Hanging out with friends - sexual orientation ocd

The past couple of days have been torture. Last night, visuals plagued my mind, thinking I would do something sexual with my friend. I hung out with her today and was anxious the entire time. I can’t even have fun anymore. Groinals, constant thoughts, checking, getting nervous and weird when she gets close to me, eye contact is hard. Does anyone else have sexual orientation ocd and find hanging out with your girl friends to be very difficult? I was doing alright for a while and wasn’t getting terribly triggered. (I have a bf btw)

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Ahahn09Ahahn09

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 44w ago

Hello! I do not want to tell you anything that will reassure the thoughts (sorry, I know that sucks), but I can tell you that I have been in this exact situation. I have a bf of 5 years now and I last year around this time it was hard to hang out with my girl and guy friends because of my HOCD and relationship OCD. My closest girl friends are both bisexual which didn’t help, and thoughts plagued my mind when I was with them. Now, I can see them with little to zero intrusive thoughts and I am way more mentally clear. ERP helped incredibly, and I was very lucky that I could tell them about my OCD experience and felt nothing but support and understanding. Only if you feel completely comfortable and only if it will not lead to reassurance seeking, I think explaining the situation to a close girl friend you trust and are having these intrusive thoughts about may help. It did for me tremendously! I wish you the best of luck, and sometimes it seems like you won’t be able to reduce the thoughts but it will happen for you. Wishing you all the relief and positivity!

Username: Ahahn09Ahahn09

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 44w ago

@Ahahn09 Also, it is normal to have OCD thoughts about close friends, relatives, and SOs because they are the closest to you. You may actually be having these thoughts of admiration for your friends but it is a mental rollercoaster trying to decipher all your intrusive thoughts to determine what they mean. Hang in there!

Username: Going to fight OCDGoing to fig...

Date posted: 44w ago

Literally had a meltdown and was crying on my way home. I’m just so annoyed that I can’t just hang out anymore. This is always on my mind. Feeling like I like my friends and that there’s “sexual tension” or something of that sort. It’s the worst.

Username: linds💕

Date posted: 2y ago

Why is soocd so confusing?? Anyone else’s OCD just bring up past experiences and make you believe that it could mean you’re the opposite sexual orientation you are? I identify as a straight female but in the past I had thoughts I could have been bi so it made me think I was even though I’ve never actually liked a girl? Idk. I’m so confused. I’m not attracted to women, I’ve always been super boy crazy. I just feel super alone in this regardless of all the similar experiences other people go through. I can’t watch tv, work is really hard because I have to talk to other women, certain clothes trigger me, hanging out with friends is hard, being lovey to my boyfriend is hard, even looking at myself is hard. I don’t feel like me. I’m just so confused and so lost. My OCD really sparked back in October and since it’s just gotten progressively worse. I have therapy today, and I’m looking forward to it. Anxiety and OCD is so hard. It effects me of every moment of every day, in everything I do. Im just so tired. Anyone have exposures that may help with this??

Username: mariamaria

Date posted: 29w ago

Sexual Orientation OCD

Hi! I am genuinely so happy and attracted to my boyfriend but cannot stop having extreme anxiety trying to figure out my sexuality. Some days I think I am sexually attracted to women and other days I don’t feel this way. How can I accept the uncertainty? Another part of this OCD is I obsess over what the queer community will think of me since I have limited experiences with women. I am so happy with my partner but the OCD is keeping me in fear of missing out. I keep constantly comparing myself to others and getting down that they have had more sexual partners. Seeing if I’m alone in this.

Username: Rgreen061820

Date posted: 22w ago

SO-OCD

So I’ve struggled with sexual orientation ocd for a while now, along with relationship ocd. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years as of yesterday (in a straight female, dating a straight male) and I was just on tik tok, and seen a girl who posted a picture of her crying and saying “me realizing I was gay and not wanted to leave my boyfriend because he’s my bestfriend” and now I’m in a whole panic attack. Because what if I’m gay and I don’t wanna leave my bf, or what if I’m in a denial, or something idk. And it feels so real. Idk what else to do anymore

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