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- Pink Dinosaur
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s called compulsive heterosexuality!! A lot of LGB people tend to go through it for many reasons: denial of ones sexuality is one of the biggest ones. Having said that, @Ocdsufferer123 that doesn’t necessarily mean this applies to you!! Humans naturally read things and think “oh shit, is this me?” Without it really being so!
Compulsive heterosexuality is usually done willingly, either as a result of internalized homophobia or because the person hadn’t come to terms with their identity yet. I think in the case of OCD it’s followed with compulsive behaviour which compulsive heterosexuality usually doesn’t have- so someone with HOCD would check various articles to see if they’re straight or not, or get reassurance that they’re straight.
Literally me
What’s the difference between compulsive heterosexuality and ocd?
The thing is that I’ve been through both instances as a bisexual woman. When I was in complete denial I would boast about every single Male crush in order to prove to myself and others that I was straight. The thing is that I did genuinely like those guys, I just felt the need to blow my attraction out of proportion. Because of that, now I’m wondering if those crushes were fake from the beginning and if I’ve been using being bi as a stepping stone with realising it :/
From one bi person to another; it’s fine if you find out they are. In the end, they aren’t “fake”, this was just you learning who you are! Not to mention we have these bouts of fear sometimes you know?
Ya :// a lot of my bi friends complain about it too because everyone is so eager to box us. Its the uncertainty that really makes me anxious, because when it comes down do it, I don’t think I’d really care if I was a lesbian. It’s the ‘what if’ that keeps pestering me even though the fact that I like both genders isn’t really that deep
Also it’s the fact that I wasn’t aware that bi people could also experience compulsive heterosexuality until like right now so oop-
God yea, the whole « you have to pick one” bullshit is probably a factor in any ocd symptoms and possibly even a trigger. I rlly hope you figure things out eventually!!
Thankss!! Bi erasure is really triggering for me. It’s so nice to meet other lgbt ocd sufferers. Like recently when I found out that one of my gay friends had the same theme about being bi or straight. It’s nice to know you’re not alone. This disorder is so isolating :/
It really is...
Wait...I’ve done that sometimes when I’m reassuring myself @PinkDinosaur. Like boasting about every male crush I’ve had. Does this mean I’m bi like you?
Not necessarily. At the time my friends used to tease me that I was a closeted lesbian because the topic always made me really flustered (I wasn’t out as bi at the time). I was deliberately trying to prove that I wasn’t a lesbian to myself and them. Ironically, now they tease me about being the most likely to end up straight so, I guess you can’t really win haha.
So, you always knew you were bi? Since what age? @PinkDinosaur
13
I didn’t always know. I had small crushes on guys as a child but I didn’t start caring about romance until my teens. I realised I was bi when I realised I liked a girl in my year.
How do people not obsess about sexuality when it’s so fucking complex? I just read about lesbians who still get crushes on men and now I’m spiralling again. Ffs.
might be a big trigger for hocd but why do some lesbians say they were boy-crazy before. like what does that even mean , if you have never liked men then how have you been boy-crazy ?
I’ve lost my sense of identity now (I don’t know how I am or what I want). I recently read that we can force ourselves to love people, be in denial when it comes to who we really are and develop attraction to an array of different people before and after puberty. Now it seems like my whole life is a lie. Has everything been forced? Am I secretly bi and in denial? Ugh, I hate it. To make it worse, I was recently watching a TV game show and a question about Katy Perry and her songs popped up. My immediate answer was her song I kissed a girl. Obviously, I took that as a mental sign. On top of that, I’ve had many “uncertain,” crushes (I wasn’t too sure whether I really liked them) that have actually developed into love. Now I’m wondering whether I forced myself to feel that way and I feel horrible; I just want to be with a man, not a woman. The idea of touching a women inappropriately makes me want to cry and throw up; it generally makes me distressed and uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do because I don’t know who I am anymore; I was so boy crazy and romantic beforehand. Now I’m plagued with anxiety and uncertainty.
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