile and we started dating before either of us knew I had ocd. Anyway I have a really bad episode of it that led me to go get on medication and got into therapy. My ocd can have some really taboo themes and thoughts which I have learned is just what comes with the illness. The problem though is when I was really struggling one of my compulsions was confessing and reassurance seeking specifically to the guy I was dating because I trusted him. We both knew at this point that I had ocd and it affected many parts of our relationship particularly our intimacy which he made me feel bad about. He started calling me crazy, just joking, but still. Eventually I start feeling better and we start being intimate again and the day after he breaks up with me. About a month later after I hear he went on a date with another girl (we live together) he tells me he couldn’t be intimate with me because of my intrusive thoughts. We still live together with 2 other roommates so I still see him everyday. We try to be cordial with each other. I still have my moments though I’m still dealing with my ocd and a breakup seemingly caused by it and I cry a lot. Some months go by and he’s dating this other girl and I end up making out with one of my other roommates. I have no idea if my ex knew but the next day when it was only me in the house he starts screaming “THOSE MOTHER FUCKERS” and starts slamming shit. I tell my roommate about this and he and I are both kind of scared of him. He started acting really cold to us after. Then the night before my graduation my two roommates moved out so it’s just me and my ex in the house. In the middle of the night he comes downstairs and in front of my door calls me a horrible name relating to my intrusive thoughts. I open the door and say fuck you and he says you took my fucking friends. I said I didn’t take shit from you and he says yeah and goes upstairs and screams BINGO for some reason. He did it in the middle of the night when we were alone and I had no one to talk to or go to. He blames me because a lot of our friends sided with me in the breakup because they knew what I was going through. He had told me that I could never speak if my intrusive thoughts to anyone including my therapist (I did don’t worry) but he had made me feel so ashamed more than I was already. Also the next day he left a mess for me to clean up since I was the last one to move out. I’m coming to terms with the fact that on top of this awful experience with ocd that I may have been emotionally abused as well.
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