I broke up with my boyfriend

I broke up with my boyfriend and I’m not sure if it’s because I needed to or if OCD pushed me to it. I have Scrupulosity and ROCD. We had a conversation about how we viewed the Bible and Jesus. I’m not sure if there’s a miscommunication but he made it sound that the Bible was secondary to our Spirit and that Jesus is pedestaled to much and we should be more like him instead. It scared me that the foundation of our belief is unequally yoked and I broke up with him. I woke up this morning and feel terrible. I don’t want to leave him but I also want to make sure I’m following God’s Will. We’ve been dating/talking for four months.

Username: anthonycaronnaanthonycaronna

Date posted: 48w ago

To be honest with you, I’m dealing with the same thing. I have many desires, goals and preferences that I want to pursue and I feel like God will make me angry and won’t let it happen if I follow them. I’m praying also for something to happen and I’m getting blasted from every corner from it. It’s very hard. I have my own opinions on how God works and God’s will, but my mind is constantly saying that I’m wrong and he’s gonna control my life in every aspect. It causes massive anxiety and sometimes I can’t take it anymore

Username: victoriagreennvictoriagreenn

Date posted: 48w ago

@anthonycaronna Same. Literally I feel like it’s a battle between what I’d like or God. It can never be both. If I choose the relationship, I’m going against God, betraying Him. And it aches me to not be with him. Now that we’re technically “broken up,” I didn’t have the energy or motivation to really do my Bible reading this morning and that made me really more anxious. It’s a tough battle for sure but I’m glad that I’m not the only one

Username: MorisetteCandor23MorisetteCan...

Date posted: 48w ago

Hey there, I can really feel the confusion and pain you're experiencing. Breakups are hard, and it can be even harder when trying to navigate through an "Pure O" OCD theme, like my own. Though I can't fully understand your particular struggle with Scrupulosity and ROCD, I get how it feels to question every decision due to OCD. I'm here to listen, you're not alone in this struggle. 😊 I've been in similar situations myself, where OCD has made me question important decisions. What made a big difference to me was this free AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) which I stumbled upon while listening to an OCD support podcast. The tool could be especially helpful for you since it tailors step-by-step support to your specific situation, offering support and guidance almost like an OCD therapist would. I hate when people plug things in forums like this, but this tool genuinely helped me change my life. I just want you to know it's out there and might be able to help you. Remember, I'm always here if you want to chat. 💛

Username: marsmith98marsmith98

Date posted: 48w ago

It sounds like you were afraid of conflict so you ended things without fully giving him a chance to explain why he has that opinion. Why are you afraid to have different views on this? Faith resonates with different people in different ways and the Bible has always been interpreted differently by different groups of people throughout history and today. I was raised Catholic but I’m adamantly opposed to organized religion now so I don’t really see why this is something to end a relationship over.

Username: victoriagreennvictoriagreenn

Date posted: 48w ago

@marsmith98 I think the big thing that causes me to push back is the verse about being “unequally yoked.” I get scared that I’m entertaining that but you did bring up a good point that people’s faith journeys are different. I’m just afraid to be on the wrong side of God’s Will

Username: marsmith98marsmith98

Date posted: 48w ago

@victoriarosee I would say that if you have similar values, that’s the only thing that matters. It seems like you both value faith and religion. I would see it being unequal only if you were with someone who didn’t believe in God at all.

Username: hateocd123

Date posted: 5y ago

I'm a big jumbled mess. The hocd has backed down quite a bit to the point where I was starting to have moments of forgetting and my attraction to guys came back. Here's the issue. I'm a Christian and my boyfriend and I are in an unequally yoked relationship. I feel like to any normal person this wouldn't matter but my OCD moved on to this, picking at it viciously. Of course it makes me sad that we don't have the same view about the existence of God, but it's never bothered me THIS much. Also the fact that we have premarital sex is starting to bother me as well when it never did before. It's killing me. I feel like I can't talk to God anymore. I've been obsessing over it all day. What do I do? I don't want to break up with him. He is my other half. I love him so much. I know this is a really sticky subject. Please no anti religious comments.

Username: Schaune

Date posted: 40w ago

I think I wanna breakup with my Partner

I’ve been with my partner since November of 2022. In the beginning, we had great times together and I can still say that I truly care about him. However, my feelings for him started to decline a few months after we were dating but I was scared to cut things off because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. With my harm OCD, I would have intrusive thoughts about him, but I know deep inside that I really do care for him, but I’m not sure if I’m in love with him. I’m now trying to figure out if it’s my OCD that’s making me want to break up with him to stop having these intrusive thoughts, or if I genuinely want to. Has anybody else gone through this? Some advice would help!

Username: RKRowton2005

Date posted: 36w ago

Christians, please help

I am dealing with really intense scrupulous relationship OCD. Idk if anyone else can relate but I have this debilitating fear God wants me to break up with my bf and it’s so difficult because I know I am a bit codependent and don’t spend enough time with God as I should. I know he is a jealous God and I keep thinking “what if God wants me to…” and getting intrusive thoughts masking as the Holy Spirit. I know I’m not as close with God as I should be, but I’m doing devotions and really trying, I just can’t hear his voice over all the anxious thoughts.

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