Partner/spouse advice

I think there are many different components here. I acknowledge how you feel because a few years ago I felt like “no one understands how hard this is” and I get it! Do you normally have great communication skills with one another? How long have you been struggling? I think that sometimes we forget that even though we are struggling, our partners just want to “fix” it. Sometimes our lives become small because we unintentionally feed the OCD cycle. A lot of these realizations don’t come out until you’ve been in therapy for a while - at least for me. The best thing you guys can do together is talk about what feeds OCD (reassurance seeking) and his support should revolve around not feeding the OCD cycle. Your therapist can talk to you about how your spouse can support you through recovery. I’m rooting for you!

Good job for seeking treatment. Happy for you! If he needs assurance - tell him that it’s a highly treatable disorder. For you, keep going. You can talk about response prevention for how people respond to your disorder if you need to with your therapist.