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- AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Ridethewave Ridethewave
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Or HOCD also gives you false memories ? just stay hopeful that you'll eventually leave this cloud of misery, don't listen when your ocd tells you it's gonna be like this forever
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- Ridethewave Ridethewave
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Right now I'm doing a little technique. I'm accepting my thoughts as fact. The first time I did it, I was very very very anxious and scared of the outcome. I sat with the discomfort(for what felt like an eternity) and then it passed. It really did, and I felt so relieved (the most calm I've been in weeks!). I was able to observe these thoughts from this tranquil perspective and answer the questions I've been asking myself during my panic modes. I was able to answer them with clarity and confidence. I'm still working at it and Beleive me, it's hard to not engage with these aggressive thoughts but you just have to remember that this is a process that won't just be cured over night. The thoughts are still there, but it's been a bit easier to disassociate myself with them and simply label them as "instrusive thoughts" and go about my business. Or just telling yourself "I'm just gonna deal with this thought later". Best of luck to you!
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- SkinnedWaterSkinnedWater
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ugh. The false memories you KNOW are false but feel real.
- Username
- andrewt_andrewt_
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
This is horrible. It’s very common with Sexual Orientation OCD , and the best thing to do is to tell yourself that it may mean something or it could mean nothing. Because you don’t and will not know , there’s no reason to stress over it as it won’t change whatever the answer is !! Tell yourself “ that’s an interesting memory and it does make me anxious and uncomfortable. But that doesn’t mean that it has to. It’s in the past and I shouldn’t let something that once has no effect on me ruin the precious time I have now “ or something like that !
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- andrewt_andrewt_
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@h4a4667 that’s so amazing , I’m very happy for you !! That’s a major milestone and you should be super proud of yourself , as I know how hard it is to get to that point. Accepting the thoughts at first is very anxiety inducing but it paves the way for a much larger time period of way less stress which is always the goal !
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- Ridethewave Ridethewave
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thank you so much! Its definitely not easy at all but it's a hopeful process ??
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- LinaLina
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes!
- Username
- AG._.AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thanks any other tips
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes!!!
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- Laurie
- Date posted
- 6y ago
HOCDers: do any of you ever go through moments that feel like realisation or discovery of being gay (I hate this so much because I know I’m not) Also does your ocd ever make you feel funny about being straight when you know you are? Sometimes if I say to myself ‘I’m straight’ I get a sensation that isn’t quite anxiety, I don’t know if it’s a longing/missing just knowing?
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- deputydean
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Question for you guys, Those of you who suffer from HOCD or POCD and have vivid memories that contradict who you feel you are, how do you manage those memories? I had an OCD/anxiety attack that clinged on to the memories around me being curious after being bullied in school. My OCD keeps telling me that I enjoyed those experiences more than I should have. Even though it ended in tears and me knowing that that's not who I am, my OCD keeps telling me that it's an indication of my being gay or bi. I realize that some of those memories may be fake, but in the scope of acceptance of uncertainty let's assume that everything is right. My therapist tried to calm me down by saying that this is really normal and expected in young children and that it has nothing to do with who we are, especially since I was interested in girls and always fantasized about chased after them from a very young age.
- Username
- prakriti
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It's not about hocd but can someone help me with my sexuality. Okay so i was in an all girls school and an all girls college. I rarely got the chance to interact with boys except for my coaching classes. It's like in the past i had dozens of girl crushes and a very few guy crushes but if i ever had to imagine myself being intimate with,it was mostly boys. It's like i clearly remember that i fantasized about boys but i don't actually remember if i ever fantasized about girls. My mind is telling me i had. I had a very few guy friends so whenever we had a meet over i always wanted the guy's attention and not those girls. I don't know what kind of crushes or attraction i had for those girls but i always considered myself straight because even if i had a few guy crushes like 2-3 it was only them i mostly fantasized about. Also i have never been interested in lesbian related stuffs. I have watched kdramas and have mostly got male celebrity crushes. My mind has constantly been telling me i am a lesbian cause i mean i did not have hocd when i had those girl crushes but if today i imagine myself getting intimate with a girl to check if it affects me i get anxious.
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