SOCD and ROCD ERP suggestuons

Don’t be afraid to change therapists. I found some to be wonderful to their point, and then just felt I needed more or different path. Your therapist should be suggesting ERP exercises. For you to do that is counter productive and in my opinion may just fuel your “fire.”

If she’s hesitating this much then I would recommend switching therapists, or at least having another therapist who specializes in ERP therapy. Nothing wrong with CFT—in fact I think doing CFT and ERP would be a great combination—but ERP is the most effective treatment for OCD. Trying to figure out the root cause of the fear isn’t going to help and will likely make you feel worse in the long run. ERP is the main thing that helped my SOOCD and it’s life changing—you’d be very surprised!

I highly recommend finding a therapist that deals specifically in ERP and OCD. As MindfulMan4 said above, using different therapy is ABSOLUTELY fueling your fire. It is very common for therapists that aren’t extremely familiar with OCD treatment to actually make their patients condition far worse because they don’t understand the absolute importance of ERP. The therapists first reaction to you having OCD at all should have been “okay so we’re starting ERP and here are some resources we will be using to do it!” I’m going to recommend a book to you that literally saved my life. My therapist used this book to create a personal ERP plan tailored to me specifically and it has taught me more than anything else about OCD. It’s even a great resource for loved ones to learn what you’re going through and how they can be supportive. Here’s a link to it and best wishes through your recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-Personalized/dp/042527389X/ref=asc_df_042527389X?nodl=1&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312089933244&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11970877880497244838&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9022658&hvtargid=pla-434186043013&psc=1&mcid=46d31c43c6143b07892e23afa15d9ba9&gclid=CjwKCAiA2pyuBhBKEiwApLaIO1ub-EB5tp924YBlcKhg69RJfnv5duNlVg-yzebFmzkhjClaT4F52hoCFsgQAvD_BwE&dplnkId=8e0f7928-2170-4917-ba0b-25f854dc4bdd

Thanks everyone, I think I've known for a while that we are not quite the right fit. This week my homework was to say to myself when checking if I found a woman attractive " there is nothing to worry about because I would know if I was bisexual as I would be looking for a relationship with a women."

To me I find this statement just sets me off down a rumination path. Thanks for all your advice