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I just see my boyfriend's flaws and I feel we have to break up because we are not compatible and I dont think it s rocd
I just see my boyfriend's flaws and I feel we have to break up because we are not compatible and I dont think it s rocd
You’re not alone- for me it comes in waves. One day or two days will be perfect- then I get stressed out and can’t control the negative barrage of “he’s doing this” “what if he did this” “we don’t mesh” etc.
@whit89 That’s where I’m at right now
I can relate. I also have a lot of trauma so I wonder if it’s from that? But I find my mind constantly ruminating over what we are, how comparable we are, if we’ll end up together. I have so much fear wondering what we are & if he’s “the one” I’m also autistic so my brain thinks very black or white & I find that he’s either all good or all bad - no in between. He is the most incredible person I’ve ever met so it’s exhausting feeling this way. Sometimes writing out a pros & cons list helps me.
i dont know if im lucid enough to state this, but my fear comes from the fact that its no longer intermittent for me. always doubt.
so i dont know if its rocd anymire
If they see your flaws and are still with you, what does that say to you?
do someone want to talk on telegram
I’m not saying any of this to be rude or hateful in any way!! Basically, I like this guy and I really love him, but, everytime I look at this one photo of him, I keep noticing he looks unflattering and it makes me worry, because I’m scared what if he’s ugly? And why does that even matter? Why can’t I just love him in peace without having to check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly? Like that sounds really rude and disrespectful and it hurts even more to know that he’s self conscious and I would NEVER want to hurt him so I don’t tell him I check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly, I get anxious when I notice/feel that he is unattractive/unflattering, so I check till I feel certain that I don’t think he’s ugly, why do I even do this? Why does it matter? Why does my brain make it difficult to even look at a photo without worrying, can I be normal? I say “I think he’s cute/I love him” to his photo and my brain is like “nope cuz he’s unattractive” then I get worried and for what??? I ask myself why do I care and I genuinely don’t know
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
I feel like the worst kind of person and I am ruining my husband. I don’t know how I’m going to be able to change.
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