Username: Northern_Downpour

Date posted: 1y ago

Please help (18+) I'm anxious

I made a friend recently online and we get along great/talk everyday/etc. But today they told me they've got like an internet stalker who doxxed them and knows where they live and has threatened them and stuff and won't leave them alone. Anyway, not long after someone messaged me saying my friend is actually 12 and is super racist or something, and that they have proof and need me to believe them. I dont interact with minors, it triggers my POCD. Secondly, I'm anxious because I don't want to get involved in drama at ALL. and I'm scared of just blocking them because I'm afraid I'll get doxxed or harassed. My anxiety is really bad, I don't know. I compulsively want to just cut off this friend but they told me they don't have friends because of this so I feel bad. Besides, I do like them as my friend but. I dont know. I'm not built for this kind of thing I just want to be safe.

"Pure" OCD

Username: chnliwchnliw

Date posted: 1y ago

Hey! I understand your total frustration and worry. Something i suggest is that you do what you think is gonna be best for you. Like you said, you want to cut off the friend and block those people. But if it worries you/scares you of any outcomes i think that you should slowly stop replying to your one friend if you feel guilty that they don’t have any other friends. Don’t worry about their outcome, they’ll find other friends, just worry about yourself and how you feel. And about those people texting you with screenshots and proof, yes it can be worrisome because they’ve gotten information on that friend, but you have done nothing wrong for you to be scared for your sake on getting doxxed. I guess i would suggest blocking them so they don’t send you any further information about them, and to be careful on whatever app your texting those people. Just don’t forget that you’re gonna be okay and to not worry about the friend and whatever action that have been coming their way. Worry about your wealth and focus and calming yourself down, you’ll be okay.

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

This is good advice, I might want to at least distance myself until I know it's safe. But I think I will just block the person that sent me that message and try to focus on keeping myself safe. Thank you for the sweet message. ♡

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

Your anxiety is very warranted in this scenario. What's happening is really messed up and it sounds like someone is in danger. Who is this person that messaged you? Do you know them or are they a stranger? You know you wouldn't interact with a child because it triggers your OCD. But what's happening really does suck and I'm sorry to hear that :(

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

They're a stranger, I don't know them. My friend said it's probably their stalkers friend trying to convince me to unfriend them. I'm gonna be upset if my friend Is actually a kid because they told me they're an adult and we make adult jokes to each other all the time. But thank you :( I just don't want this to escelate to anything. My OCD is making me feel like this is a curse. It's literally the first of the month and something very anxiety inducing is already happening...

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour I'm really sorry you were put in this situation :( It's really scary and worrying to have a stalker present in one's life. I hope this situation gets better for you and your friend. I don't think they would lie to you and about something like that

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGyro09 Yeah, I don't think they do either but unfortunately I still worry, especially since I haven't known this friend super long. But thank you ♡ I hope you're doing well, happy new year. :)

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour Happy new year to you too. :) I do really hope your friend is okay and being truthful to you. If anything goes south, distance yourself and do what's best. Just like what chnliw said. Right now I'm not doing so good but I am having a good day. Hopefully tomorrow is the start of my treatment for an infection I've been dealing with for a while now.

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGyro09 Tomorrow is a new day. ♡ good luck at your treatment tomorrow !!! do you want to talk about it?

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour You're right. I'm trying to stay hopeful for it. I can talk about it for a little bit. Since August I've had an infection that came from a bad place in my addiction that never came up before. This is the first and hopefully the only time I've gone through it. It's given me a lot of stress and hopefully tomorrow is the day it's fine for good. How about you? Has treatment been okay? I can't remember if you had a therapist or not but if you do, I hope you like them and you're both working together! If not, I know you'll find one someday. I know you'll get through whatever OCD throws at you. 👍🏼

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGyro09 Oh, that sounds painful. Are you okay? I hope it doesn't hurt too bad. Hopefully it can be cleared up easily — most infections are I think. And things have been fine ♡ not much progress I still need to find a new therapist for OCD. I'm in the process of getting a new one. But yeah you're right, I'll find one soon 👍🏽

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour Before December came around, I was okay. I thought it would go away because I still thought it was a UTI but it wasn't. At least, doctors told me it wasn't. I'm not in excruciating pain but I am tired of the aching and sleep problems. You got this! You'll find a new therapist and things will improve! I'm happy to hear that you've been doing well despite the anxiety.

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour I didn't feel like this all those months ago so I don't know if it's only now getting worse or the extreme stress I've been feeling has been making things unbearable lately.

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGyro09 It could be the stress of it making you focus on the feeling more — that would make you feel it more or pay more attention to it.

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Northern_Downpour Maybe.. I don't really know right now and it's making me worry but I'm trying to sit with that and tell myself that I'm going to get this fixed. I'm hoping that my clinic treats this kind of thing. There was one night where I got so stressed that I didn't sleep at all so maybe it is stress.

Username: obsessivequeerobsessivequeer

Date posted: 1y ago

Hey, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this- I have the same triggers, subtype and avoidance as you do and that sounds like a nightmare. I honestly don’t know how to help in this situation but if you’re unsure about whats going on and it seems confusing Id suggest maybe stepping back from that friendship for a little while to gather your thoughts and figure out what’s actually happening here

Username: Northern_DownpourNorthern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking of doing, just giving myself some space. I'm sure I can think of an excuse until I can gather myself. I'm getting off call with them now.

Username: Dai

Date posted: 5y ago

Oh, for f**ks sake. So I had made a friend who recently confessed to me to have committed a sex offense, and my OCD is majorly freaking out about it. My anxiety and anger is screaming at me to get away from him or turn his face into a bloody pulp, but he has ADHD, thus impulse control issues, the offense happened when he was 14, his sister the victim (might have been dry), and he hasn’t made any advances. I just want an escape, but he has been a good friend so far. I’m practicing self defense just in case though. How do I calm my anxiety and stop thinking about this as obsessively as I have, for weeks on end now? But not be too careless.

"Pure" OCD

Username: ocdnoononi

Date posted: 42w ago

Fear my friends are lying..

I make friends online and I like to make sure they are above 18- mostly cause the art I create is mature and I generally don’t like minors and don’t want to be near them. Lately my severe OCD has forced me to cut off all these friends cause even after they showed me ID, and birth certificates that it still was too much of a risk. I kept thinking it was never worth the risk. Well I kept one friend and I’m still terrified that they are lying. Sometimes I talk to them and I just feel sick then I feel guilty. They asked me to please not let them go too and now I feel like an awful person. I just look at their texts and I feel like “what if?” Or “what if I’ve always known they were a minor?” Or “I used to be comfortable talking to them- they could’ve been a minor!” And it drags me down so far I just really REALLY want to cut them off. I feel so miserable.

POCD

Username: Stormyskies

Date posted: 33w ago

Friendship with a slight age gap

My POCD randomly triggered over a friendship I have with someone who is eighteen. I’m sixteen and I have no intention of dating them however we do make jokes and are very affectionate. Nothing bad, normal internet friendships but it’s making me nervous that I’m somehow a victim or something even though I have no issues with it. Is this okay?

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