- Username
- lou47
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I hope you’re able to completely cut this person out of your life. I’m not sure why they chose to attack you like this but clearly they are in need of some serious mental health treatment themselves. I’m sorry you have been outed in this way for your mental illness. It must be incredibly difficult to manage the emotions that come with such an invasion of privacy and it would be difficult for anyone, not just those with OCD. This person had no right to discuss or reveal anything about your mental health to others. If they had a genuine concern for children because they misunderstood your illness, there were certainly better routes to take to ensure no one was endangered. But as we all know, people with POCD are not in fact dangers to anyone, except maybe themselves and their own happiness. At this point I’d probably take a proactive approach with any friends or family members she has talked to. Rather than letting rumors fly, gather up some resources and have a conversation with each. Explain your diagnosis, how you’ve sought treatment, and share some articles with them about your illness. If you’re willing, you can offer to be open to follow up questions, but you can just end it by saying you’d rather not discuss a very painful aspect of your mental health recovery any further. I’m so sorry this happened. I hope your support system helps reinforce that you’ve done nothing wrong here.
wats happening - - thoughts - anxiety - trying to solve the thought to end anxiety - wasting time + more anxiety - endless trap wat to do - - thoughts - anxiety - focus on breathing - mind is on breath hence its calm - intruding thought is still there but anxiety is missing, hence the thought is powerless & u can see that it does not even need ur attention. - keep focusing on breath.. - the thought might never go away or go & come back...but whatever happens its none of ur business anymore... (incoming of the thought is reminder to go back to focusing on breathing). how to focus on breathing : wen u inhale - say 1 in ur mind & focus on the inhaling process. wen u exhale - say 2 in ur mind & focus on the exhaling process.
Thank you so much. Xx
Thank you so much for your reply. Everyone who knows me knows I have ocd and what type so i suppose that wasn't the issue. This person even helped me when i was going through a bout of it this year but she has now decided to mock me because of my mental health. She was supposed to be a friend but in fact was the complete opposite and found it necessary to try and hurt me and bring on my ocd again. She is completely and utterly out of my life and i will never be fooled into letting her back into my life like I did when I lost my mum 2 years ago. I hadn't spoken to her for a few years as she told me she had cancer and had 5 years to live....it was all a lie. She certainly needs help. I am comfortable knowing that I have ocd and that my dearest friends and family know about it. They all completely understand it and realise how I have suffered over the years. I just feel utterly betrayed and humiliated really by this person. She also owes me money. She entered back into my life when I was at my most vulnerable. I WILL NOT allow this very sad person make me ill like she obviously wanted to. I am just a very sensitive person who worries what others think about me! Part of my ocd ! Thank you once again for your kind words. It helps me immensely knowing that there are other people out there with the same symptoms and I dont feel so alone. I have read the book by bryony Gordon and she had exactly the same ocd symptoms u get from time to time. It's just a shame that some simple and ignorant people thinks it's fun to mock others. Oh...and she is a carer to vulnerable people.....unbelievable! Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart. Xx
Hey guys, just wanted a bit of advice as I’m sure my friends are sick of me constantly asking them for reassurance and to be there for me. I use to be very close friends with this girl who had kids with a complete an utter nasty piece of work, anyway when they were together I was friendly with him as he was with my close friend and that’s only right, even though most people despised of him, I never see the bad in people. Then when they broke up he came to my home a few times to chat and for advice, which I gave him, he then tried it on with me sexually and I obviously declined in which he didn’t like, I then had the decency to tell me friend the mother of his children and it back fired on me for trying to be the good friend by telling her the truth, she then took his side in which I lost all respect for her as I was trying to do right by her for telling her what had happened as o hate things like that on my mind. After this he came to my house and threatened, send me a whole load of abusive threatening voice notes too like the vile human he is because of course he got found out. I drifted away from her because of the situation and clearly trying to do the right thing was the wrong thing, we have briefly spoke since this happened a few times within the last three or so months. This caused me to have severe ocd and have the worst paranoia, I don’t want her in my life, I don’t even have her number saved but today she turned up at my door unexpectedly just to ‘pop in’ although I don’t want anything to do with her, the whole situation makes me feel ill, makes my ocd bad and bad paranoia. What can I do?
Anyone suffer with false memory ocd? I am at my wits end with this now. My ocd has always focused on either my sexuality (which is the milder one) or hurting a child perhaps in a sexual way (the most awful one ever). The thought I have at the moment revolves around sleeping in the same bed as my niece. The ocd keeps saying to me “what if when you were asleep you put your leg over her and your bits touched her?” I just cannot get this horrid thought out of my head. I think I am a disgusting person to have this thought. I keep saying that I would remember and arguing with the ocd but it comes back with another what if...... I cannot bear this any longer and just feel like ending it all. I lost my mum two years ago and am really struggling. I have had a lot of traumatic events in the last few years and now this pathetic ocd comes up with this after years. I hate it. I have a counsellor and for a few days I can see it for what it is then I tumble back down into the black pit. Can anyone help please? Xx
Ok so this is going to be lengthy and probably have many mistakes so I apologize in advance. I used to live somewhere completely different to where I live now. I lived back in my hometown until I was 10. That was a living nightmare for me. I was bullied lots and had lots of very traumatizing things happen to me that are a VERY big part to my ocd today. When I was very young like 7 or 8 I was at a sleepover with another girl and she was pressuring me into doing things that I was very uncomfortable doing. She was pressuring me to take some of my clothes off. At the time I was very young and didn’t know right from wrong and didn’t know what to do so because she was being very peer pressure to me I did so because I was scared. I have never been able to come to peace with myself after this even though I have been told that I did NOTHING wrong and that I was very young and stuff. But then I moved somewhere completely different, and lost contact with everyone because I knew that it was too much for me to handle. Today someone from there reached out me ( a good person) and wanted to talk and catch up. I did talk to her for a little bit (it’s not the same person that pressured me) and I texted her after telling her how I needed to lose contact with here because so many of my intrusive thoughts came from living there, so being in contact with people was mentally not ok with me. She was completely understanding and all’s good. But I’m wondering. What happened with that girl. Should I fee guilt about? Or is this my ocd. I just need some other opinions. Please help me out!
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