How can I cope with feeling like a bad person due to OCD?

Advice on feeling like a “bad” person

Feeling like a bad person has always been one of my reoccurring struggles with OCD. I’m working through trauma therapy at the moment and recognizing a lot of stuck points, and connecting a lot dots in relation to my OCD. But I feel like even if I make a small mistake or mess up, I can’t give myself grace - and I assume I’m an awful person. Obviously, my realistic self reassures me I would never intentionally hurt someone or have malicious intentions in situations. But sometimes I go round and round, and even think the only reason I think or want to be a good person is because I’m scared of being a bad person? I know that doesn’t make sense but it fucks with me and I’m sure only this group would understand. Anyway, today for example: I got sorta mad at my bf because he was trying to smack my butt and accidentally hit my back. And I said “ouch, stop - you got my back.” - in literally the least menacing way. And we laughed it off and he felt bad. And then I just couldn’t help myself from apologizing to him because I felt like I overreacted somehow. He seemed very confused and was so sweet about it. But I just felt like I overreacted, and I told him that I felt gross - I was trying to prepare food and it caught me off guard. And he was like “no yeah, that makes total sense - you literally don’t have to explain yourself or apologize at all!”. But I just got into this weird mood now, where I’m convincing myself I’m a bad person and a bad partner. And he should be with someone who is truly the sweetest person ever and beautiful to add on to the obsession. Sometimes I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. I know I’m not a bad person but sometimes the OCD itself is very annoying. I feel like this wave has passed, and I’ve worked a lot on grounding myself and bringing myself to reality. Which is great! But I would really love to know if anyone else struggles with this kind of thing and what helps them in these times?

Username: BeedoobeeBeedoobee

Date posted: 18w ago

I struggle with this I'm not entirely sure what to do about it but something that we all need to be reminded of is we are all just human and it's our first time living. You and your boyfriend are equals

Username: MalisimoMalisimo

Date posted: 18w ago

This was interesting, thanks for sharing. Do you ever ask yourself what does being a “bad person“ mean to you? Also what is a good person and when do you become one? Would you have to be 100% good all time to be a good person? I wonder if you might be addicted to perfectionism in other aspects of your life, I know I was.

Username: MJocd

Date posted: 4y ago

I believe I have moral OCD and I reassurance seek about things because my brain genuinely cannot recognise if I should be upset/worried/ashamed about something or not. My brain just gets locked on one thought and cant get any real perspective. I read a post today on a OCD support group on fb where someone said "bad people often want reassurance to make them feel better about who they are/what they have done and get this reassurance online from people who dont know the full story about them". And it really triggered me because it made me think, am I not a good person? Is this really OCD? what if it's not and I am doing exactly what that person said? And that was so scary to me. I dont think I'm a bad person, I'll admit to making mistakes in the past like every other human on the planet but my intentions were never bad ones. And then I feel scared for even worrying about what that person said bc why would I worry after reading that? I feel like my brain just cant distinguish from reality and the reality that its created and its terrifying.

Username: PlzH3lpMe

Date posted: 2y ago

My ocd makes me feel like I’m a shitty person, like I’m worse than other people and in a dark times like maybe it would be better if I wasn’t existing (I’m not gonna commit suicide don’t worry it’s just a feeling)… idk maybe I’m just looking for support and also coping advice Like I always hear/see the statement “people with ocd are usually very kind and sensitive and would never do any harm knowingly” and then I’m like maybe I’m worse than most people with ocd because I’m not that kind I can be quite irritable and angry and I feel pretty bad about myself

Username: MessyBrain

Date posted: 32w ago

serious question

i've made so many mistakes in life, big and small, some multiple times. How am i supposed to know if i just have scrupulous and real event ocd or if im just rightfully feeling guilty and ashamed of things i've done wrong? what if having ocd is just an excuse to deflect from the shame i feel and convince myself im not a bad person so i don't have to actually fix myself? i fear this all the time. i cannot stop feeling like im a bad person no matter how many times i tell myself that im doing my best and that its okay to make mistakes and learn from them and it doesn't define me. i don't think im a good person and being complimented on being good in any way triggers me extremely bad. i don't know what's real.

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