Is anyone familiar with pushing people out of their lives because they became a negative and toxic prescence un it? I stopped talking to someone that I used to talk to a lot, but in the recent months I started seeing things in their character that just made me uncomfortable and just down right annoyed Most of the time. Now I feel like a terrible person for avoiding this person and not speaking to them, but I don't know What to do, any advice?

Hey guys, just wanted a bit of advice as I’m sure my friends are sick of me constantly asking them for reassurance and to be there for me. I use to be very close friends with this girl who had kids with a complete an utter nasty piece of work, anyway when they were together I was friendly with him as he was with my close friend and that’s only right, even though most people despised of him, I never see the bad in people. Then when they broke up he came to my home a few times to chat and for advice, which I gave him, he then tried it on with me sexually and I obviously declined in which he didn’t like, I then had the decency to tell me friend the mother of his children and it back fired on me for trying to be the good friend by telling her the truth, she then took his side in which I lost all respect for her as I was trying to do right by her for telling her what had happened as o hate things like that on my mind. After this he came to my house and threatened, send me a whole load of abusive threatening voice notes too like the vile human he is because of course he got found out. I drifted away from her because of the situation and clearly trying to do the right thing was the wrong thing, we have briefly spoke since this happened a few times within the last three or so months. This caused me to have severe ocd and have the worst paranoia, I don’t want her in my life, I don’t even have her number saved but today she turned up at my door unexpectedly just to ‘pop in’ although I don’t want anything to do with her, the whole situation makes me feel ill, makes my ocd bad and bad paranoia. What can I do?

What do you do if you feel like you can’t get away from some people who call themselves ‘friends’ but you know that they don’t actually care for you and are no good for you? Since my mental health has been getting worse over these past few months, I have felt like I’ve hit rock bottom. My best friend of twelve years has more or less been avoiding to come and see me. I clearly know that it’s because of the way I feel at the moment & it’s not easy to be around me but I more or less try to hide it all when I’m around people anyway. I feel like most people around me are so bad for me, they add no good into my life and it sure does show when you are going through a bad time who your friends are! Any advice?

It’s been almost one full year, and I’ve cut off ties with my “best friend”. It wasn’t an easy decision, but I ultimately decided to do it. Why? Here are my top reasons: 1. He consistently made me feel like I was an ugly fat guy who couldn’t get laid. He knew I was lonely and wanting a romantic relationship, so he said “just get ripped and stop whining”. I actually agreed with him and set out on a quest to lose weight and get in shape. But the more I progressed, the more I got criticized. He told me that he never thought I’d get laid because I’m too shy and scared to be intimate, that nothing will happen even if I somehow get “lucky”. He also told me to go on Tinder, but then blamed me for my failed attempts. Laughed at the fact I was getting scammed by bots and said I should actually pay them $$$. 2. As an indirect consequence of 1., I decided to hire a sex worker (where it was legal). I thought I had to prove to myself that he was wrong, and that I in fact was physically able to do it. That I wasn’t “disabled” or that nothing was wrong with me. I went through with this act and although I enjoyed myself, I got backlash from my friend. He called me a “sex offender” and “rapist” and said my family should disown me for this. He wanted me to feel shame and guilt and made me promise that I’ll never do it again. That I “need to fuck a real woman”. 3. Unrelated, but he also never showed up to my graduation and insisted that I needed to get a “real job” and that I need to be making at least 6 figures out of graduation. That I shouldn’t become a teacher because it didn’t make much money, even though he knew I liked teaching. Also got annoyed when I didn’t find a job immediately after graduation. Ok, so I think there’s a lot of gray areas in this post, but ultimately I keep questioning my decision to go no contact or just cutting off the relationship. I blocked him in my phone and deleted my social media accounts. But I’m questioning this because I keep reading how ghosting harms the other person. I also still believe I’m a horrible person for doing that to him, but I just felt it was necessary as I needed time to heal. Does anyone have any advice on this?