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ROCD confessional
how are people dealing with confessional ocd in relationships? hope everyone’s okay and slaying as much as they can ♥️
how are people dealing with confessional ocd in relationships? hope everyone’s okay and slaying as much as they can ♥️
I struggle with this a lot, I go through phases of feeling the overwhelming urge to confess every dark thought or action I’ve ever done to make sure he’ll still love me and chose to stay with me. My ocd convinces me I’m lying to him if he doesn’t know every tiny aspect of my brain, isn’t OCD a joy! 🙄😵💫 I’m sorry I don’t have much advice on dealing with it except remember no one knows everything about each other, you are entitled to your own mental space (if that makes sense)!
@Sophie2115 thankyou! it does make sense it’s just hard to accept it aaaa!!
I also struggle with this, it sucks. I’ve been trying to allow the thoughts to flow without acting on them and it’s hard, but I am choosing to trust my own ability to fix my own problems and deal with my own traumas. Think of it this way, by not confessing, you are making yourself stronger while also not imposing your compulsions on your partner. I am recently in a new relationship and it’s been so hard, but I’ve made it a point to try to only tell her I have OCD and that I am working on it myself, and that’s it. I haven’t always succeeded, but I am learning that as long as I trust myself, I can do this on my own.
I didn’t realise I had ROCD for a long time. I would spend days ruminating about our relationship. I always knew I had POCD or eating OCD etc (thoughts I knew were not true) however when it comes to a relationship it’s hard to know even more? This led to me breaking up and having feelings for him still and being SO confused. Now I know it’s all part of the same disorder. OCD!!!
omg this literally sounds like i wrote this post 😭 im the queen of confession ocd unfortunately. here’s the things keeping me sane: 1. when i feel the urge to confess, i write it out thoroughly on my notes app. sometimes breaking it down makes you realize you don’t have to share it 2. the second i feel a confession thought coming in, or i feel my brain SEARCHING for something to confess, i play word games!! word searches, word puzzles, wordle, spot the difference, etc. it tricks your brain into forgetting to search what you were worrying about. this has really been my saving grace 3. at this point something that helps me is the embarrassment. sometimes after i confess something SO weird like (i watched a show and i was kind of aroused by one of the actors) the way my boyfriend looks and me and responds makes me regret confessing so bad. i’m like wait why on earth would i say that 4. just try your best to wait it out. honestly, i’m still searching for the answer just like you. there’s so many times i want to confess and i literally don’t know if it’s something i need to confess or not. but after time you kinda learn. i’m sorry you’re going through this. we got this i hope you’re slaying too
i just realized that my relationship ocd is triggered the second i view someone as a potential partner! i just got the smallest crush on someone and immediately was checking my phone every few minutes for their messages and reading into their responses as either good or bad texts and made some tie to my worth based on how they reply or how quick! uh oh haha. just so many checking and overthinking compulsions. at least i realized this and can now bring it up in therapy to practice RPMs with my therapist!! RPMs are like life savers for my ocd, they help so much :,). i feel happy that i realized it was ocd. i used to think it was just feelings triggered by my ex and how he made me feel for three years. but now i realize it’s ocd and i can work on this which makes me feel better. i’m not sure if it “counts” as rocd but it definitely reminds me of how my rocd acts in a relationship. best of luck and big hugs to anyone who is struggling with rocd too!🎀🧚🏻♀️💗
my people in relationships i have a question! i find a lot of like relationship “concepts” that we see online or just within our culture really trigger me. articles, posts, dialogue, friends pretty much anything saying things things like “outgrowing relationships” “you need to date around extensively to find the one” “you’re too young to be in love or settle down” “things my partner does” pretty much anything about advice or just other people’s situations triggers me at times and makes me question a lot!! i know this means i need more confidence in myself which im working on. i’m doing the work to separate my situation from these and i know it’s working because it feels uncomfortable, but i’m wondering if anyone young and in a relationship navigates this. i also feel like this triggering gets worse when im already anxious. recently my partner and i have been having constant spats bc im hesitant to communicate. i feel like im putting pressure on myself bc i really want this to work out to the point where i feel like idk what to do! it’s funny identifying the tricks ocd is playing on me bc i do recognize the irony here but any advice in coping or just experiences helps!!! mwah mwah happy women’s day!!!!
I have been battling ocd for over a year now and it likes to switch themes. Currently, it’s attacking my relationship with my girlfriend who I’ve been with since I was in high school over 10 years ago. It first began as an intense feeling that I have to leave or break up with her over dumb little things. Then it changed into a lot of guilt for having any thought about another girl. And the worse is feeling this intense guilt for past things I’ve done in the past while in this relationship. We were so young and I was teenager, but I often found myself watching porn, fantasizing about real other people in my life, and getting off to other girls that I may have known. When I was younger I didn’t think it was bad and that it was just a normal teen boy thing, but 10 years later I have so much guilt about it. And yes I’m with the same girl now. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I know I love this girl and I’m ready to propose to her soon. Anyway, these past mistakes I did when I was younger make me feel like a cheater and I can’t stop ruminating about it. I feel like I have to admit every detail and person I’ve ever had a bad thought about. I feel like if I propose to her and don’t tell her everything, that I’m a lair and didn’t give her the full picture. And the other day one of the girls I thought was hot when I was younger, came up in convo and I just went downhill. Now she knows I deal with OCD and she is very supportive, I’ve told her before that I did some bad things, but never all the details. And that’s all my brain keeps telling me to do. I have so much tightness in my chest and just want to be able to breathe again. But everyone says to not admit or it’ll reinforce the cycle, I’m just not sure how everyone else does that. And at the same time, maybe I am a cheater and just simply a bad person. Idk! I never cheated physically or anything like that, but my past mistakes feel like I did. But again I may just be a bad person! Please if anyone has advice or is dealing with similar things, I’d appreciate the help!
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