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ROCD confessional
how are people dealing with confessional ocd in relationships? hope everyone’s okay and slaying as much as they can ♥️
how are people dealing with confessional ocd in relationships? hope everyone’s okay and slaying as much as they can ♥️
I struggle with this a lot, I go through phases of feeling the overwhelming urge to confess every dark thought or action I’ve ever done to make sure he’ll still love me and chose to stay with me. My ocd convinces me I’m lying to him if he doesn’t know every tiny aspect of my brain, isn’t OCD a joy! 🙄😵💫 I’m sorry I don’t have much advice on dealing with it except remember no one knows everything about each other, you are entitled to your own mental space (if that makes sense)!
@Sophie2115 thankyou! it does make sense it’s just hard to accept it aaaa!!
I also struggle with this, it sucks. I’ve been trying to allow the thoughts to flow without acting on them and it’s hard, but I am choosing to trust my own ability to fix my own problems and deal with my own traumas. Think of it this way, by not confessing, you are making yourself stronger while also not imposing your compulsions on your partner. I am recently in a new relationship and it’s been so hard, but I’ve made it a point to try to only tell her I have OCD and that I am working on it myself, and that’s it. I haven’t always succeeded, but I am learning that as long as I trust myself, I can do this on my own.
I didn’t realise I had ROCD for a long time. I would spend days ruminating about our relationship. I always knew I had POCD or eating OCD etc (thoughts I knew were not true) however when it comes to a relationship it’s hard to know even more? This led to me breaking up and having feelings for him still and being SO confused. Now I know it’s all part of the same disorder. OCD!!!
omg this literally sounds like i wrote this post 😭 im the queen of confession ocd unfortunately. here’s the things keeping me sane: 1. when i feel the urge to confess, i write it out thoroughly on my notes app. sometimes breaking it down makes you realize you don’t have to share it 2. the second i feel a confession thought coming in, or i feel my brain SEARCHING for something to confess, i play word games!! word searches, word puzzles, wordle, spot the difference, etc. it tricks your brain into forgetting to search what you were worrying about. this has really been my saving grace 3. at this point something that helps me is the embarrassment. sometimes after i confess something SO weird like (i watched a show and i was kind of aroused by one of the actors) the way my boyfriend looks and me and responds makes me regret confessing so bad. i’m like wait why on earth would i say that 4. just try your best to wait it out. honestly, i’m still searching for the answer just like you. there’s so many times i want to confess and i literally don’t know if it’s something i need to confess or not. but after time you kinda learn. i’m sorry you’re going through this. we got this i hope you’re slaying too
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
I am in an endless battle to figure things out. I think I figure something out that makes me feel better about my thoughts and then I find something else to prove it wrong and the cycle continues. I have so much discomfort I want to confess to my partner so bad. How do I handle this. I don’t think I’ve ever sat in this much discomfort. Why does it feel THIS BAD.
I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.
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